my son and an older woman had 2 kids together, she was married when she met my son, she has 2 kids from her previous marriage and her father has custody of those 2. I have been raising the 2 she had with my son and they have lived with me for almost 6 yrs. the woman and my son have also lived with me off and on
2006-07-09 05:59:19 · 5 answers · asked by amandajean1286 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my son was only 16 when this 23 yr old married woman met and I don't want or need child support I just don't want the mother of the children to take them. Her an my son got back together for about 6 months and they split up again and now people are telling me she is been talking about taking them and moving them like 6 hrs. away. The children are 2 little girls and I have had them since they were born, my oldest daughter moved back in with me to take care of them while I worked. The kids don't want or need anything. I want them to be part of the kids lives but she tries to talk the kids into moving with her and she told them that me and my husband won't always be here. Now the oldest one complains about her chest hurtung anytime she isn't around me.
2006-07-09 06:20:08 · update #1
The only thing you can do is to hire an attorney.
2006-07-09 06:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by Private Eye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that you don't want to ask the woman to let you have custody. If that's the case, you're going to have to find an attorney, unless you can prove the mother is unfit. Then the child protection agencies in your state might step in and place the children with you as there foster parent. This would be less than ideal though and something I'd do only as a last resort or an emergency measure for the children's safety and well-fare.
The one thing you haven't mentioned here is your motive, or motives, for wanting custody. What in the situation causes you to believe the children would be better in your care, custody, and control?
2006-07-09 13:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by quietwalker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a brave woman. My grandparents got custody of my three nephews by going to a lawyer and filling for custody with the courts. It goes along the same lines as adoption and a custody hearing with divorced parents. They will have to sign over their rights to the kids. It took about a year for my grandparents to go through the process and now my brother has to pay them child support. He still gets to see them when he wants so you don't have to worry about that part if you don't want. It is easier that way when you sign them up for school and go to the doctor and all the other stuff that you need to have legal guardianship for.
2006-07-09 13:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for you what you are doing and you are right, you need custody of the children so you have say over what happens to them. Try contacting the Department of Social Services, or whatever agency your state has for the protection of children and family services... advise them of the situation and tell them that you want custody of the children... it is for their good and safety. They will be able to give you guidance in the situation and even provide counseling and perhaps legal help to get this done.
2006-07-09 14:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by diamondadh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to kick the son and girlfriend to the curb! They should only be allowed to visit the kids. They sound like trash to me.....sorry, I know he's your son.....but I have one like this too. I NEVER let him come home though as he never had a job...........so he's not living off of me!! The kids...different story.
So go to court and file a petition to have legal custody. You will have to get the parents signature to surreneder the children. You also need to get child support from BOTH of the low lifes....and if they don't pay....take them to court.
If you are not sure how to go about this....contact a lawyer.
Good luck Grandmom................the kids need you.
2006-07-09 13:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by Nana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋