I was born a total heterosexual. I had the deepest crush on boys and was so infatuated with them. I would never ever have even considered the thought of being with another girl. Then I was raped and shortly after that I felt my mind forming in an odd direction. I felt the walls of heterosexuality fall down so quietly and gently. I struggled to pull them back up...tugging and pulling but I felt whatever it took to stay hetero just melt away. I started having bi times with other girls and yet still falling for boys at times. All I knew was that I had a huge hole blown in my soul and not of my choosing. it was like the invisible man came and blew it away. What does God think of me ? I want to be hetero 4 ever...I want to be a little girl again...and start over...Will He give me a miracle ? What should I pray ?
2006-07-09 05:48:05 · 9 answers · asked by trinity_loves_neo1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Im not a lesbian..I just have drifted into the bi stuff at times
2006-07-09 05:54:04 · update #1
He taught you that men are not safe.
It's normal to want to go back, but this is one of those times when the only way out is through. Therapy is hard work at times, but it's the way out.
How are things now that you're home from the hospital? Are you still seeing your therapist?
2006-07-12 22:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Contemplative Chanteuse IDK TIRH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Almost every lesbian I have ever known has had some sexual abuse early on, I guess it goes hand in hand. The bible clearly stated homosexuality is a sin, so you know what god thinks of it. He indeed works miricles everyday but I dont know if you indeed need a miricle, just give the matter to him and take it off of yourself and go forward.
2006-07-09 12:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
you are who you are.
you'll have to come to terms with that
there is nothing to be ashamed of.
I think, that when you find a person who you love, be they male or female, and who you want to spend the rest of your life with, that'll finish your transition.
besides that, talk to your friends, your family, and those who advise you... e.g. guidance councilors, preists (if not orthodox), parents and your closest friends. it's their job to help you. that's what friends are for no?
also, if you feel that your relegion can't accept you?
there's nothing wrong with you at all...
and from your question, you're christian no?
I will give my argument for universal acceptance as following:
1) god made you (in some capacity)
2) "and it was good" (genisis)
3) god is omnipotent & omnicient
a) therefore he know's what the heck he's doing
b) he knows that these events will occur
4) it isn't our place to decide who we will accept, as a church, or in any other respect. that's god's job
5) therefore, barring devine intervention, we have no choice but to accept all persons as they come.
if somebody who's chrisitan ever trys to pull that kind of crap on you, you might just want to try that argument.
bible verses will help strengthen it, I don't have any at present, because I am accepted
what's more, what does god have to do with sex.
yes in some relegions ritual... erm... procreation is related to worship.
(example: roman polytheism)
but in christianity, sexual preference is, as it should be, unrelated, to your life through god.
that's my firm beleif.
if you want to argue with me, give me your best shot.
2006-07-09 12:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that you have 2 major road blocks to overcome! One being your terrible experience, the other being the guilt you suffer that is caused by your religious beliefs!
Find a good counselor, and work through these issues and you'll be just fine honey!
Blessed Be...
2006-07-09 12:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by Helzabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect that many homosexuals are that way because of some kind of traumatic event that either they remember or have suppressed.
Some talk about the so-called "gay gene", but this is wishful propaganda by the liberal left agenda. There has not been a "gay gene" found. If there was one to be found, I think they would have found it by now, but they haven't.
2006-07-09 12:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing just fine. You just responding to a large shock. Be patient with yourself. Do you have someone to talk to a regular basis about this?
2006-07-09 12:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are no more a lesbian than before you were violated
i think what happened to you has forced you to reevaluate many things in life - perhaps finding a good counselor may help you in this process and help you find healing.
2006-07-09 13:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blessed are the poor in spirit,for they will be filled
2006-07-09 12:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by dale 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
praying does nothing
2006-07-09 12:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋