I swear, I have the worst luck ever.
My worst fears came true last night. I was at the cinema with this guy, also bisexual, whom I met through his ex-girlfriend. We were in the back row and started kissing halfway through the film. Well, as it turned out, my girl's best friend WAS SEEING THE SAME MOVIE AT THE SAME TIME AS US! What are the odds? And wouldn't you know it, she had to go to the restroom right as we were having our makeout session!
My girl found out about it and left me a nasty message this morning. I am so angry, embarrassed and dejected right now. Had it been another girl that I was caught with, I wouldn't even care. But now my reputation is going to suffer bigtime. And it's not like I make out with guys on the regular. I have only kissed a few in my entire life, and that's it!
I cannot express through words how I feel right about now. I just want to fall off the face of the earth forever. I'm seriously considering moving to another state where I can get a fresh start.
2006-07-09 05:40:47 · 33 answers · asked by Evan a.k.a. His Studliness 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're a little fruitcake, own up to it. Don't try to run and hide from your feelings. What a pansy...
2006-07-09 05:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Big Eric 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could almost feel some sympathy for you...BUT YOU ARE A CHEATER!! It does not make any difference who besides your girlfriend you were kissing! Why do people have to cheat?! Why do you commit to someone THEN do something in public with another person? Do you think your girlfriend is feeling very good about herself right now either? Because I would be willing to bet that she is mad as hell! I have to tell you, that it now appears that you have no other choice but to "come out". In time people will find someone new to talk about...you don't have to do anything desperate, but you do need to apologize to the girl that you cheated on. You also need to talk to your siblings and friends before they hear that you are bi-curious or (bi-sexual) from rumors...And if it's going to be an issue with your parents, then be HONEST, if you were so concerned about your reputation you would not have been mugging it up with a dude in a public theater, so get over it...The damage is done, now be real with people and yourself, and always remember to "wear a glove for your love" (CONDOMS!) If you have ever had unprotected sex, then you should have yourself tested, and use condoms EVERYTIME (even for oral) with females or males. I am not being real nice because you are a cheater, and I know your girlfriend sounds angry but I am pretty sure she is very hurt...I still won't miss a chance to try to save you life, so ALWAYS be careful (for yourself and your partners), and use condoms!
This is not the end of the world, but it may be a little bit rough, just remember to try to be true and real, and do not commit to someone, then cheat! What were you thinking?
Good luck, you can do this.
2006-07-09 06:03:33 · answer #2 · answered by ruthie_msw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused, but what I am understanding is that you are bisexual but have a girlfriend and was just caught cheating on her with a guy. I hope I am correct.
These things happen, but if you are going to cheat on someone, the movies is definitely the worst place on the planet to do it. I cannot tell you how many people I have seen there on dates, many of them with the ones they were NOT supposed to be with.
This is a bad situation for you, but it's no reason to move to another state. Rumors come and go, they get old after a while, but they unfortunately stick. No one really cares in the end, and the people who matter will always be around to care about you and give you a good name in the face of ugly rumors.
As for your relationship, I don't know if it can be mended since you cheated on her. Things probably would have been fine if you had just told her you were bi but since you cheated you may have hurt her feelings and shocked her too much, so don't be surprised if she leaves you.
It sounds like you are too confused and curious about your sexuality to be tied down right now. Before you get in any more serious relationships (unless you two have totally fallen in love) you need to figure out who you want, what you want.
2006-07-09 05:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Brackalicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you win! Although you dug your own hole by seeing someone else on the side when you have a girlfriend. Regardless of the gender of the person you were seeing, it's still wrong to cheat. I think you're more upset that you were seen kissing a guy than the fact that your girlfriend is hurt. That is a pretty shallow and selfish perspective there. It sounds to me like you need to do some serious self evaluation on what you want out of life and from whom.
2006-07-09 05:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this...
My husband and I were really bad w/ cars--they just kept breaking down on us. So we figured we'd take out a loan, have my grandma cosign, so that we could get the loan w/ out collateral. We got a new car, and six months later it spontaniously combusted. In the bank parking lot where my husband goes to pay the loan payment. We had no insurance. We still have to pay the loan. Talk about bad luck?
Feel better, it will pass. Don't do anything rash. I had an ex, and I found out he was bi, it didn't change anything. If they truly are your friends, they won't care, because you are still you. Don't worry too much.
2006-07-09 05:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have the worst luck...you just chose an innapropriate setting to do this in. Luck didn't have anything to do with it. When you go to a movie it is a public showing for everyone who wants to pay to get in. Unfortunately you and the male in question apparently gave more of a show. Sorry for what happened? But you were the one who chose to do what you did and now have to deal with the repercussions...
2006-07-09 05:45:18 · answer #6 · answered by *Monica* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to Mr. GQ, "Chick Magnet", the Stud himself? Looks like your fantasies finally came true, eh, Ev? Why don't you also come out in public that you are still living with yo momma and you live in the basement, wearing big thick glasses and you have thinning hair?
2006-07-09 15:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by skooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
i think everything that happens in this world has it's own time to happen.dont worry about this so much that you will not be able to deal with your missions.if she still love you she will come back.this can not chase her away from you.just keep on waiting.if she wont come back,then you are very lucky because she might have solved some of your problems.you will get someone which god has made for you.
relax and take it easy,because good things are still coming in your way.
2006-07-09 05:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha that seriously sucks for you... but man if ure not about to come out of the closet or something dont kiss some other guy thats just stupid... also ure a jackass for treating ure gf like that...regardless of if her best friend saw or not... u deserve all the crap you get from living where you do right now... hopefully then ull understand just what u did rong.
2006-07-09 05:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by XitachiX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok puzzled as to bf 3, if he raped then you definately how the heck did he get a danger to cheat on you. in aspects feels like you sense lonely and for this reason entice the kind of guy who in ordinary words needs to feed of your self negativaty . provide up on boys for somewhat, come across the fashion to love who you're an once you do others will commence to persist with an then u ought to discover someone who isnt a bottom feeder
2016-11-01 12:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not bad luck Mon Ami that's bad choices coming back to haunt you... If ya had a girlfriend you should have told her before you did anything with anyone else and as for your reputation ... who cares if it takes a hit in the long wrong your rep in school matters little in life
2006-07-09 05:45:31 · answer #11 · answered by vicolstravnos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋