well im 16 an im gay (i mean id sleep with a bloke to become pregnant.) i got regnat when i was 14 but lost it an ever since wanted a baby. I have no idea how to go about this. i thought about adoption but you have to be 21. an i want to have kids before im 20. How do i go about getting pregnant?any ideas?
many thanks
2006-07-09 05:36:39 · 35 answers · asked by joy m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You really should wait. Seriously. I don't even have to know you personally to say that, and it doesn't have anything to do with your sexual orientation. Finish school and start yourself a good, solid career so you'll be able to provide for your child or children, and give them a secure future.
2006-07-09 05:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by SurfinOnDryLand 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
listen hunnie you dont want to have kids write now u r only 16 and when u turn 21 u will want those party years it would be best if u wait because if u have a baby at this age u wont be able to take care of it u will need ur own space for u and the baby u will need money here let me show u how much it can cost
crib-$100-$400
clothes-$200[for like the first cupole of months then u have to go by more]
dipers-$100 every 2 weeks
carseat-$75
stroller-$100
toys-$50
formula-$50 a week
boldels-$30
binkys-$25
as u see this is not even half the stuff u will need u need to think long and hard about this and remember if u have a bay and dont have enough money to take care of it then it will be taken away or wores u have to think of the baby and not just what u want
2006-07-09 06:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by butterflykisses01247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely think twice about getting pregnant again. Maybe you don't want to hear all this about you being too young, but believe me, you ARE too young.
Children are wonderful, but raising a child is hard work, takes a lot of commitment, and will severely limit you doing other things with your life (education, earning, socialising). There's all the things the baby will need. Plus to cope you need a good solid support network in place - either a partner or good friends and family.
Give yourself the time to learn more of life & grow up, and then when you do have children you'll be even better able to care for them and give them the best start possible. That's why the adoption agencies will only consider over 21s - they have to consider the best interests of the children, (who, by the way, may have had a bad time in their birth families.)
It's awful for you that you lost your first baby. It's entirely natural that you are still grieving for them. If you haven't already, maybe consider help like counselling, to help you with getting through it and coming to terms with it.
When you are older and ready to try again, research the options carefully. There are several books around that give pregnancy & conception advice for lesbians. But please don't sleep with some random bloke solely to get pregnant. Think about the best interests of the baby. Choose a great person who you like and respect and who goes into the donor process with eyes open and who positively wants to help you have a baby, and think about things like how much you want the father to be involved with the child.
2006-07-09 06:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by ohwir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got pregnant at 14, apparently you know how to do it. Why the question? Anyway, I agree with the others wait until you are 18. Children are more expensive then you think. I'm not just talking diapers and milk. Think daycare, housing (One bedrooms are cheaper than two), reliable transportation....
I love my child but life would be easier if I was just taking care of myself. I'd need a job making at least $18 per hour to take care of us. You didn't mention if you had a partner. This does help.
Unless you're going to be on of those deadbeat parents who makes the grandparents care for your children, I wouldn't suggest you have one yet. If you're not old enough to get an apartment on your own, you're not old enough to raise a child (no matter how ready your body is)
2006-07-09 05:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it. Wait.
Anyone on here suggesting that you should go ahead and do it is irresponsible and stupid.
Being gay is not relevant except that it may be difficult to go through the sperm bank etc if you are young, unemployed, and not married).
The best bet would be to speak to a doctor or counsellor and ask them about it. If you ask anyone who is not a professional they will give you biased advice.
Good luck, but be smart. You write well, and you could have a great future with children. Just picture the future. Do you want trailer baby or well clothed and fed baby?
2006-07-16 01:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jeremy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT. I repeat WAIT to have a baby until you are financially stable on your own. Meaning you dont live with your parents and you have a steady job you like that pays well. Then have a baby. If you have a career that gives you enough money then you can get artificially inseminated later (with sperm from a sperm bank). Dont sleep with random guys because you could get an STD and because you dont want some guy fighting for custody (which he would have the right to do).
2006-07-09 06:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby is not a puppy, a goldfish, or any other type of pet. It is a real human life. It is a crushing responsibility that lasts about 20 years.
Grow up, finish your education, get a job, establish your own home, get some money in the bank, and then decide if you want to start a family or not.
2006-07-09 05:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by zen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought having a baby at 16 was a good idea. I was wrong. I dropped out of school, got married, and worked dead end jobs. I'm one of the lucky ones my husband stuck by me. It hasn't been a walk in the park. At the age of 21, after the birth of our second child we had to file bankruptcy. We have struggled year in and year out. Moral of the story...get your priorities in order before you start a family. Finish school, go to college, start a career. Have fun, live your life then...think about settling down with a family and babies. If you have a need to nurture a baby, volunteer at a local hospital or get a job at a childcare center.
2006-07-09 06:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a 23 yr old gay male and wouldnt think of having children lol, but to each his own. i personally think u should wait until ur AT LEAST 18 YEARS old.. Depending on ur state most sperm bank wont give lesbians *live* sperm, u can only have frozen, which doesnt work as well... And they prob. wont give that to u until ur 18 either.. So i would make an arrangment with a guy or just go have lots of one night stands.. i think that would be ur best shot.. good luck!!!
2006-07-09 05:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know how to go about getting a baby what are you going to do when you have one??? You are 16, you just reached the age to drive and you are going to use that to drive yourself to clinic every week??? You need to live a little and give yourself time to grow up, or you will HAVE to grow up when baby comes. Please just consider this, you may not follow my advice but at least think about it...hold off for awhile, let your body mature alittle more, you need to mature more as well. This is the age when you should be finding ways to sneak to a party not carrying around a diaper bag.
2006-07-09 06:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could always get your parents to help u adopt but im sure they r being like u r not going to have a baby but if not get them to help or if u have a older friend then get them to adopt one for u or u could just find a guy but dont find the uglyist guy in the world just find one that u think u wont your baby to look like somtimes it works that way somtimes it dont but i hope u r able to get a baby because it is good to know that there is some people out here that wont a baby and that they wont to take care of it and not use it to get money
2006-07-09 05:53:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋