I live in the US, he's in Australia. He says we should just be friends because it will never work with the distance. But I can't stop thinking about the boy and think I would feel worse never having given it a go.
2006-07-09 05:25:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just go with what he says and be friends for now. Let things take their course.
2006-07-09 05:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I'm in pretty much the same situation my boyfriend lives in New Zealand and I'm in the states. I was there studying abroad and we fell in love, we tried to break up and just stay friends and after four months we couldn't get over each other so I decided to move over there. I think this sort of thing is very difficult and almost impossible if you don't have a date set for when you will see each other again. I'd recommend staying friends and just letting him know that you still care for him... My boyfriend and I didn't stay monogoumous while we were together which I think took the stress off the distance by allowing us to date other people even though we didn't really date anyone else... hrm give it some time and remember that if he doesn't want to stay together maybe he just isn't ready for something that serious.
2006-07-09 12:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by psychogirl202 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least give it a try before you categorize it as doomed. It is better to regret something you did than something you didn't do. At least meet up once and spend some time together then you can take it from there. You don't have the language barrier, which is a great plus compared to other 'international' relationships.
We are in the 21st century! Distance is not such a big deal anymore. And I hear Australia is a great place to live in.
Good luck!
2006-07-09 12:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Ambra_ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's doomed from the get go. However, I do think it's doomed because he is telling you up front that he wants to just be friends. He's using the distance as an excuse. If he wanted a committed relationship then the distance wouldn't matter and he would assist you in finding a way around it.
You have given it a go... he's just not reciprocating.
2006-07-09 12:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by Muffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually met my fiance online but we where friends for years before we even thought to date. So no online relationships arent always doomed but if the boy says that he just wants to be friends there may be more reasons for him saying that then just the distance. It's probally a good idea not to push a relationship with him right now, if it's meant to be it will happen.
2006-07-09 12:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right about the distance. You think that you like im so much because you can fantasize about being with him without actually having to be with him? Maybe you're just not ready for a real physical relationship yet.
2006-07-09 12:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by symetry48228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jessica...if you two really in love with each other...there should be a price to pay. Don't give up easily and try to see if he worth it! I think if he's really into you, flying half way around the world is not a big thing to do!
2006-07-09 12:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by belle_chocolatiere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in a long distance relationship and the best way to keep it alive is to keep the communication going in almost every possible way- email, chat, webcam, phone calls, snail mail... and if both of you are decided to being together make ways to be able to see each other...save money!!!
But in your case, he wanta you guys to stay as friend but doesn't want to keep the relationship going, just shows how weak a person he is, or how weak his feelings are for you..
2006-07-09 12:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by joe m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all but these kind of relationships take a lot of patience, trust and time. In your case he's already indicated his thoughts and I would guess he's not willing to go through all the changes it would take for a long term relationship to take place.
2006-07-09 12:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If both parties are determined to make it work, it will. The world is a lot smaller now and immigration is easier and more affordable.
Someone is going to have to give and move, eventually
2006-07-09 12:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋