Way to go girl. Sure your children would understand when they are old enough. If you two love each other then race shouldnt be a problem. Infact you will have smarter kids who will understand both black and white and hence will help bridge the distance between the two communities. New studies show that children from interracial couples have lesser chances of inheriting genetic disorders than the once born with same race parents. Go for it girl. Best of luck.
2006-07-09 05:26:58
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answered by ash_m_79 6
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sweetie this day in age race, no matter what it is, will cause some kind of issues. being an interracial child will give u no more or less problems than a child who is not mixed race. u shouldnt not consider having children just bc of ur background. as long as u and ur future husband raise ur kids w/ love and show them that people are all the same, they will be ok. but u should also let them know that the world can be a cruel place and that not everyone is as tolerant as they are. let them know there will be some ignorant people in this world.u have to prepare them for that fact. the sad part about this there has been interracial children born for hundreds of years, yet the world still cant accept it. good luck and god bless
2006-07-09 12:55:56
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answered by the_kid_doesnt_care 5
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My best friend has two mixed children from a first marriage. They are both grown. She loves them and the two children her ex had before he married her. And the kids come to her and ignore the father. The father was from Liberia and he is not well liked because of his many affairs. All four kids come to my girlfriend because they consider her a great mother.
My point is, if you love each other, you will love the kids. They may have some problems being mixed but a lot less so than 20 years ago.
Congratulations on your marriage. Trust your heart. And be there for the kids that follow.
2006-07-09 12:29:51
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answered by redunicorn 7
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I have 2 of them. And even though you don't have children because they will look a certain way.....raising my 2 bi-racial children was difficult.
It was not so bad when they were little: everyone called them cute, I guess because they were real pretty children. However, the problems came when they became older.
My daughter fared ok, she did not turn out to be as angry as my son. Both of the children told me that I had no idea what it meant like to be rejected by both peers. The whites didn't want them because they were black, the black kids didn't want them because they were "only" half black. The rejection went on throughout their teenage years and only now are both of them getting calmer about it. In a sense have both seen the worst of rejection. My son became a terrible daredevil just to prove to anyone that he would fit into their group, my daughter resorted to reading and not going much of anywhere.
I still believe that I had done the right thing, and having to turn the time back I would do it all over again. There is absolutely no true love unless one can accept another wholeheartedly. Do not be discouraged.
When my son was a small child I learned who implements racism. Another mother told her son that he couldn't play with *******(my son). Realize that a lot of people do act as if they do not care, but they are scared to openly take the side of African-Americans for fear of losing their status in society. If you can afford it, then I would say leave the United States and go to Canada or Europe. There might be some discrimination in the beginning there, but it is not as pervasive as it is in the U.S. and often more out of political reasons. But children of interracial couples I believe, would have a much better chance to be accepted then over here--sadly.
Overall, raising bi-racial children is no different then raising children of one's own race. But you do need to look out for obstacles and pitfalls, especially in these schools where there is a tendency to deny black children the same type of positive encouragement given to white children. I took that part over as a parent and succeeded, so can you......Good Luck
2006-07-09 12:42:28
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answered by MARIANNE G 4
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This is so common now. 50% of my friends have bi-racial children. Those are some cute babies too! By the time your kids are old enough to understand, they will not be alone. Just keep on loving each other & make your kids have a sense of pride about who they are & that their parents are still together. That is going to be the only thing that stands them apart from their peers. Divorce is too common. Do what works best for you both & don't worry about what other people think. There will be critics, but who are they to judge? Best of luck to you both!
2006-07-09 12:29:18
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answered by Anonymous
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I am white, and my husband is black. We have a son and a daughter, both grown and out of the house. You just have to have a lot of love in the family, and don't be afraid to talk about how they may be different from their friends, but when you have a loving personality it all works out. Our kids had a very happy childhood. If your kids hear you talk about predjudice then they will too. Every kid goes through some teasing or whatever, but its the parents attitude that will catch on to the child. Good luck! I wish you a life time of happiness!
2006-07-09 12:30:33
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answered by dee r 2
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It's a valid concern.
I'm not saying it's RIGHT... but... what is, well... IS.
Your child will carry the extra stigma of being Bi-RACIAL.
They will be NOT BLACK enough... to a BLACK PERSON...
And NOT WHITE ENOUGH to a WHITE PERSON.
And some people (and yes I know it is CLEARLY THEIR PROBLEM) will still have a problem with "polluting their race".
I'm not saying it's pretty... but it's certainly TRUE. I've overheard so many things... at restaurants, where the COUPLE and CHILD (thankfully) couldn't hear. And the "dishers" of this "DIRT" have been BLACK, and WHITE, and even ORIENTAL.
If you ever get a chance... to catch the "CLINT HOLMES" show (His dad was black and his mom white)... you will both inspired and discouraged by his story. Hopefully... people will continue to become more enlightened. But, realistically, your perspective child may be in for a ROUGH RIDE.
Good luck to you both, or all 3 of you.
2006-07-09 12:25:10
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answered by Anonymous
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Come on, we live in 2006. If you live somewhere where you are being hasseled then move to a more progressive city; New York, San Francisco, Chicago and so on. There are still many parts of this country that are backwards. Don't put your children through that. Actually, I believe that San Francisco has one of the largest percentage of inter-racial Americans.
2006-07-09 12:24:31
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answered by evercyn 2
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There are mixed kids all over the place, in the end whether white or black or of us face some prejudices and stereotypes. After four years I believe you relationship is strong enough to survive. You will tell your kids when time comes.
Good luck and hold on
regards
2006-07-09 12:21:19
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answered by Anonymous
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I don't have any mixed children but I do have several mixed cousins and I don't really have a problem with it. From my own personal experience, mixed children don't respect their white mothers! They seem to resent them. I don't know why but this is what I have noticed. I have had several mixed friends that disrespected their white mothers every chance that they got. They would call their mother's bitches (to their face) and some of them would even hit their mothers! It was mostly teenage girls that would do this. One girl turned up dead at 19 (she smoked crack and tricked) and another got emancipated from her parents at 16. Some of them became teenage mothers and some of them were good but they just hated their mothers. If you and your fiance don't get divorced the disrespect shouldn't be that bad, they seem to really disrespect the SINGLE white mothers. I wish you luck! True love can overcome ANYTHING!!!!
2006-07-09 12:35:16
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answered by meme1972 2
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