She will pee in the potty every time but when it comes to having bowel movements she refuses to go. We have tried everything we could possibly think of. Any tips would be great. We are desperate!
2006-07-09 05:06:20 · 14 answers · asked by shorty 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
when my youngest was potty training,we had the same problem.It wasn't so much that he was "refusing" to BM in the potty as it was he got so nervous and tensed up,which made it difficult and then next to impossible.My Mom suggested buying a potty training book. I did that and we would look at the book together as I read to him( while he was on the potty) after about the 3rd time we got lucky!The reading and looking at the pictures totally relaxed him.The next problem came with "flushing" it away! He did not want it to go away.I called Mom again,she said to let him help and to start by when he tinkled let him flush and tell it bye bye.So here we are reading,looking at pics and pooping,And to my surprise,he was so thrilled at being able to flush it.He was actually anxious to go poo poo.We never had any problems after that! Be sure to make a big deal of being able to flush the toilet then she won't concentrate so much on the BM
OH MY GOODNESS!! I just read the two answers before mine.I surely hope you don't take the advice of letting your daughter sit in the poop.She could get an infection.
And the cold shower thing,what kind of parent would do such a thing to their child?
(It might have mad potty training successful but I would surely be concerned with the effect that sort of treatment has on those children later in life!)
2006-07-09 07:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I started out by buying a simple white potty that looked the closest to a regular toilet. No bells n' whistles. Then I got her the "Feel N Learn" pull-ups which are great because when they are wet, they feel wet to the child. Then we had a "sticker" program. I would put her potty in front of the toilet and we would both go potty together. Every time she was successful, she got a sticker that she placed on the bathroom cupboard beside her potty chair. That way she was able to see the rewards of her efforts. And I also made a big effort to praise her really dramatically! Then we'd both empty her potty into the toilet and wave and say "bye-bye peepees/poopoos, thanks for coming out!" She'd sometimes just sit on the chair and "pretend" to potty just so she'd get a sticker! But she quickly figured out that she needed to produce visible results... It took about 2 months. Then I took her shopping and let her pick out her own underwear (Dora). She was so happy to wear them and very, very proud. She had a few accidents but I never made a big deal out of them to her. It got tricky when we went out because it's important that as soon as said she had to potty, we had to pull over right away. I was sure NOT to fall back on the pullups just because we were out. It just prolongs the process. She was able to wear underwear during the day and a pullup at night. Then, eventually she lost the nightime pullup and I woke her at 2am and took her to the potty - every night for about a week. And then that was that.
Every child is different tho - the key is to make a big fuss when they go and not make a fuss if they don't. Good luck with it.
2006-07-10 21:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by turtlewoman2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably going to sound bad, but it works all the time with females. If she had bowel movements, and it's not in the potty, make her sit in it for a few minutes every time. She won't like the feel of it, and it will make her see why we use the bathroom instead of our pants. Females are not like men, they don't like the feel of things there that aren't supposed to be.
2006-07-09 06:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by angelchild688 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "Big Job" is the hardest to learn. A lot of kids go the same time everyday.... after supper, or whatever. Get them to sit on the potty and have a glass of chocolate milk, or anything else relaxing, and soon they will feel comfortable enough to go. There is also a book called "Everybody Poops" but I don't know who the author is. Good luck!
2006-07-09 05:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by dee r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son had been going poop on the potty since he was about 2 1/2- the way we got him to go... cold shower method. It was incredibly mean, but very effective. We warned him with a stern talking to that if he continued to poop in his pants we would have to wash him off in the shower wuith cold water, because that's the only way we can get the big boy poopies off. So when he did it, we used the detachable shower head and sprayed his butt with cold water. I think it took about 3 or 4 times before he pooped in the potty EVERY time!
2006-07-09 06:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. i don't have a 3 year old but i can tell you what my sis did with her kids. she would bring them in the bathroom when she had to go and the kids would watch her. and she would make such a big deal of being a big girl and being able to go on her own. pretty soon, my neice wanted to be like mommy and went to the bathroom on her own. over praise her when she pees so when she does a #2, she will anticipate high praisal. also, for her first time, try taking her to her favorite place as a reward. good luck!
2006-07-09 05:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by mommy2bnov9th2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the potty training process with my 2 1/2 year old girl. I know this sounds gross but I've been putting her excraments in her potty chair to let her know that's where it goes. And then I flush it down the toilet and say bye to it. I don't know if it's working just yet, but she is being a little more cooperative with it!
2006-07-09 10:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by Caffiene Junkie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not like water splashing on her butt when it plops in. Try putting some toilet paper over the water when she poops on the toilet, so the water wont splash. OH, and be sure to give a HUGE REWARD when she poops in the toilet.
Best wishes!
2006-07-09 05:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mm my 2 year old sis we r trying to get her to use the bath room and everytime she dose we will be like aww i am so proud of u and then keep some cany somwhere and when they use the bathroom and be sure that they realy use it then give them candy for doing a good job
2006-07-09 05:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must ask her about every 20 to 30 min. if she has to go. whether you feel like it or not, ask her then take her to the bathroom, sometimes you might have to sit there with her to, and just sit for a while sometimes it takes them time to do there business.
2006-07-09 05:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋