2006-07-09 04:56:44 · 34 answers · asked by ice queen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why is dating so hard for single mums?
2006-07-09 05:03:05 · update #1
I can only guess that it's due to a lack of willingness to accept responsibility for a ready made family due to either they aren't ready for children or they're simply to selfish to be involved with a woman who has children already. In either case it's my opinion a lot of men miss out on great opportunities at both true love from both a woman and children. Their loss, not yours.
2006-07-09 05:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the question. Can you add a bit of details to make it clear what you are asking?
If you mean why do men leave when a woman gets pregnant, they all don't do that, only the scumbags. This brings to mind what my mom told me (and I am soooooooo glad I listened to her) - don't give the milk away for free as then the man will not buy the entire cow. If you wait to have sex until you are both committed to each other and have gone through the steps to commit to that, there would not be any problems when the woman does get pregnant, as there is already an established family unit. If a person is willing to have sex, that person has to be aware that pregnancy can and often does occur despite birth control - none is 100% effective. I hope he either comes back to you for the baby's sake, or that he at least is there for the baby after it is born - or gives you some kind of support. Best wishes.
Ah, okay, now that you have added that part about dating and single women, if you are honest up front about having a child or children, the man will not be so shocked that you held this fact back. Some men handle having other men's children in their life very well. My nephew married a woman who had three boys (12, 9 and 8), my brother married a woman with a daughter (5) and he already had a son (11) and daughter (14) from a previous marriage, my daughter's brother-in-law married a woman with a son (10), my cousin married a woman after dating her from the time she was 6 months pregnant (the bio father left her for some other woman when she became pregant) and they got married when the baby was 4 months old and he adopted the child with the other man's consent, several friends married people with children, it happens all the time. Don't diss all men just because some are ignorant fools!
2006-07-09 04:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-21 05:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a lot of men a single woman with child is used goods. Being a single mum means your chances drop by 70%.
Sure they'll have sex with you, but the chances of you finding a long term decent guy are quite slim, after all guys have the choice of so many single women to start their own families with. A lot of women blame men for not wanting to take on the responsibility of another mans child.
I mean after all why should they?
2006-07-09 07:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by NightRider 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way that I see it is that having children shouldn't pose a problem if the person that you are dating is mature enough to accept that.
The people that are running are obviously still immature and don't realise that in todays world we can have a life before and after kids.
Personally, I have dated several woman with children and have found that to be a very enriching experience.
Wishing you the best of luck in finding a real Man!!
2006-07-09 05:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by Hotnbothered 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are just a variable in the equation. With children, there is going to be a dad somewhere, with a dad somewhere there is going to be a set of grand-parents somewhere. All are going to battling with over time, attention, rearing of the children, ect....this all adds to the stress of relationships that are difficult enough as it is. Personally for me ( and I've dating women with children) I tend to bail out of the relationship quicker than I normally would have because I don't want to end up letting the kids get too attached and hurting them. If it were just the woman I may have tried to hang around and try to work the relationship out. But children don't understand all the dynamics of a relationship, all they know is this guy is still around and they end of getting attached. Hope that makes since.
2006-07-09 05:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't want to be lumbered with somebody elses kids. - EASY. Look to nature and what lions do when they take over a pride. It's just the human version of it although it doesn't apply to everyone.
'Guelph' is on the right wave-length so it is a mistake to put the human race above nature. We are only a part of it.
Your question should really be 'How do single mums go about finding and dating the right guy'?
2006-07-09 05:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
becoz the blokes concerned are just Boys whose hormones arent matured enough and are afraid of any commitment that may arise.
Men on the other hand wont run a mile coz they see these women with kids as strings with no attachment.
In both cases, Boys and Men use women as an instrument to serve their individual needs....selfishly....
2006-07-09 05:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by DiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because if they are single, they haven't been ready yet to commit to a woman to start a family of their own. getting into a relationship with a woman who has children already is too big of a step for most men...almost like skipping a step. that's the point they are at in their lives. it doesn't mean they are bad people, they just have different priorities.
the good news is that not all men are going to run...just keeping looking until you find that special someone who is prepared to take on the commitment.
2006-07-09 05:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by kogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never had that problem to be honest, my son is 16 his dad left us when he was 3 (never saw him again). I was never short of offers if ever i went out with my friends and spoke to any guys they always knew upfront that i was a single parent and it never bothered them. Although i did choose to be on my own for nearly 8 years. I just needed to find out who i was first before anyone else got to know me. I am now married no more children though and i am happy. Dont worry when you meet the right guy he most certainly wont run a mile. Good luck honey x x x x
2006-07-09 05:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by princess tinkle UK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋