why do parents chose to give up on their kids when they cant deal with them?

Answer 1

i think they do it because they think there child deserves better than what they can give them but personally I would never do it

Answer 2

maybe your questions should include why are kids when they see that there parents are at the end of the rope not giving the parents a little slack and meeting them half way. Parenting isn't easy and I think for many parents there wasn't an instruction manual like when you buy a new product. I believe that for some the child gets to a certain age and the parents are just looking forward to when they are "ADULTS" and gone. I guess they have forgotten what there parents went through with them and just don't have the guts to buck up and be there best friends. Its a life long commitment to have children and hopefully the kids will see what it takes and remember and not make the same mistakes that there parents did when they have kids. I sure remember and I haven't given up. I got great kids and we get along and have a great time. Course maybe its because I haven't totally grown up myself....LOL.

Answer 3

Some kids need to be given up on so that they can be dealt with in other means. I work in a group home and some kids just get way out of hand and then the state has to take over as their guardians and they either end up in jail or in places like where I work. Some parents should not give up on them but there are alot that really need to give up on their children and don't the reason they should give on them is so that they get it through their head that what they are doing is wrong and they need to change or they will end up some where worse and once they change their parents should come back for them.

Answer 4

Being a parent I do not believe this at all! Sometimes a parent will step back and give a child their own space to try and work things out for themselves, or wait for their child to ask so that they are not blamed for trying to run their lives!

But giving up on them NEVER! As a parent you're not given a hand book on how to raise a child and encounter many obstacles along the way. Sometimes you need the space yourself to try and figure out what you think is the best course of action.

Ask any parent and they will tell you that they would give their life for their child if it was necessary. You are obviously the child and not the parent in this case. If you want help talk to your parents, there is no way that they have given up on you. They may forget to tell you or show it, but they love you and will always be there for you.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with that as long as the kids go to a good home. Sometimes people can't afford kids or cant handle the stress of a baby/kids. Giving a child up for adoption does not make the parents bad people.

Answer 6

I believe some people are not mature enough to raise kids, let alone take care of plants or pets. I have 2 teen daughters, and I am divorced. It is very challenging to raise kids, and there are times I wanted to send them to boarding school or just leave the country and not come back for a long time!!!!!

But seriously it takes more time and patience than some people can give. Therapy can be very helpful for those who can admit there is a problem and they need help.

Answer 7

Often it is because that is how their parents dealt with them as children. The only way a child knows to deal with events is through experience. The greatest experience is how they were treated. If they were abandoned, either emotionally or physically that can be the way they treat their children. Under stress, they just don't have the ability to be the people they wanted to be. It takes a lot of patience and active effort to really listen to what someone is saying. It ofttimes is easier to simply shut down.

Unfortunately, often the molested molest, the beaten beat and the abused abuse.

Answer 8

I was 19 when I had my first child. I simply couldn't deal with it. I didn't bond with him and I've felt bad about that ever since. My mother essentially raised him even though I was somewhat involved. He's 23 now and while our relationship is still somewhat strained, it's certainly better because he understands why I chose to do it that way. My mother gave him the only stable thing in his life. By the way, even though the thought of the "alternative" makes me sick NOW, it wasn't an option then. My mother wouldn't allow an abortion!

Answer 9

These are not parents they are persons that had children. there is a big deference. the most important job is parenting and some can't cut it. I have raised four so far with one left to go, and to cut this answer short the parents were or are lazy, and have earned most of what they get. As to children in general you don't ever give up, not ever! life is a matter of choice's , Choose wisely! good luck Rod

Answer 10

Parents rather give up therir kids before they hurt them real bad or even try to kill them.I have a 16 yr old son who won't listen,or go to school and sometimes don't come home.I am trying to get him sent some where.If I hit him and he hits me back I may snap and something very bad will happen to him.So for parents to stay out of jail they get the child or kids out of their house.

Answer 11

because its easier, and many generations ago parents started teaching their kids to do whatever made them happy.

Its selfishness. Instead of doing everything you can in your life for the sake of the child they just give up because its easier than finding an answer.

sometimes its as easy as asking someone older for help.