There's this guy that I like, would like to date &I told him so. But since he just got out of a bad relationship(about 3 weeks back)he said he's not ready to get into another one right now n needs some space and time. I said ok..i'd wait. After that I have been just a friend to him and been really nice and understanding with him. Today, I showed him some pics of my friends and he looked interested in 2 of them. I asked him if he would like me to find out if they are single (dont know why I said that).. he suddenly got really excited and said yes! and asked me to get their phone numbers too. Now I feel really bad. he says he's not ready to get into anything now and then he gets all excited and eager with these girls. The least he can do for me is say no to me and then ask me for my friends' details... right? Also, over the past few days, I've noticed he looks at me 4 longer time and his voice is sometimes softer when he talks to me. What's happening?? Please help.PS: I'm 25 n he's 30
2006-07-09 03:46:51 · 13 answers · asked by Orchid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Recently, he has been more free with me too.. like he touches me on my shoulder and back and once he grabbed my waist and tickled me (dont know if he was doing that playfully or was just looking for a way to touch me there). Sometimes he shares stuff about himself with me. Why is he doing all this to me(knowing my feelings for him), and then instantly getting interested in someone he doesnt even know? I've lost a bit of trust in him. What do you think about the whole situation?
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Thanks
2006-07-09 03:48:22 · update #1
The sad truth is that he is just not that into you. Move on.
2006-07-09 04:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by Engineer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya messed up re: the photo thing, what were you thinking? Otherwise, he may not be ready to be in a relationship right now...that doesn't mean he isn't interested in being around women or even casually dating. Three weeks isn't all that long to get over a relationship that ended badly so give him some time...
Of course, it also may be that he's simply not interested in you that way, and the "I'm not ready" was his way of trying not to hurt you or cause himself to be uncomfortable (it's not easy to tell someone ya just don't like them "like that").
Time will tell...continue being his friend...stop offering to hook him up with other women, because if ya do that you've no right to be upset if he goes for it...YOU offered to find out if these chicks were single...why would he think you were all that interested in him if you appear to be trying to set him up with other women?
Think about it...
2006-07-09 03:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally....I think you need to back up and take a good hard look....1) your chasing him...stop...2) you've now given him the chance to use you because you've told him how you feel....(don't take offense guys, but you know this as well as I do..and some men are jerks and will take advantage of this), 3) Stop reading stuff into the little things...I know this hurts...been there done that...and you need to find yourself respect..and don't go to him, he's already walked on you feelings...because a gentleman would not ask you for your friends numbers... pick yourself up and dust yourself off and go on...when you stop looking for a guy..he will show up when you least expect it....I wish you the best of luck and hope this helps
2006-07-09 04:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by no clue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am 23
so he does all those things u say uh hmmm
well he definatly likes u
but y u keep testing him by showing him ur friends pics and tell him and can get u there no. u dummy
let me tell u wht is going on in his mind
he touches u coz he likes u u give him the cozzy feeling but when u show him ur friends pic just as being playfull nature of man to tease u and all he says wow she is hot can u get me her no.
first thing wht u did wrong was envolving a third person in ur case its the pic of ur frineds when u gals going to learn stop testing us guys
the next time he acts naughty looking at other gal just slap him or punch him on a shoulder and tell him stop looking at other gals
he will love u feeling insecure he may tease u abit more but then he will come around
gals just lose hope so quick try this the next time u see him wht u got to lose and tell me how it went.
i may be able to help u future
2006-07-09 04:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by ghost13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe as you've been supportive to him he just see's you has a friend rather than a potential girlfriend,you'll just have to give him some time he might want to have a little fun to get over his previous relationship and as you've been good to him he might think more of you than just to use you as a go between,dont be pushy just give it a little time.
2006-07-09 03:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that guy is not into you, if him feels able to asking you your friends telephone number. I think him is a busted and him uses you only for having sex.
Please go a head, don´t get heart and... Next
I´m 29 years old
Cheers
2006-07-09 03:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by anais 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi- I'm 24 and maybe he does like you and does not know how to express it. Approach him again and tell him hoe you feel about him and also about him saying that he was interested in your friends when he knew how you felt about him. when he is tickling you and touching your shoulder it means that he is subconsciously flirting with you, flirt back.
2006-07-09 03:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by BigDaddy82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 22.. hubby's 27.. we both think he's not really into a commited relationship at this time, but he is wanting to get laid.. so set your boundaries and move forth with whatever you want to do.
2006-07-09 03:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he likes you. about the other girl, maybe he ask for the details for his friend that have a crush on the girl. he's just trying to help his friend perhaps.... by the way, i'm 14. i don't blame you if you think this answer is crazy talk...
2006-07-09 03:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by Honey Gee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 06:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like he just wants to have fun with no commitment right now.
2006-07-09 03:50:46 · answer #11 · answered by ouwx104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋