You are right you shouldn't be baby sitting your niece everyday. You are a child yourself and it's important for you to be able to spend time with friends It's time your sister is going to take her responsibility and that she is going to take care of her daughter or that she hires someone who is capable of taking care of her daughter. She is making things very easy on herself and very difficult for you. You have no way to turn if she leaves you in care for her little girl. You can't leave this little child alone because if something happens you will be stuck with the feelings of guilt. This just isn't right your sister should know that she cannot leave her child into the care of another child all the time. She and only she is responsible for the well being of her child. Is there someone you can talk to about the situation you are into, that can talk to your sister and explain to her that what she is doing is wrong and is in fact child neglect? If there is not, you might consider to go and talk to a social worker of the Child Protection Service. This situation must end. You have a right to live your life and enjoy doing things with your friends and to develop yourself into a fine young man. However keep in mind that your little niece can't help it that you have to babysit her all the time, she didn't ask for it. It's your sister that is not taking her responsibility and putting you under this pressure and leaving responsibility up to you. Babysitting isn't a bad thing when it's just once and a while and for a very short time but when you are only 13 years old and you are constantly babysitting a one year old that is a whole different story and it's not right and this situation should change as quickly as possible. I hope that you will have someone to talk to that can talk to your sister and change the situation or else that you find a good social worker that can help becaue it's clear to me that your sister isn't planning to listen to you and take you serious. I wish you all the luck and I will be thinking of you.
2006-07-09 04:35:52
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answered by aysha 4
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What an incredibly selfish person your sister is. I'm guessing you live with her and not your mum and dad? If your mum and dad are around - do they know what is going on? Maybe you should always be ready to leave the house - that way, as soon as you see your sister is getting ready to go out you can just duck out without her seeing. If she tries to keep you there can you just say sorry - on my way out I've got plans that I can't change, and then leave - no matter what she says or does. I honestly don't know what other advice to give you honey. My sister would NEVER do that to me so I can't put myself in your position. How old is your sister? Could you perhaps point out to her that you need to have a childhood like she did? If she didn't have one because she got pregnant then that is her doing not yours. Is there anyone at your school you can talk to about this and get advice from them? Asking for help doesn't make you a bad person - it may even wake your sister up to the fact that, in a sense, she is abusing you. If she paid you it wouldn't be as bad would it? Can you sit down with your sister one day when you are feeling calm enough to talk about this in a pleasant manner and let her know what this is doing to you? If it gets to the point where you really can't handle it, I know it's a harsh thing to do but there is always Family and Community Services. I don't know where you live - in Australia we have a Kids Help Line where kids can ring and talk to experienced counsellors who can just listen and/or help with advice & options available. Do you have anything like that where you are?they are a fantastic organisation. I wish I knew what to say to you. If you ever need to vent frustration feel free to send me a message. I know this isn't much help - I just want you to know that someone out here cares - I wish I could come and baby-sit for you instead!! Good luck honey and I really hope that someone out there has more productive advice for you than I have!
2006-07-09 11:14:27
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answered by ellyfantastic 2
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Set your alarm. Get on your bike or walk out of there but don't be there when she arrives. If she lives with you, depart early and don't say where you're going. Act as if you're walking out for a moment then leave. Walk to a park, go to the library and look around and kill some time. Go to a friend's house. Just don't be there for them.
Afterward, inform her you don't want the money because she's lying and it's just not worth it. Tell her you're on a summer team and not available anymore. Tell her that if she leaves her child with you again, you will call child welfare or the police to pick the child up and actually do it...don't just threaten...do it.
2006-07-09 10:51:58
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answered by J Somethingorother 6
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You are a young kid yourself and don't need and shouldn't have the responsibility of raising your sister's child. It's unfair and unsafe. Go to another adult...maybe a favorite Aunt or another family friend that she/you really admire and tell them what's going on. If that doesn't work, call Social Services. A visit from them will keep her home with her baby! OH...and if you do decide to babysit for extra $$, get it upfront. You're a brave young man and I think that you really expressed yourself very well in this question. Hope it works out for you. God Bless.
2006-07-09 11:07:15
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answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7
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I would seek out a parent son meeting and tell them your issues and let them know that sis isn't paying as agreed and you are taking a very high responsibility position. Just most of all be a good uncle even if sis is not being a good mother. You could also seek out a person in the neighborhood and see if they want to make twenty dollars by babysitting and send them to your sis. Good luck.
2006-07-09 10:53:44
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answered by Anonymous
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Where are your folks? You should NOT be watching a baby every day! Bet your sis is getting aid too. If I were you I'd take the baby and go to child services, maybe you can get some help that way too.
2006-07-09 10:53:33
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answered by Anonymous
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This is easy - The next time they are going to leave, tell them that you're not going to watch the baby. When they leave ,call children and youth services in your area and explain your situation.They will help you. Your sister needs a wakeup call ,a true family member would not do what your sister is doing,so YOU need to be the one to bring her back to the family.
2006-07-09 10:52:16
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answered by Ray H 2
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Uh, excuse me, but that is her baby and she needs to take care of it her self!!!!!!! I think I would go for a long walk or what ever to get out of caring for that baby all the time. I know once in awhile is fine, but every day and for free the way she is doing it, I don't think so. If she was working it would be fine as long as she paid for it.
2006-07-09 11:02:05
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answered by SapphireB 6
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Talk to your parents and ask for their intervention.
Leave the house before your sister has a chance to leave you with the baby. (e.g. join a sport, go to the library, go visit a friend, etc.)
It's not the baby's fault her mother is leaving her like that so please don't become resentful toward her. The situation is beyond you now. Ask your parents to get involved and make this stop.
Good luck to you.
2006-07-09 10:50:10
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answered by jd 6
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Where does she go? If you know where she is I would take the baby to her. Even if it is at work. What do your parents say about this? Don't worry about a contract. She wouldn't honor it anyway. Try to be out of the house before she is or just hide under your bed til she is gone. m
2006-07-09 10:59:58
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answered by Mache 6
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