banging girls with boyfriends. I seem to be the only one among my friends who won`t do it. Isn`t that just a bit wrong? Went out last night, my friend (girl) apparently made out with my other friend (guy), though she's talking about marrying her 10 year boyfriend (who is abroad for another month) . The same guy friend also made out with another friend girl of me (who only remained my friend because she had a bf overseas). It's just starting to sound like I'm the only one who wouldn't do a girl with a boyfriend. Should I reconsider that decision? - keeping in mind those girls are not married. (yet anyways)
2006-07-09 02:54:40 · 13 answers · asked by chocolateknight69 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anytime having sex with someone is "just banging" it's not a good thing. However, the blame isn't totally on the dudes here, the gals who have boyfriends, who presumably expect fidelity, are the ones cheating. They have made a decision to have sex with a man that isn't their boyfriend. Wouldn't you say it is the women who have chosen to cheat that are the "wrong" ones?
As to what you should do, I think it is admirable that you have taken to heart the "do unto others as you would have them do until you" stance. As a boyfriend, I'm sure you'd be furious if your gal was sleepng with other men.
Just keep in mind that she's the one making the bad choice, the guys are just responding to girls that agree to have sex with them.
Now if your guy friends are the sort that go after each other's girlfriends, then they are scum and they will do it to you. So maybe you need a better class of friend.
Oh and not all women cheat. I feel really sorry for the boyfriends of these gals and one is thinking of marriage? Oh won't that be a peachy divorce!
2006-07-09 03:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
WOW. It seems like you feel a little "pressured?" maybe? Well,for one thing i can tell is that you don't fall under peer pressure. What your friends are doing is totally wrong, but so are the girls. So here its a two way system. If the guys know she has a boyfriend or a fiance then he shouldn't be kissing them or anything of that sort. You are the smart one in this situation. Have you ever talked to your guy friends and your "girl" friends? Have you talked to them about what there doing? Some people just don't know what there doing and need a good friend like you to tell them. Don't go under the influence!
2006-07-09 10:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by Alexa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people here gave answer saying that ur a good guy. I think fundamentalyy u are a good guy, but not totally. I think if u even have to ask us if u shud reconsider ur own morals and go have sex with another man's girlfriend, well, what does that say about YOU? Can't u even stand by ur own morals? Ur asking US if u shud go have sex with a girl who has a fiance or boyfriend? If we all told you "YES, go have sex with girls like that", wud u do it?
I think basically, ur a good guy joining all the wrong guys and girls, and soon ur going to fall into their trap and become as brain-dead as they, and start ruining urself by having casual sex with girls who are already spoken for. Think about ur own life, if u meet the right girl someday, and she finds out u did what ur guy friends are doing, having sex with girls casually, and who have fiances and boyfriends, what do u think ur future wife will think of YOU? Do u think she wud trust u around girls who have boyfriends or fiances?
Don't ruin ur reputation. You know after reading these answers by everyone, that people think ur a good guy with a good reputation. So I say, stop hanging out with these evil, disgusting people, before they corrupt you, as ur already starting to doubt in ur own morals by asking us if u shud abandon them and do as they do. Drop these losers and find better friends. How wud u feel if u were the fiance r boyfriend overseas and the girl u love was cheating on u, kissing some other guy and having sex with someone else while u were away missing her? Even those girl friends of ur's are sluts and cheap. they might as well be prostitutes. At least prostitutes get paid for doing the same things those girls are doing?! It doesn't matter if they just have boyfriends and they're not married yet, they're acting like cheap whores, and u need to ask urself if u wud want UR girlfriend having sex with other guys behind UR back.
Drop these losers man, ur better than them. Good luck.
2006-07-09 10:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ava_Marie_Prescott 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it wrong or not depends on your personal morals.
Personally, I would not want my boyfriend making out with someone else. If I am with someone, then I am with that person. No one else.
I also would not want to be with someone else who does not care about someone else's (someone they claim to love) feelings. Because, then truly how do that feel about you? Are you just a way for them to get off or do you mean something.
Everyone has to make their on decisions though and live with the consequences. Messing around with someone who is involved in a relationship can lead to a lot of heartache and drama for everyone involved.
2006-07-09 10:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by spikettes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No go for it... as america seems to spiral down the toilet in chaos you might as well as have fun too... I am like you however and still have principles of my own.. however, there are alot of skeezers who have no shame and take the walk of shame everyday... These types of people I don't associate with so it is hard to help you make a desicion... If she wants to marry someone they she should refrain from getting short and curlies in her teeth from someone else... I was in the military and seen it all too much... they are all harlots on the inside... keep that in mind for yourself too...
2006-07-09 10:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by need to know basis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These girls and guys are HO BAGS! You are correct to not indulge in this behavoir. It's true that they aren't married but still they are in a relationship. Now if their bf/gf knows that they are doing this and are OK with it well that different.
2006-07-09 10:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to make any relationship, even if it is only a one night stand. As long as those involved are consenting adults it is no one elses business.
2006-07-09 10:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by sleepyredlion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah but look at it from the other perspective...would you wanna be the guy getting cheated on? I mean if these girls wanna cheat I guess thats thier own buisness but you don't have to do it. there are plenty of hot single girls out thier....i guess in my opinion it would suck to have it happen to you so why do it.
2006-07-09 09:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good guy and you are right to feel that way. Some one would be blessed to have a person like you. Keep being what you are. And may god bless you.
2006-07-09 10:02:05 · answer #9 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. i'm almost speechless. i hope their fiance's/boyfriends aren't in the military. that would piss me the hell off!! (i'm a military wife and those guys don't deserve that!) you're taking the high road not doing it. but if you wanna be the everyday man whore who puts his penis in any hole that fits go ahead. if you do sleep with them you should make it a point to let them know it's a lowlife thing to do.
2006-07-09 09:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋