I really like this guy. He's really sweet. But he's been pushing love at me since the very first day. He doesn't give me a chance to love him back. We can't even have a normal conversation. All his answers are about love even if I'm talking about something totally different. He's driving me crazy! I don't know if he's obsessed or just desperate. But he doesn't know how to cool down or give me some space to love him back. And I tell him straight out to slow down but he can't seem to take the hint. He was married before but his wife cheated on him. I wonder why. He probably smothered her too. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I can't seem to get through to him. He's slowly turning me off, but I don't want to give up on him because he's a really great guy.HELP!!!!!
2006-07-09 02:44:30 · 7 answers · asked by angeleyes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he can't respect the fact that you want him to slow down and relax, then he's not as good a guy as you think. i wouldn't bother with it if i were. if a man tries to smother me like that i tell him to ***** off and leave me alone. i like attention but even i need some alone time to think. and if a man can't respect that, then he can't respect me and there's no point in datin him
2006-07-09 02:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just going to have to be blunt with him....because I don't think that this is the type of guy to just stop unless you tell him straight out. Let him know that if he doesn't give you a little breathing room that you are going to have to cut down on seeing him, you don't want to do that but he is giving you no choice. Let him know that his constant talk of "love this and love that" are becoming annoying because he's actually not giving you the oppurtunity to love him or like him for that matter. Let him know that you would like to go much slower and you honestly want to see if this works BUT if he continues to nag then he is giving you no choice but to let him go...which isn't something that you really want to do. Tell him straight or he will only continue in the same way until it gets to the point where you can't stand him.
I have a friend like this and she chases every guy away and then wonders "why".
Good luck to you! Be STRONG!
2006-07-09 02:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be both obsessed and desperate, and afriad you'll cheat too. If he won't take your hint, then you tell him back off a bit or he's history and then follow through..He'll get the hint when is all by his-self......
2006-07-09 02:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be open and honest with him, tell him you need to take it slower, that things are moving too fast and you need more time to get to know him. that if you go too fast it will deaden the relationship quicker. ask him if he wants to be divorced again within the next 5-10 years because you didnt get to know each other better.
2006-07-09 02:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by darla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not get anyone to cool down or do anything. People make there own choices. Either accept his faults or find someone who is more mature.
2006-07-09 02:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ccret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it.. say you need time to think things out and dont wanna rush things.. thats the most obvious thing i could think of
2006-07-09 02:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you did anything wrong just say sorry or say are you o.k?
Its simple...good luck!
2006-07-09 02:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋