Spouse is 50 days sober in deep depression, 14 days out of rehab, is cutting to ease pain thoughts of suicide daily. Is struggling to hold it together she was not ready to come home and she needs hospital help.
2006-07-09 01:34:34 · 11 answers · asked by slampuppets 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Okay so it's fine to ask this but if their is a bigger underlying problem I can help or guide you!
Its a thing to be talked over email rather than live for millions to read!
2006-07-09 01:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me say how sorry I am that this is happening.
The fact that your spouse is cutting obviouisly shows a lack of communication. People self-harm often as a way of releasing feelings that they cannot release elsewhere. So I would definetly say that your spouse needs some intense therapy ASAP. I would recommend psychodynamic therapy and/or group work. The nice advantage of group work is that it gives people a sense of belonging, and that they're not going through this alone.
Suicide is a more immediate issue; I urge you to talk to someone like your wife's rehab doctors for advice on that issue. Suicide is different for different people, so they might have some good advice on how to handle your wife's suicidal urges.
Meanwhile, get some therapy yourself. This is a hard thing for anyone to go through, and just having another person to talk to confidentially and help you sort through this would likely be a tremendous help. Maybe your wife could go with you sometimes; again, opening up communication about these things would likely help both the cutting and the suicide.
Check your local AA chapter, too...they likely have programs for both you and your wife
2006-07-15 11:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by theaterflicka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to the reading I have done regarding hypoglycemia (low blood sugar), the brain, when it senses that blood sugar is low, will do sometimes strange things to get the blood sugar (glucose) out of storage and into the blood stream. Adrenaline is one sure way to do this. If cutting and the pain that results causes your spouse to get an adrenaline rush, then low blood sugar is probably the cause. Alcohol is a really quick way to get the blood sugar up, too, as alcohol is a quick ingesting carbohydrate.
Suggestion? Have snacks with this person - every 2 hours, whether she wants one or not. Say, "You will feel better if you eat something." Go to the kitchen and get some protein, meat, a can of tuna or whatever, and fix it up. An ounce of Tuna on a couple of Ritz crackers may be acceptable. Also have some other carbohydrate, like carrots/celery and a good fat like some nuts or peanut butter. Try to get your spouse to eat at least 1 ounce of the protein at each snack and be sure to get her a glass of water. If you can get her interested in an activity, such as walking around the block, talking (with her talking), singing, or even push her buttons and get her arguing on some non-important subject - for about 30 minutes, you may find her need to cut has lessened a bit.
Chronic low blood sugar can also cause self-esteem problems, anger management problems and a whole bunch of other physical and mental nasties. You may want to check out the symptoms link on www.hufa.org, and see how she checks out. If the snacks start working, let her see the other symptoms. If she does have low blood sugar, knowing that is the cause of a lot of her problems may make it easier for you both to "deal with them".
Best wishes.
2006-07-09 02:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right. Try calling the Dr back and letting him know. Sometimes there are loopholes in insurances and he might now some. This is very dangerous. But other than that - you can't really force him to get help if he doesn't want it. Unfortunately.
Pray for him and for God to ease his stubborness and that he will be willing to get help.
2006-07-09 03:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by helpme1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is in crisis and needs help as soon as possible. You could call the place from which she was discharged and explain what is going on and ask for their guidance. Otherwise, take her to the emergency room for evaluation and hopefully admission. I hope that she is receptive to getting the help that she needs.
2006-07-09 02:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by doglover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep calling her. Keep going to see her. She's recovering from an addiction. She's/He's going to need help and a lot of it. Be there no matter what.
2006-07-09 02:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person is calling out for help! They need help today. Get {him or her] back to a doctor fast!!
2006-07-09 01:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by SUN FLOWER 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call your county's mental health department and tell them about her. Any one who may harm themselves or others can be committed to the hospital.
2006-07-09 03:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET HER BACK TO HOSPITAL....when i cut it is to relieve pain not try to end life or get attention..its not a good place to be in your mind get her back to hosp today now go to er whatever do it.
2006-07-09 07:15:08 · answer #9 · answered by squawwitoutamule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if spouce feels this way then you need to get the said person some much needed help it's urgent you do such
2006-07-09 01:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋