My older brother and I use our own PCs, and we spend quite a lot of time on line. In fact he spends a LOT more time on the internet than I do, although I'm the one who pays for the internet. Seems to me that he never feels that he needs to chip in, and my mother always tells me not to bring this up to him. Even though we are siblings, I don't think it's right of him not to pay a single dollar. This really makes me feel like being taken advantage of my own sibling. What would you feel if you were me? And what would you do about this if you were me? Thanks for your insight.
2006-07-09 01:08:44 · 18 answers · asked by danielle s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
let him gently know that u are two indivduals and u both need to take responisibility of what u use...
tell him firmly but gentlely that it is not fair...
2006-07-09 01:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lallu P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel about this very much, he does need to carry his own weight here. I think what I would do is pay my part of the Internet and let him know that he needs to pay his part of it, and if not, you are not paying his part and it will be shut off. Then if he don't pay his part, go ahead a let it be shut off. I know, I know claim down! It's not fair that you pay and he don't and you loose out too, but hey if you do this a time or two, maybe just maybe dear old brother just might learn not to take advantage of little brother and start paying his part. This is really a very petty thing to be fighting about, but at the same time I understand your point. You do need to get this problem worked out as soon as you can, cause you never know when something might to happen and brother won't be there any more. You see I lost my brother Jan.2,2005 an unexpected death. I wish I had my brother to do things with again. So work out your problem with him as soon as possible.
2006-07-09 08:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, he should contribute to the internet costs.
You are being taken advantage of.
Two things you might do here :
* change the password access and do not tell him or
* stop paying let the account lapse for a while, then ask for a contribution.
Why does your mother say to not raise this issue with him? Does he contribute in some other way? Will this generate a bad reaction? Your mother's reaction is part of the problem.
Peter
2006-07-09 08:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by Peter H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wasn't on line would your bill still be the same? I think it would. So either get over it and keep paying for YOUR pc no matter who else plugs in or disconnect. Life "ain't" always fair. Also, if you were to disconnect and do without for awhile he might go into withdrawals and have it reconnected. Then you could plug in and not have to pay. Then maybe life would be fair for a while. m
2006-07-09 10:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are totally right in how you feel. as your brother he should want to help you out, because that's what siblings do. if i was in a situation like this i would bring it up him especially if he's working and not chipping in. if he didn't want to help out and i could go without internet (which i do at home) i would turn the service off and just say its not worth how much it costs and how little you use it.
2006-07-09 08:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly there are a lot of people who think that they should cruise through life for free. Your sibling is one of them, see if you can negotiate a compromise , if not cut him off and let him pay his own. Tell your mum to pay!!! Or is they too young? If so they should not be on internet
2006-07-09 08:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by glasgowgone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather keep my brother than the few dollars. At the same time I would talk to him, in a nice manner and share my concern and request him to please share the expense. At any cost I would keep my brother. I could actually tell him in writting, if cannot talk to him, with this as opening lines, "Bro, I love you and want to clear this rotten mind that I have which is playing up for a few dollars. Can u please share the expenses of ________ with me. I love you".
2006-07-09 08:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop paying his share. He can get a job if he wants the internet.
OR, chuck the damn thing altogether and go to your nearest library or internet coffe bar and surf for free.
2006-07-09 08:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Bruce B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a stop on the internet.
When he asks why there is no internet, tell him that you couldn't afford it any longer on your own. He should offer to chip in.
2006-07-09 08:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
our relatives and friends are the best asset we possess. as long as we are alive, let us be polite to our relatives and friends and try to give a lot than expecting anything back. as Lord Krishna said in Bhagawatgita, just do your karma (duty) do not expect any reward. the reward will come automatically. all the best.
2006-07-09 08:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by chichoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋