If a woman sends an email to her ex boyfriend and says he is the best and she will never find anyone as good ever and she knows that and thinks of him often. And also says to her ex that he has her heart,body,mind and soul. Also that she desperately needs his approval about her life. But at the end of the email says" I am so confused".
What is she thinking?
2006-07-08 23:34:49 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's not.She's FEELING lonely, and afraid of being alone, and wants to feel like she has a "thread" of possibility with you. She mat well, and probably does, feel very strongly about "the memories" right now. But has she decided, and can she commit, to really going there? No. Wouldn't say that's even a remote reality. She wants a "feed" from you, without having to put her money where her mouth is. I know it sounds harsh. I am not saying it's a hangable offence--is human enough--but essentially, at core, it's a head game. Draw a clear boundary. When she wwants you , she will not be bracketting everything positive she says with "I'm confused". In short--I've learned the hard way, that when someone says "I'm not in my right mind right now--don't hold me to anything I say" (which is what she IS saying :S)--you should BELIEVE them, and take out your big black boundary drawing marker. Don't touch it. Be kind, sure. But don't go there. She's not even close to ready, or able right now. Good luck:)
2006-07-08 23:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 34⤊ 4⤋
the delivery method suggests that maybe she fears rejection ... or confronting her true feelings, the words are those of an attached heart, I would think maybe she is feeling some love.... or at least an emotional dependence on the ex. The confusion, sounds like part of her is saying time to move on and the other part is still wanting approval from the ex. Seems to me the best thing for the ex to do is be honest- kind but honest about his feelings and intentions whether that is go your separate ways or just take some time, then let her go learn to depend on her own approval. She may not come back, she may just need some time to say good bye
2006-07-09 06:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The clue was in the question; that is, she NEEDS his approval. She is not sure of herself and she obviously respects his opinion of herself. Thats too bad bcuz she should respect her own opinion of herself and let his opinion go....but they are not together for whatever reason. Maybe she got a lot of compliments from her ex, but they aren't together anymore. Compliments do not hold it all together.
So maybe she never had very much attention in her life and that guy made her feel very pretty and special. Those words might make her feel like like he is the best thing that ever happened to her in her life.
(Did she know you were watching?) Maybe she really wants you!
2006-07-09 07:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is saying I love him, and I know I shouldn't. it is a recipe for disaster. It means her self esteem or bank account is low. It means she is gonna play someone. Without meaning to likely, but someone is gonna get hurt all the same. She has him as her ex for a reason... whatever she said about it now, just means she is lonely. The confusion is whether or not to give it another try, but she must already know that she shouldn't, otherwise what would there be to be confused over?
2006-07-09 06:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by nik named mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's in the middle of another relationship that's not going so well,(at least on this day)and she's looking for something familiar as a back-up.
Unless you really still love her, I'd leave it alone.
sounds like alot of drama, and remember she's an EX for a reason. Good luck tho.
2006-07-09 06:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Praps she would prefer he wasn't her Ex but her current boyfriend.
She needs 2 let go & think 4 herself, but sounds like she wants 2 keep her options open!
Is she grovelling 2 this bloke or what?
U possibly shouldn't have read her emails.
2006-07-09 06:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparantely she's thinking a bit of everything. As she stated, she's confused. One part of her is telling her that the ex is all she needs and wants and another part is telling her that something isn't right. She needs to figure out which part is accurate.
2006-07-09 06:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is single, she is missing him and is not sure if they should be back together. If she is not currently single, she is missing him and not sure if they should be together, but confused about the current relationship. It is probably best to ask her though. It's not like all women are the same.
2006-07-09 06:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the lady can nnot make decision at all. she is confuse, she is not confirm what she want in her life. this type of lady would change her mind in a split second. if your friend is serious in this relation think twice.
2006-07-09 06:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still in love with u
& she realized that
If u still love her then patch up
otherwise find some1 else
But i heard ur love is true if ur lover left & then came back again
u know this is ur real love !!
2006-07-09 06:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by miss_rimi1989 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh...about him. She still loves him but has evidently had problems with him in the past. She is having trouble letting go.
2006-07-09 06:36:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋