My family is chaos. How can I make our home life more peaceful? I have a 6yr old (whose noisy/messy mates are always visiting!) and a 2yr old(who just finding his voice!).
I don't seem to get 5 minutes peace, nothing ever runs to plan, I'm always 'broke/skint'. Life with my kids is crazy!! What can I do?
2006-07-08 23:22:07 · 16 answers · asked by beflihippy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Make sure you put the kids to bed early so you can have evening to yourself. Your kids are just being kids. It would be lovely if our kids were the same as they were potrayed on tv and all nice and polite and quiet but they're not. Set FIRM rules and DON'T bend them as that will give the kids mixed messages. If you don't want your 6yr olds friends round, say no. They might scream and shout at you but they have to know who's boss in the home. Maybe allow them to come round once or twice a week and take your 6 yr old to others at other times times.
Bottom line is be FIRM. If you say they have to do something, make them do it. Or, if they don't, ban sweets for the day / week. Or take some toys away for a week and sit them on a "naughty" stair. It works with my kids. They hate the stair and i only have to utter it and they behave very quickly. use their ages to determine how long they spend on the step. (6mins for 6yr old) etc.
2006-07-09 04:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by willowbee 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Make the 6 year old and his friends play outside or take them all to a park where they can run off some energy. When the messy,noisy mates come over tell them the rules. They make a mess-they clean it up or they don't come back for a few days. Your 2 year old is still a baby. You just have to deal with that one.
Are there any other mothers in your area that would swap out babysitting jobs with you? You know, you keep theirs a few hours and they keep yours a few hours. Make some rules and keep them. You are the parent. Send the friends home when you have had enough. Take your 2 to the library. The childrens department is not very quiet so you wont have to worry about your 2 year old. But it will keep your 6yo busy with all the books to look at. m
2006-07-09 00:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, make them understand you love them equally; otherwise you might start a sense of competition between them and that causes terrible traumas for kids.
Then, make sure you spend enough time with them. Of course they need to gain some independence but they're still children. The 6 yr old specifically might be at the 'following examples' phase. Don't let the wrong example be followed.
State rules in the house and NEVER punish them with violent actions nor shouts. The 'grounded spot' is still the best option. That makes the kid reflect about a wrong action. After a short period of time there, pretend nothing happened as you notice the lesson has been learnt.
These kids need to feel taken care of and confident, give them that sense.
2006-07-08 23:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by Breno 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need some time out big time! Do you have an aunt who will look after the kids and let you go out and pamper yourself for a while. When you come back, think about some ground rules for your own sanity which will make you feel better. If you feel good, your family will feel good, so do not worry about being selfish. Eg. no visitors in more than once a day. I really hope this improes, as life is not much fun for you right now.
2006-07-09 01:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by tinkerbell34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not allow your 6 yr old to bring friends home.
For the 2 yr old, teach him the alphabets, read to him.
Don't spend on unnecessary things. Don't make a habit of having big birthday parties for the kids. Just cook them a special dinner and a small gift.
2006-07-09 00:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where's the father in all this? My Nigel not (Not his real name) is driving me just as mad and he's nearly 13. He's from dad2 who was as dim as a night light and the two girls are as noisy as your 6 yr old. Dad 3 although very romantic is never here. Mr. Larkin the poet said 'They f**k you up, your mum and dad' but I think children f**k up their parents lives even more. Well, why did you have me? Nigel not always says. I can't tell him the truth, it would make him insecure. Family life, tell me about it.
2006-07-09 02:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by Harriet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
homes that have samll kids will never be quiet it is bound to be chaos, believe it or not, ytou will miss this when they grow up. its memeories like that, that stick with you. just look a round yoiu and appreciate what you ahve got. some people have lost family so just be happy. it sucks to be skint find a baby sitter and go get yourself a job you will feel great.
2006-07-08 23:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by jame_football 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a friend to look after them for a night or so whilst you do something you enjoy. It wont solve it completely but it'll give you some much needed relaxation.
I can imagine being a parent is hard, but you cant stop yourself having some fun.
2006-07-08 23:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your 6yr old if he wants to go to a friends house for the day then put your 2yr old down for a nap stick the kettle on and put your feet up
2006-07-08 23:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Scottish lass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give Claims Direct a bell
2006-07-08 23:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by Falcone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋