What do I do!?

Question

I have a friend that i have known all my life, and I just found out that he has 7gs of weed on him. Im afraid that if i tell anyone that he will hate me, but I don't want him to become a stoner. What do I do!?!

Answer 1

snitches get stitches

Answer 2

He has 7 WHOLE grams? He has, what is commonly known to all cool people as, a "q". Also known as a quarter (1/4 of an oz to you) which amounts to about $40 worth of weed on him.
If you tell anyone, he will and rightfully so, hate you. What is the problem with stoners? I went through most of high school and all of my under grad years at MSU as a stoner. I graduated with honors (3.78, just *** laude, not magna or summa or anything) and am in grad school at U of M on a fellowship.
As a stoner I never called into my job, maybe a little late from time to time when I worked at the gas station during my undergrad years. I always did my homework (however put off to the last second, it got done by the time it was due). During this time, and continuing on to today, I never lost contact with my family or friends b/c I smoked weed and I was able to prioritze and do what had to be done to graduate with a 3.78 GPA.
My point is, you probably haven't had so much as a wine cooler in your entire life. You only know about the effects of reefer from a 1950s propaganda "drug education film". Just because he smokes pot doesnt mean he can't go to work as scheduled, pay his bills, get an education or move out of his mother's basement. What you do is, lighten the F up, smoke a joint with your friend and play PS2.
Or, you could mind your own biz and not preach your beliefs to him. Anyone can find "facts" to vehemently support their personal beliefs on the matter.

Why don't you just write a little note saying "Craig, we need to talk about this" rolled up like a doob and planted in his baggie. Then after he reads it, the old "ABC After School Special" music plays a little and he looks up to see your face with a disappointing frown on it peeping from around the top of the staircase.
Stop being a Beaver Cleaver.

Answer 3

A friend you've known all your life... If he's that good of a friend why would you ever dream of ratting him out, when you haven't talked to him about yet? I can pretty much guarantee that he'll hate you if you squeal, and I'm not sure what you'll get out of it. It's sweet that you use this value system that assumes he is going to become a stoner unless you do your job. Be a friend and ask what's going on...there might so much more to the story then you can even imagine

Answer 4

Your friend is lucky to have a clean and sober friend and one who cares about him. Do what you think is right, without regard for yourself. The advice to talk to him is good since you're such close friends. If you are very tactful and he trusts you he may not necessarily respond in anger. If he does, but you remain available for friendship based on wholesome and fun activities, anger may only be temporary. Friends he can make in the "stoner" world are not what he needs!
I hope and pray your conversation with your friend goes well. Generally it is good to talk with a person directly before going to someone else about a problem. A heads up that you'll have no choice but to talk to someone on his behalf may be advisable, based on your longstanding friendship. Friendship HAS to mean something in tough times, or what good is it? Perhaps your friend will open up to you about why he feels a need to escape from reality (getting high must feel better than reality or why would people do it?), and allow you to accompany him to some couselling or a drug abuse/drug prevention program.
If you and your friend are minors, including parents in solution-seeking may be a good idea. You'll have to assess that one for yourself.
I really have a burden about your situation because as a parent I've had to practice some tough love myself. Thankfully, the results are young men who admittedly have issues but are NOT breaking the law or strung out. Blessings to you. Buttercup

P.S. Marijuana is NOT a safe drug and is often the gateway to even more dangerous drug abuse. You are right to be concerned. Please see the following excellent resources for health information and support group listings. There are online and "on land" groups listed.

Answer 5

talk to him. if he is Ur friend he will listen and stop. one of my ex's stoped doing it because i told him i was afraid i would lose someone else.See i lost a friend on his 18th birthday because of weed and drinking. And i just lost the closest guy friend i have ever been close to in an accident because of an drunk driver. So look IF U CARE ABOUT UR FRIEND U WILL TELL HIM HOW U FEEL ABOUT UR PROBLEM. CUZ IF U DON'T IT MAY BE TO LATE TO STOP HIM AND U WILL WISH U TOLD HIM. SO TELL HIM DON'T BE AFRAID TO TELL EITHER.

Answer 6

Help him smoke it and decrease his chances of becoming instantaneously addicted and selling your mom for drug money.






Chill man (unless you're in Texas and if so get away from him). He'll figure it out for himself.

Answer 7

Mind your own damm business!If yourhis fiend youll speak to him about it,not others!At least give him a couple warnings first

Answer 8

I think you should confront him about it. If he fobbs you off, tell someone. That kind of thing is very serious and if he can't respect you then you really need to tell someone before he harms himself.

Answer 9

well talk to him and be there for him. A true friend will make sure nothing bad happens to them and talks to them about why he uses that kind of stuff and if you talk to him about it maybe you can help him get rid of it!!

Answer 10

Some drugs I would say you gotta turn him in to somebody, but grass is pretty low profile. If he invited you to try it, just say no thanks, and leave. You might want to watch for signs that he is taking other drugs though...that is bad juju.

Answer 11

no matter the consequences, you should tell someone about it.. He will thank you later, even though, at first, he'll reject you for not being "cool" like he's trying to be...