Mother problem?

Question

I love her but my mother doesn't want me for her. She says she's too immature and not so beautiful. What can I do? I'm torn apart between the two women I love- My mother and her. Please help, many thanks!

Answer 1

hey i think that u really difficult to choose between mum and ur sweetheart.but u should ask ur self whether u are big enough to support urself or not.and if ur mother have good reason for her decided ,u should follow her.u lnpw the girl who we love it`s important too.it `s not mean u must follow ur mum all the time.u are a people so u have the rights to make up ur mind ,the real good deciding.besh wishes.if u have anothe problm u can contact me [e-mail] i`ll do my best to help u or we can make friend.......

Answer 2

Hey man, you shouldn't let your mother decide how you live your life from a certain point. If you think otherwise then you could try marrying your mother, but chances are it won't work out... Tell her that, tell her that she should understand that you love that girl and no one, I mean NO one can stop someone from falling in love. You cannot help the way you feel and your mother should respect that. If she really genuinely loves you she will. If you are torn apart between the two women you love, that's because your mother won't give in. You don't have to lose any of them two if she would.

I know some mothers who have never been able to understand that their "baby" boy or girl had grown up, they always wanted to keep controlling their lives, that's just not healthy. I once was in the same situation as you are, and I told my mother she should let me live my own life, especially when it comes to a girl whom I love. It was hard for her, but everything worked out just for the best. It's not because she is your mother and has tought you biggest part of what you know, that she can't learn anything anymore. If you're the first to leave the "nest" that's a completely new situation for her too you know. And if it's only bevause she's worried, hey man, make your mistakes and you'll be wise.

Answer 3

Your mother might be feeling like your not giving her the same attention as before you got w/ this girl? Depends on if the relationship between you and youe mother changed when this girl came in the picture. It might be hard at first BUT your mother will have to realize that your a man and will need a someone to share YOUR life with. You and your mother should have a heart to heart let her know how this is affecting you and you would never choose between your happiness and her because they are one in the same! Good Luck man!

Answer 4

if your mum is a huge force in your life, and you've always been the one to sway at her comments, i think you shouldn't be witht this girl. i've known so many guys have been with girls that are not so liked by their mums, and first year they stick up for their girls. 2nd year they get tired of being in the middle of a both way conflict, and when their girl tells them something their mum say (and vice versa) they just don't want to be part of it, and can't seem to resolve the conflict. Which in turn makes them a foe to the girl, and the mum. it's not a good situation.

Ask your friends what they honestly think about you and your girl's compatibility. If you are really sure you want to be with that girl, just tell your mum that you don't like her talking that way about this girl, and just maker her understand how you feel.

Also, the not so beautiful factor shouldn't even be a factor. Just the immaturity thing should be considered.

Answer 5

Try this...

As kindly as you can (but be firm), let your mother know that in cases of your caring for someone, she simply cannot make the choice for you. Even if this turn out to be a bad choice you will have to find out for yourself. Tell her she (your mother) has to know you love her and respect her opinions. But she must allow you to make your own choices, If she does not allow this to happen it will only make you unhappy and make things worst instead of better. Appeal to her to give you her blessings. This will keep you and her close and the mutual respect between the two of you will strengthen your bond.

Answer 6

Look,

Mom loves you no matter WHAT!

Even if you decide to pick a girl on your OWN.

Tell Mom you've made up your mind and you want her to be NICE to your girl.

If she's a drama queen then let her emote alone for a while. She'll respect you more for being a man. If your chick dumps you you'll hear about it though.

At some point you HAVE to let Mom know you need a WOMAN in your life other than HER.

Answer 7

You love your mother and want to respect her wishes. That's great! In the end however, who you choose for a partner is your choice and while advice is fine, the final call is yours. You mother should love and respect your wishes as well. Tell her this and talk to her about how difficult it is for you to be in the middle. She doesn't have to love your lover, but she does have to accept her as you do. Don't let this ruin either relationship. Your mom is jealous.

Answer 8

merlin,if you love this woman and this woman has never given you any reason to doubt the love that she has in her heart for you,then you need to be with her. your mother will always be your mother whether you are with your girlfriend or not, your mother will not leave you but your girlfriend will if she feels as though you are catering to what your mother is suggesting to you...and your mother seems like she is the one that is immature trying to say that your girlfriend is not pleasant looking,who died and made her the queen of england?

Answer 9

I think this is a cultural question as well as one of independence. Not knowing where you're from and how much weight is placed on mom's opinions it's difficult to advise you. As an adult, you should be making your own decisions with regard to whom you date. Mom doesn't live with your mate, you do. You are an adult aren't you? If not, obey your mother.

Answer 10

Is she THE ONE? Could she be? If you have a chance at finding THE ONE, your mother had better understand. Life's too short to date your mother's friends...