Hi My dad's fionce Roni is a b She has slapped me lied to the cops about me... Also my dad chooses her over me. He doesn't care. Also I found a jouranal of hers and shes been faking liking me so my dad will still marry her. even if she didn't fake he still would. In the journal she called me a ''spawn''?, a *****, brat, she called me a fing little whore. My dad doesn't know. I'm NOT any of that. She is! She put me in counceling And theres nothing I need help w shes the one who needs help. My dad just does whatever she says I can't stand her. I don't want them to get married but my dad does and I don't want to hurt him. So should I keep faking to like her to keep them happy or what. I need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please!
2006-07-08 21:44:29 · 14 answers · asked by hottie123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 12 years old
2006-07-08 22:20:36 · update #1
You shouldn't have to go through that...girl you need to sit down with your dad and have a good long talk, show him her journal and tell him your feelings. Just make sure you tell him how you are feeling from all of this and don't try to make it sound blameful you don't want to push him away. If that doesn't work try to slaughter the wedding...have you seen that movie with Lindsey Lohan as the twin girls, watch that and take some advice. If all else fails I hope you can go live with your mom or something. That's just wrong...if your dad really loves you he'll come around and take your side. Children are so much more important than anything else. I'm praying for you. good luck and best wishes.
2006-07-08 21:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by ~p♥kes~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, where is your mother???
Second, were there any problems between you and your dad before this woman entered the picture?
Finally, how many times has she put her hands on you? Have you told the counselor about the problems with her? To my knowledge, when a child (i don't know how old you are) tells a teacher or a doctor about another adult hitting them, they are required to inform the authorities.
Be sure to talk to the counselor about EVERYTHING that is going on at home. Request for your father join you in a session. Sometimes having a mediator makes it easier for children to talk to their parents. Maybe the counselor can help you express your feelings in a way that will help your dad to understand that you don't want to hurt him but this is really important to you.
2006-07-08 22:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by tchelle104 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd sneak her journal into the councellor and have them look at it. Your councellor may be the one who needs to get it thru to your dad that his fiance' is a lying loser.
In the meantime, maybe you can consider moving in temporarily with other family members?
Your dad sounds just like my brother. He believed everything his g/f told him about his own two daughters, which were a bunch of lies. The girls went to councelling and it helped them thru it. He finally realized he messed up and it almost cost him his relationship with his two girls.
Once school starts back, join extracurricular activities like band and drama club, or even sports. Let your guidance councellor know what's going on. Even call your local Child Protective Services Agency. They will look deeply into the matter. You have more avenues to your benefit than you probably realize. Hang in there and keep your head high!
One last note---Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Try to keep a positive attitude!!! :-)
2006-07-08 22:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to fake your emotions and feelings to anyone. I know it is hard, as i've experienced in the past. If you are put in counceling, wouldn't it help to tell the councelor about the truth and your pain? I understand that you care about your Dad, but if you cannot be happy with both him and his fiance, you should tell your father. If he does not believe you, keep the record of her sayings and doings. Is there anyone you can share your feelings with, that have some influence to your father?
2006-07-08 21:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by Yoko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's about time you have a heart-to-heart talk to your dad in her absence. Your dad has to know. The important thing is for him to be aware of how you feel about his girlfriend. It doesn't matter if he will still choose her over you, its important that you have gotten your message across.
Don't act unpleasantly infront of her, just ignore her! Acting aggressively against her would just make your dad feel that you really need a stepmother. Whatever happens, be patient! You dont have to fake liking her, just be passive, as if you didnt hear or see anything.
And know what? Prayer works!
2006-07-08 22:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by pearl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think you need to get the two of THEM in there at counseling with you.
Then you can be completely honest and maybe get beyond this "power struggle."
Your Dad is more likely to dump her if he sees YOU doing your best to make this work- then SHE'S the "bad guy"
See what I mean- use what's here now to get things in the open and MAYBE you all can get back to a place where the LOVE is expressed instead of the fear.
2006-07-08 21:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one kid mabe you should live with another family member or somthing i wish i could do more my mom use to beat me when i was a baby so i kind of know what your going through i wish you the best of luck and dont give up just keep fightting it
your friend KJD
ps maybe you could show the diary to the police or your counsler just a suggestion i dont know if it would work.
2006-07-09 05:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by kjd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might as well tell her and your father how you feel about the whole situation, if you can manage that in a mature way. If you're in counseling anyway, talk to your counselor about it and ask for some advice.
2006-07-08 21:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a movie called 'The Parent Trap'.
Do you have a best friend, or someone close to you like an Aunt, or someone who might speak to your father on your behalf?
He needs to know this before he makes the BIGGEST mistake of his life.
If you can get an opportunity to view this movie 'Parent Trap", it might be a help to get your father to watch it with you ~ and possibly invite her to watch it too...
2006-07-08 22:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i'm sorry about what u r going throw but i think that u must fight u can't let her treat u like this she is a bad person tell ur dad the truth let him see what she don't want him 2 see about her
hope that ur dad will believe u & ur problem will be solved
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-08 21:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by anita Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋