Ok so about 2 week back I got tired of some people from work to all go out after most of them saying "we should all get together and go out" non stop, so I arranged it and all that. Well people were flaking out left and right. But these 2 girls that im fairly close with, one said "yeah ill go, ill call you later" and the other said "i want to go, but no babysitter, ill let you know". Well they didnt end up showing or calling. So I lunch with this other girl and she had made it clear that she wasnt going from the start (respectable). So we go to lunch this last week and her digital camera was in her truck. So I start looking at the pics and I see some of her with those 2 girls and she tells me it was that night that I was trying to get people together to go out. And I also see pics of other nights they all went out. Do I have reason to get offended that they ditched me for her? Also I want to bring it up in some way, should I? And what do I say?
2006-07-08 21:38:18 · 20 answers · asked by MJ Boulevard 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
yes you have a right to be offended, don't bring it up. they have been ditching you they don't like you. if you bring it up they might tell you that to your face then your feelings will really be hurt.
2006-07-08 21:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by biggun4570 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're mad because they ditched you in favor of the other girl is nonsense. I think that people can go out with whoever that they like, that's not your affair. But you have every right to feel offended. They didn't bother to show up nor call you and looked like you were being kicked in the curb without your knowledge. Looks to me that they are not your friends. You can choose to talk about it and tell them know that they have hurt you in a way but that's when somebody has the nerve to bring the subject up. Otherwise, forget about it and then move on.
Oh, the next time you plan a get together, invite the rest of the people you're working with and don't you invite those two ingrates. Make sure that "everybody" knows that you're gonna have a ball and apparently, they are not welcome...
2006-07-09 04:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by CRAFTEE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is really rude and you should be offended but I wouldn't let them know. Seriously, let it roll off your back and don't even mention it. Yes, they should have been adult enough to tell you that they already made plans to hang out with the other woman but they weren't so it is what it is. The only thing that would be accomplished by you telling them that they offended you is that you will have put your feelings out there and they now have something to talk about when they get together again. They knew it was going to offend you because they made it a point not to tell you. Don't let them get you down. Just roll with it.... :)
2006-07-09 04:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by UniqueIsWhoSheIs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CAN feel offended, but what would it accomplish. Let this one roll off your back. Its a nice thing to work with people that you can socialize with after work hours, however it is not a necessity. Keep it simple and professional with these women from this point on. Karma will bring the situation around again and you will have your chance to brush them off. Don't sweat the small stuff.
2006-07-09 06:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact is, its your work place, not a social club.
If you like your job and want to continue working there without any problems, just remember that these are all your co-workers, not your high school girlfriends. Keep your social life apart from your work life and you won't be having to deal with any weird crap for no good reason. Save being offended for something that doesn't affect your income or that is genuinely important enough to be willing to do something about even if it costs you your job.
2006-07-09 04:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by toastposties 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be offended.
I've heard it a million times... "Let's all get together, let's go out." When it comes time to go out, not many people actually go. Most people will agree to go because it makes them look good; makes them look sociable with their co-workers. When the time actually arrives, they come up with an excuse why they can't go.
I don't even bother going out with co-workers anymore. For every ten planned outtings, one will actually take place. And the fact is, it's usually very dull anyway.
2006-07-09 07:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be offended and I'd just spell out the circumstances - I tried to organize a get together with you, you told me you couldn't come and then I see you in pictures at the other person's get together. This made me feel hurt and I think it was rude and I have never done such a thing to you.
Why would you do this to me? They should take responsibility for their insensivity.
2006-07-09 05:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by skellyatsogang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you just wrote your own Soap Opera! Why did you look at her camera? That was none of you business. If you had not been nosy you would have never known. sometimes it is just better to keep work separate from life after work. Don't say anything you have to work with these people. You don't want to have any hard feelings and have to still communicate with these people.at work.
2006-07-09 04:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have read some of the others and it seems that most people are saying to let it go. There is no virtue to being offended. They did not want to go and did not want to be rude and say they did not want to go. There is nothing to be gained by being offended. So it is best to let it go,.
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2006-07-09 08:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Bacchus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say that you had no business looking through her pictures. But you do have the right to be angry at the situation. Next time they suggest getting together tell them "no thanks, I tried and it didn't work, so have fun! Oh and I'll be finding new friends, thank you very much!"
2006-07-09 17:23:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋