What should I do please help?

Question

I hardly hear from family or anybody. I'm in Iraq, a soldier in the Army, all by myself, depressed. My Army unit doesn't talk to me at all. I read my Bible a lot and pray several times a day. It keeps me strong. I still feel so lonely sometimes and it seems nobody cares. I'm always by myself, frankly because I don't fit in with most clicks or groups. I'm strong in spirit because of the grace of God. It's extremely tough to get through with life sometimes when you feel all alone at times. I know that with God I am never alone, but everyone needs friends though. How do I seem more friendly without having to change who I am to fit in?

Answer 1

hi how r u?i really had been touch by ur story it's really sad not 2 have a friend at all but if it helps u even a little bit i can be ur friend i'll pray 4 u deep inside my heart no matter who u r?? hope u'll go home soon (my heart with u).
TRY 2 SMILE NO MATTER WHAT U HAVE A STRONG SPEART
GOOD bless u

Answer 2

Being or seeming friendlier won't necessarily get you more friends. Actively seeking out friends isn't very satisfying because it means adjusting your opinions, likes, dislikes in order to appear acceptable or accepting to others. In other words, you could end up compromising yourself in some small way that you would later resent. So don't expect to find true friends that way. It could happen, you never know, just don't expect it.

True friendship is build upon similarities, respect and usually a mutual need. That's why a church congregation is such a great place to meet and cultivate friendships. However, in Iraq that's probably not nearly the same. I remember church services in the military, it wasn't the same as a home.

(I always got a chuckle at how the chapel served multiple faiths with portable props. Or was it just me?)

Anyway, don't concern yourself with making friends. That happens naturally over time if the elements are there. You should instead pursue something interesting to yourself and hopefully helpful to others. I know that's going to be extremely difficult whilst in Iraq, yet you do have Internet access, that's a blessing!

You can communicate with just about anyone and this could lead friendships in unexpected ways. There are many organizations devoted to cultivating relationships between soldiers and folks back home. I suggest you look into that. Try "adopt+soldier" without the quotes in a google search.

Sorry to ramble on, just got on a roll. Be true to yourself and pursue what interests you. Be friendly, cordial and honest with people you meet, most will return the same and some could become your friends.

Answer 3

Hey you dont need to fit in. Having God is great too, I mean he always keeps us strong inside, while friends sometimes get in the way or put us down. This is the Army man, you focus on the mission. You seem like a really good guy, so you dont have to stick with the group. Most people who join the Army are just there to kill and have a bad attitude anyways right? Dude if I was there, I'd hang with you. Maybe talking about home and stuff that you have in common will help.

Answer 4

HI!
I think you should let you family and friends know how you feel. They may think they are bothering you over there and that you are to busy for them. Next time you have contact with them say,"it is really good to hear from you" or "it is so great talking to you, I hope to hear from you soon" or straight out tell them you are feeling lonely and would love to be in closer contact with them.
I know what it is like to feel alone and you just have to keep pushing yourself and become more comfortable with yourself so you are able to open up and let the real you show.
Also here are a couple of websites to check out: anysoldier.com and soldiersangels.com
I am members of both and know they are legitimate! They are great sites you can register on and they will set you up with someone who you can be penpals with and most people will send you care packages too. All the soldiers I have come in contact with love it!
just a couple more things: As a U.S. soldier in the army do you know how many people that you don't even know care about you, pray for you, and love you! You are a hero! You are never alone, for rest asure someone is always thinking of you! Take care and I wish you the best!

Answer 5

After reading some of your questions/answers I'm finding this somewhat hard to believe. Go talk to the freakin Chaplain already, & grow a set. Mommy the other kids won't play with me? What the hell kind of soldier are you. I'm strong as hell in my christian beliefs & it doesn't have anything to do with my having friends or not. Don't blame God for your problems, follow his example stand up & fix it. If God tells you to go forth & spread the gospel, how exactly are you going to fo that if you can't be personable with the people around you? The way I see it, God is telling you to put yourself out there & be friends with people around you regardless of your differences but to show them a quiet example of your character along the way. If you're going outside the wire & you aren't tight with your guys man, you're in a lot more trouble than all this whining is going be able to help you with. Again, get yourself over to the chaplain, & try compromising to make frineds w/o compromising your beliefs. The military is supposed to change you for God's sake.

Answer 6

Alright I can't say that you are but first stop preaching, your buddies are there with you. Next you just got to find common interest with them. Look I ve been there and the loniness is tough. Call or email your family- set up a specific time. I am trying to rember there was an internet calling plan that was like 6 cents per minute. If your your family has IM capiblites that would be the best.

Answer 7

If the following seems a bit out of whack for the posted question, you must realize that these are the answers to posted questions by the author of this question (look them up if you doubt it). Doesn't really fit in with the current "attitude" now, does it?

Well, for me it's steamy sex. That's all I really need. That's all I asked for in a woman but sometimes, they get to comfortable and you have to just move on to get what you really want. I have no regrets. Love is what I want. Not what someone wants and I have to side with that.

Mine is 7 inches. Mine is extremely wide in width. So mine is a double threat. I have a great big head. I had the same problem with a female I knew for almost 6 years.

How about we get used to our hand and **** all over that face of yours! Treat you like the whore that you are on the inside as well as the one you look on the outside! Nasty B**ch!

Shoot the moon! Go for the top notch honeys, never talk about sex to them until you know them long enough and then you're entitled to talk to them about whatever and you can hit them skins. Getting it on, oh yeah!

Answer 8

I've found that the best way to fit in is be yourself. I think there is more to it than them just not liking you. I don't know you, but my mom was/is big into God. She would lay it on thick all the time and it got really annoying. It's ok to have your faith, but you shouldn't try and push it on to other people. I'm in the Navy and am on a voluntary deployment to Djibouti, Africa. I was working in the same small office as this Marine Gunnery Sergeant who was really pushing the bible and it was getting on peoples nerves. It's not easy for me to make new friends becasue back in middle school I got picked on non-stop. It's hard for me to trust people but I know that if I don't put myself out there, no one would pay any attention to me. Try to be outgoing, be observant and look for the other people that have some of the same interests as you and build on that. I hope my answer helps you out.

Answer 9

Your question really tugged at my heartstrings. I have been pondering it for about twenty minutes because I really wanted to find some kind of answer for you.
First of all you must find one person who shares the same interests as you do. You mentioned reading the Bible. Are there any other christian men in your unit that you could discuss the Bible with?
If you like baseball, find someone to talk baseball with.
How about camping, fishing, or hiking?
Once you start talking about your interests with this person, the conversation will turn to other things. You will find you have other things in common.
He will introduce you to his friends, and maybe you share thoughts or ideas with them. maybe this way, it won't be too long before you have many Friends.
I hope I have helped you and I appreciate what you are doing for our country.
Hope

Answer 10

First, realize that most military men don't like to talk religion. Try talking sports, girls or the the every day 'I hate LT. Dumbass cause he walks around like he owns the damn desert'... Small talk works.
Go up to the guys in your tent and talk about family, ask them about brothers sisters, moms, dads and pets. That will open the door for more talks. They have moral building exercizes that you can perticipate in, like karoke and I know that there are firemen musters and other things to keep you guys entertained... Join up with them. Also be yourself, don't try to change to be a friend... look for friends that want to be with you.
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Answer 11

Be strong...you aren't alone. Try opening up a little with a few of the guys that you work with. Sometimes families don't know what to say, so they don't write much so as not to upset you. You are not forgotten, and many of us are paying for all of the troops doing their jobs in Iraq.

Bless you, and thank you so much for your service to our country.