Do I have reason to get offended over this......?

Question

Ok so about 2 week back I got tired of some people from work to all go out after most of them saying "we should all get together and go out" non stop, so I arranged it and all that. Well people were flaking out left and right. But these 2 girls that im fairly close with, one said "yeah ill go, ill call you later" and the other said "i want to go, but no babysitter, ill let you know". Well they didnt end up showing or calling. So I lunch with this other girl and she had made it clear that she wasnt going from the start (respectable). So we go to lunch this last week and her digital camera was in her truck. So I start looking at the pics and I see some of her with those 2 girls and she tells me it was that night that I was trying to get people together to go out. And I also see pics of other nights they all went out. Do I have reason to get offended that they ditched me for her? Also I want to bring it up in some way, should I? And what do I say?

Answer 1

Count yourself lucky. You finally found out that these girls are two-faced phonies. Drop 'em. You don't need to explain. Let them come to you and ask you. Then tell them that you heard they've been blowing you off. Stay calm, and don't let them drag you into an arguement. Make other friends who are more straight forward and don't play these mean girl games.

Answer 2

Well, first of all, there is no point to get offended. They are not worth the time and effort. Plus, don't show them that it affected you. Just try to look indifferent. Yes, they avoided you and dissed you and chikened out when it came to telling you that they could not come. But they are coworkers and if you start a war with them, the one getting tired of it is you, because they are a group. I am not saying you are right, just saying why bother getting tired. Instead, just accept the ideea that there is no point in inviting them out anymore and go have a great time on your own. If they do invite you in the future, tell them that you don't know for sure. Don't go with them, but call and tell them that you cannot go. Why call? Not because they deserve it, but because you are better than them and you have to prove it. As for your friend, it is kind of rude that you went through her camera. You might want to apollagize and say that you usually do not do that. Then, you should thank her for telling you. Out of all the coworkers, she was frank and sincere and told you what happened. Maybe she gets along fine with those people. Why blame her for that.

Answer 3

Yes, but realise that says nothing about you, just your choice at the time. Like someone else wrote, find something else. Be the person you are and don't let them control you. Or allow your feeling to be dictated. Find a really cool hobby, and watch them come back begging to be with you! Ha. Take up riding Harleys..or at least get the magizines and start to talk the talk..or take up baking and create great things to take to the office. Or anything first to let them know that, you know, they already do,anyway, and you don't care..you had better things to do anyway!!! Social pressure...I hate that..I'm sorry your "friends" let you down.

Answer 4

Screw them they are full of Sh*t, If they went out of their way to lie to you they will go out of their way to back-stab you. It makes no sense because if they really wanted to hang out with you they would have called you. and if chances ever arise give them the ultimate stand up make their trifling @sses wait for you and never show and don't even bother to lie about it afterward.Just tell them you did not feel like it or something.
As for bringing it up ask the girl with the camera to print out the Pict's(tell her that they are cool or something and you would love to have a copy for the Job) Then plaster them sh*ts all over so they can see them and comment on them like..Damn you make a bad drunk or something to that effect...or ask them what night was this Pics taken like you were totally clueless or something.

Answer 5

yes, i believe u have all the right rasons to get offended ,
1 they told u to arrange every thing and told u that they would call u but they didnt, this means they might be backstabing about u.it doesnt end here as u have told that one of them told u that she dont have a baby sitter but at last moment she found someonebut she was not able to call u.u can know about these things only when u would talk to them.u should definitely talk to them so that this doesnt happen again

Answer 6

Tell her how you feel! Just say what you did on the question: "Hey, I was wondering, should I be offended that you guys went out together when I had made plans, or was it just a coincidence?" It made me feel bad.. I would, then she can give you an honest answer, and then maybe you all could do something.

Answer 7

you're mad because of the fact they ditched you in prefer of the different woman is nonsense. i think of that folk can circulate out with whoever that they like, this is not your affair. yet you have each actual to experience indignant. they did not difficulty to look nor call you and gave the effect of you have been being kicked interior the cut back without your know-how. seems to me that they are not your friends. you are able to choose for to talk approximately it and tell them understand that they have got harm you in a manner yet that's while somebody has the nerve to deliver the venture up. in any different case, forget approximately approximately it and then circulate on. Oh, the subsequent time you plan a celebration, invite something of the persons you're working with and don't you invite those 2 ingrates. confirm that "genuinely genuinely everyone" is extensive-unfold with which you're gonna have a ball and curiously, they are not welcome...

Answer 8

I'd say you'd be justified in being offended. They lied to your face with no intention of ever going, and not even giving you the respect of honesty and just say "I have plans."

I don't suggest saying anything though. You'll only cause trouble, and this is especially bad since you work with them. Doing this will make your life a living hell. Just keep quiet, and take note of where your real loyalties are. I'd distance myself away from them.

Answer 9

the 2 girls might value the other girl more than you, and therefore decided to go out with her instead when they had a choice. it was bad of them not calling or showing up. emm... try not to get too offended over this as they are from work, and it will be hard to work with them if the relationship is too stressed...?

Answer 10

It sounds like you need to accept a hard truth, that they don't want to hang out with you. Yes, they deceived you, and you could take offense at that, but I'd just let it go. Don't make it any worse.