2006-07-08 20:58:20 · 28 answers · asked by MORENITA 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not at all. Ill admit it, i have cheated before. But a person only cheats if there is something missing from thier current realtionship, both physically or emotionally. Obviously, if the person cheats, then he/she is not in the relationship that they want to be in. and therefore should just break it off. But back to the point, as i said, i have cheated before but simply because my old gf treated me like crap. Now i am in an absolutly amazing relationship and i would never dream of cheating. My gurlfriend gives me everything i need for a perfect relationship, trust, love, compation, and of course physical pleasures.
2006-07-08 21:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by abeautifulman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. I think it really depends on the situation and the relationship. Find out the reason behind the cheating. But, I used to be a cheater back when I dated. But, now I'm very faithful to the man I am with now. Never have thought about cheating even when we go through the rough times in our relationship. I beleive people can change.
2006-07-09 04:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by destinyone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. In my experience, I have found that they do not change their spots and if they do, it is for a short time. Don't think you can change him or be all he needs. It is his problem and he needs to face up to it. If he is your husband, it is a little different. You may be able to work at this. Is he willing to get counseling and be held accountable? You have to ask yourself some questions. Was he a cheater before you met him? Was this a one time thing? What do I really know about his cheating? What am I willing to do and go thru? A lot depends on your relationship. If this is someone you are dating and they have been unwilling to make a commitment....run!
2006-07-09 04:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont htink its once a cheater always a cheater...but I think to gain the amount of self control it takes to not cheat is sometimes an unattainable goal for some people...so in leiu of that, once a cheat always a cheater would be sufficable.
2006-07-09 04:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by rdbowles12390 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. On one hand, every single one of us has made a mistake so egregious that we wish we could turn back time and make the VIRTUOUS choice rather than the one we selected. Can you imagine your own world without second chances?
On the other hand, history does count. One screw-up (no pun intended) is eligible for forgiveness at your discretion, depending on the circumstances of course. In the event that you have knowledge of this person cheating during other relationships prior to yours, or if he/she has cheated more than once on you, the only answer is a SWIFT, HARD KICK TO THE CURB!!!!! That is enough proof that cheating is not a one-time mistake. It's a habit that cannot be broken. PERIOD.
2006-07-09 04:13:41 · answer #5 · answered by kaje 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes. I know you want to believe that it was a mistake and he won't do it again but the truth is If you didn't find out he would have never told you. and he would still be cheating. I have forgiven my boyfriend of 15 yrs at least 4 times that I know of. The fourth time was the last time. He calls crying everyday and I believe that he means it when he says he'll never do it again but in a year or two will he still be sorry when some slut wants to sneak behind my back. The answer is no. He will do it again. Leave him or he will not respect you and do it again
2006-07-09 04:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about ALWAYS, but once someone cheats, it proves they are capable of doing it. I suppose some might end up learning a lesson from it, but others might like the excitement. I know if I am seeing a woman that admits to having cheated, I do tend to want to know the whole situation. If she was in an abusive situation or did it to get back at a cheating man...then I'm a bit more understanding about it. Still, it is one of those things that bugs me.
2006-07-09 04:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I think there's a time when people just get too tired or too old to keep cheating. Sometimes I think they just finally find the right person for them and don't want too cheat anymore.
2006-07-09 04:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree. I believe people have the capability of changing IF THEY REALLY WANT TO. Another way to think about this question is by asking, "do you agree, never cheated, will never cheat?"
2006-07-09 04:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by giovanni8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
But with verifiable non-cheaters out there, why wonder whether your cheater is curable or not?
Move on.
2006-07-09 04:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by Steve W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋