Is it normal to feel this way when someone you barley knew dies?

Question

not too long ago someone i went to school with (1 grade under me) died from complications from a car accident. i dont know if its normal for me to be feeling the way i have been about it. i barley knew her, and barley ever talked to her if at all. when i found out that she had passed i just went crazy in my head. i didnt know what i was doing. when i was on vacation up in michigan i went to her funeral, as alot of kids from my old school up there did, i'm just wondering why i felt this way about her death, and if its normal for me to feel like this. could it have anything to do with me having a crush on her a few years ago?

oh, i meant to mention that she was barley 16 when she died on June 1st, 2006. she was born March 1, 1990. she didnt even get to finish her sophomore year. there 14 days left in the school year when she was in the accident, and 7 days left when she passed. and i also made a memorial for her on my myspace page
www.myspace.com/kracker48043

that link is only to show the memorial not to flaunt my page to you people

thank you asshole for correcting my spelling on a question such as this. make someone feel stupid when they already feel bad for this girls family. you are one class act.....by the way i'm talking about
"eye_in_skyguy"

ok, i've added alot of details, but i needed to mention this. i went to her funeral to pay my last respects to her, but when i was there i couldnt get myself to go to her casket to say goodbye, because i would have started to cry.

Answer 1

I think it just means that you have compassion. You may not have known her well, but you knew of her. You knew her well enough that you had a crush on her. I've felt the same way when I've heard about people I went to school with that have died. I think when someone dies who you knew or knew of, there is a sense of loss. It's kind of a weird feeling because you question why you're so sad when you weren't friends or anything. It's okay to feel that way though.

Answer 2

Well to tell u the truth it is normal and yes it might be that or it might be that u did care about her a lil even if u really did not know her i just when throue this not to long ago maby 3 months and i really did not know the girl went to school with her and it hurt like hell i went crazy over it for a while.....ppl say she was cool what i knew of her she was.....but to u (?) yes it is normal to feel that way u could have just reallyed cared and did not realize it......

Answer 3

I am so sorry about your loss. I have found myself doing that too with people I really didn't know that well. I think it means that you are a very caring person, and I wouldn't worry about whether or not it is normal. Just be glad that you have such a big heart!

Answer 4

If you had a crush on her, then you did have a relationship with her...even if it was all in your head.

So somebody you had a *relationship* with passed away and naturally you'll experience a feeling of loss.

You think all those people crying on TV *really* knew Pope John Paul?

Answer 5

Well... maybe you haven't faced the death of someone your age before, specially when it is all sudden as this one... it is something that twists everyone's head (happened to me twice), you just don't quite get it.

And if you had a crush on her years ago, it makes her emotionally closer to you... and it must feel really, really weird.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I don't know if you've hade another friend or relative around her age thats pasted away and it brings back memories. Or the fact you were close to her age and your paths crossed, may have you subconsciously thinking about your life. At any rate take comfort in knowing she's at peace. (I'll pray for you!!)

Answer 8

When some one we know dies it tends to make one look at their own mortality, and we are made to realise just how fragile and precious life really is.I'm truly sorry for your loss, but its true time is a great healer.

Answer 9

i take it you're a teenager and when we're young we don't really think about dying. then when someone the same age dies it really puts things in prospective. i think it's perfectly normal. when i was in high school one of our classmates got killed in a hunting accident and we were all pretty freaked. when we're that young we think we're immortal and when a tragedy like that happens we realize we're not and it scares us.

Answer 10

I think it's normal to feel that way. I think it's because of the fact that both of you are about the same age and you start thinking, "Oh my god, she's too young to die and she's my age."