problem with porn and bf, need a guy's opinion and answers?

Question

Here's what happened: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Yesterday when I came home he was fine, we played video games because he said he wanted to play them with me and talk about stuff. So I figured he wanted to talk about what happened. After he went back upstairs and didn't talk to me about it, I went up and asked him what he wanted to talk about. He said nothing, i don't feel like talking now. I asked him again saying I know it's about the porn. Now he's telling me that I'm dirty, and he wants to break up, saying I probably cheated on him all the time. He has done this about a million times, and I did it once. The reason is listed on the link above in detail. Why else would he start acting like this toward me if he didn't get his feelings hurt? Also when I came home today and yesterday, there wasn't any porn on the comp for two days, that's a first. Guy's do you think he got hurt by me doing it to him? If so....

why won't he admit to it? We had nothing else to fight about, he was telling me he loved me just earlier that evening before we started playing games and I asked him to talk to me.

Is he hurt by it? I started to think that he won't admit it because if he does admit it hurts him, wouldn't he see how he would have to give it up now that the shoe is on the other foot? Is this possible? He keeps telling me we're not together etc etc etc. There was NO other reason to argue, and he says he's not mad at me for porn. Even though he brought it up a few times during the argument? How should I handle this? What should I do? He doesn't think it's so funny now that he's the one hurt.

We live together, we've been together 5 years. We're 21.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmjdZim7OD3E9xkSUDQWe3Psy6IX?qid=20060707131235AApngDs

the link doesnt want to stay. Well, he looks at porn all the time, and I did it to him once and now he's acting like I'm screwed up even though he does it everyday and tells me it's not big deal, and is now saying we're not together and I'm dirty. We have sex once a week, the other 6 days a week he masturbates to porn, we only have sex once a week when i'm home all day because I feel it's like he knwos he can't look.

that sums up that missing link.

THE SITHUATION IS NOT ABOUT CHEATING, ITS ABOUT LOOKING AT PORN. sorry but the link doesnt work so no one knows.

BF looked at porn through the 5 years we've been together, I did it once the other night because we don't have sex enough, and now he is mad acting like im a messed up person. when he does it to me everyday. That's what the link thats not working on top of the page is all about. he's looked 3454545 times, ive done it once and now he wants t o breka up over it. he doesnt think it's not bad now that he's the one who is hurt instead of me for a change.

Answer 1

i boleve he is tring to make you feel bad about it. i think you need to move one.its not worth the bs he will put you through. he may just need the space. but if he cant get over it move on and get back to your own life.

Answer 2

well i think he is very angry at this point and hurt he having mood changes going on in him and one day he going to blow up really bad and sence he only talk to you a little bit about it its building up in him and he letting a little stream off know but the pressure is building up he is very jealous guy that why he calling you these name to build his ego to make him feel like he a man but he not being a mature man about this he is a little baby that need a attention right know so you have to treat him like a little baby in til he come down and for get about this because he is very immature he need to grow up and deal with reality and the love he has for you and if he cant do this then tell him to pack his stuff up and leave because people do make mistake in there life but it take strong love to hold a relationship together and that some thing he doesn't have for you.

Answer 3

*sighs* this one is complicated first about the cheating... there is a guilty concience in him and he is trying to ease it by projecting onto you his actions.... the porn thing... ummm... why dont you two watch and use it together and make it part of your life together? never know what kind of fun can be had that way. third and most importantly... this relationship isnt a permanent one its just a stepping stone relatioship otherwise u2 wouldnt have issues with something you both do and both have done... here is a cure that should work... make videos together and watch them together good luck

Answer 4

Well he's probably embarrassed by the fact that you looked at porn (you didn't really specify who was looking at it but I'm assuming it was you) but I would be upset if my fiance looked at porn because I would feel like I was good enough for him. I don't know maybe he's hurt and doesn't feel like you completely understand his side of it. You should sit down with him and apologize to him and get him to really let you know what he's thinking good luck!!!

Answer 5

the guy watches porn, makes use of you as a "prostitute" interior the porno videos he watched, ejaculates in you, what good does that do? i sense undesirable for you. You should be cope with extra acceptable. not that i would like you to split with him, because that is as a lot as you, yet i imagine he truly might want to wreck that undesirable habit and adjust the way he treats you. It sounds you've been dealt with like crap, like a "hollow" for excitement and ejaculation, like a "prostitute." i'm truly sorry. tell help to stop it. help him to stop it like you would help someone to stop different undesirable habit like smoking. truly of having sex with him once per week, why do not you imagine of something imaginative or relaxing that both one in all you may do mutually outside, like going out mutually, playing outside activities, going to live performance, dance, or something. I wager he can't watch porn even as he's outside. do this extra many times, his habit would shrink. extremely, porn is addictive to three people, adult males fantastically. that's as risky as different addictions. I heard people could have lesser existence span in the adventure that they ejaculate too many times. nicely, porn has adverse consequences on a guy's ejaculation. by using ways, if he nonetheless can't stop, you'll in simple terms might want to punish him or provide the finest motel--promote off him.

Answer 6

couldn't follow the link. Sounds like you're broken up. Sounds like he is hurt. Just leave him alone and give him some room to get his feelings back together. If he calls you great!! If not...you're still broken up. Sometimes guys just need time.

Answer 7

you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com

Answer 8

Sister
Move on, next
u can do better
puleeaze