when to have sex?

Question

Hi!
I am dating somebody since 3 weeks.
We meet 4 times in total, almost one time/week.
I feel quite anxious, wondering if is chemistry between us.
Could you give to an advice when is good to have sex?
After how long?
He hasn't pushed me to have sex.

hi!
I would like to add that I have 37 years old and he has 45, so we are not so young, but I still I am not sure on me.

Answer 1

Whenever you feel its right i geuss it varies from person to person if you ask me!!

Answer 2

Well, in an ideal world, what is supposed to happen before you have sex is this:

1. You make the move from your parents being the most important person to you, to having the other person be the most important to you.

2. You make a permanent, exclusive commitment with him.

The reason for this is that the sex act makes you one physically and not only, so that if you do it, and then break up, you are leaving a bit of yourself behind with them, and they with you.

So that not only should you wait until these conditions are fulfilled to have sex, but you should keep the relationship entirely platonic until you are absolutely sure that you want to have that kind of permanent relationship with him (i.e. you're at very least engaged to be married), because if you aren't really sure, then it just doesn't make sense to even take steps down that path.

Please think about it.

God bless you

Answer 3

You don't want to rush into sex because you might get pregnant, and if the guy isn't pushing you to do it then why worry , sex is something that is very special between two people and so you don't want to go having sex for the fun of it ...Make sure this is the guy you want to be with before giving your self to him

Answer 4

Wait till you have established yourself as an adult. You will then appreciate the wonders of sex safetly I hope. You should wait some time to get to really know this guy a lot longer and not be labeled an easy target.

Answer 5

hmmm interesting. its said that the avg. ppl in the us would wait about 2 months before having sex but most relationships that are long would wait for a year or 2. its luv & then sex but maybe u might not feel the same way. also, make sure u guys noe each others back ground, whether or not if ur infected w/ hiv, or herpies, etc.

Answer 6

short and simple... after marriage, ok? My sis had sex before she even got out of high school and her life is hard. She has 2 kids right now. Their angels, but it was a burden for her. Even if it protected sex, I recommend not having any until after marriage.

Answer 7

Sweetheart, how old are you?Why think about sex? It's been only 3 weeks since you've met as you claimed..its too early to think about having sex with him.Sex should be shared by married couples.call me old fashion but that's the way I see it

Answer 8

Take your time. It only complicates things. It is a lot easier to decide you could have had sex sooner, but you waited than to decide that you were too young when you did it and to try to take it back

Answer 9

Ask your self if you like him and if its going to affect you having sex with him or if its just going to be fun but think first if you will have a guilty conscience about it later.

Answer 10

Well you have to know in your mind and your heart when it is ready. No one can tell you when your ready. And who knows maybe this man wants to wait for sex too. Just go with what you insides say and when you want to bring it up to him and be careful of your feelings!!

Answer 11

Just gone head and do what u want to do if u want to have sex gone head but if u don't don't do it if he start pushing u to have sex than dump him dump him like white on rice!