his family is christian and i am agnostic. they dont support our relationship but we are very much in love. i just want to be accepted by them.
2006-07-08 19:07:56 · 17 answers · asked by Jazillian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you want them to accept you? Why do you need these people to accept you in order to feel validated? You can't "get" them--or anyone--to accept you. You can be a good moral person and treat their son very well and maybe, someday, they will accept you, but maybe not. There are no guarantees. Accept that you are unacceptable to them, and then ask yourself if you are staying in the relationship because your pride has been hurt by his parents rejection. Make sure this relationship is worthwhile, and don't stay in it just to "prove" something to people who, in the end, don't matter.
2006-07-08 19:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by irmamontez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make them accept you for who you are and it's not your fault. They probably just can't and don't want to see the good qualities you have that your boyfriend sees, at this point. Right now they only see you as a non christian girl. You should give them some time to get to know you personally. Just be kind and friendly to them, don't try to be too distant from them. Help them in anyway you can, but don't try too hard. Make them see all the wonderful qualities you possess. I'm sure that as time goes by and when they see what a great person you are, it will be hard for them not to like you. If they don't like you just because of your religon, they're just very narrow minded people and you just have to ignore they way feel. They have no say in the relationship and you shouldn't let them from enjoying your relationship.
2006-07-09 05:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by pureessence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself, "what is more important" the love you have for your boyfriend-OR-the approval of your boyfriends parents?
I know it is a difficult decision, but honestly you are who you are and if they can't accept that then you should decide how long you want to put up with the parents crap. If it bothers you-then you need a new boyfriend. If it doesn't bother you that much, then you should stay with your man and continue to grow as a couple despite what ANYONE thinks!
2006-07-09 02:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by c_beautiful1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a waste of time to date you. His parents will always think you are trying to derail him and wouldn't allow you to marry him and have agnostic/Christian kids.
His faith is a big part of who he and his parents are so you should find a nice agnostic boyfriend instead.
2006-07-09 02:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard enough for parents to except females for their sons to marry, and you have to give them a reason like not being a christian to use in their favor. Can you explain why you aren't a christian?
2006-07-09 02:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get anyone to except you is to just be yourself. Everyone is not going to like you and that's OK. You need to like yourself. Remember you are in love with your boyfriend and he with you. His parents will come around, just don't pretend to be something your not. Always be you.
2006-07-09 02:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation.I am Apostolic and he is anglican.His family also does not support my religion,so now they are trying to break us up.So my dear my advice to you is see if he will choose you or his family,because at the moment mine is choosing his.Good luck.Let me know what happens.
2006-07-09 02:14:43 · answer #7 · answered by phoenix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't change people or get them to do anything ! just leave it alone and don't make a big issue of it...in the meantime be the wonderfull person you are..for them to see..be the person that you would like to have them accept..
2006-07-09 02:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by Happy Summer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not going out with his family if he loves you and accepts you thats all that matters
2006-07-09 02:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by chicana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them, let them get to know you a little more, offer them help around the house
2006-07-09 02:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by Giggles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋