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Question

okay, i hate my school and where i am growing up..how do i convince my mom to move somewhere else, possibly a different state after my bro and sis(which are twins) graduate in may? I hate getting up in the morning and knowing that i have to spend the day alone or with my neighbors emilee(which is 2 years younger, but hte only true friend) when all my "true friends my age" are out having a blast together. they all tell me that they want to invite me places but forget or whatever. and most of the time i am either crying or wanting to cry. I am a cheerleader, pretty and havea really good looking bf, but still, none of that changes anything. i try and be myself, and nonone excepts me, i try to be someone else and they like me. but i HATE being somone else. So please just tell me how i can convince my mom into moving somwhere else so i can start over...PLEASE!

Answer 1

Although running away seems like a good idea the problem is that no matter where you go you will always have to take yourself along. Until you learn to be completely comfortable with who you are, regardless of what other people think about you, you will never be happy no matter where you are. Good luck. I'll be praying for you.

Answer 2

Hi, I will try to answer your question though I do not know your age. first of all never try to be someone else, because that only tells me that you do not like yourself sometimes, and feel that by changing you will be accepted, you yourself say you hate it. Now as far as asking your mother to move do you think you are being fair? Does she work? Does she own a House? How big would the sacrifice of moving be? These are things you have to think about.You say you are a cheerleader,so you are in school then you are not really spending the whole day alone. Think about it may be your friends see you as your seeing yourself. You must learn to accept who you are, where you are. Changing the place where you live will not change how you see yourself, and people will see you the way you see yourself any where you go.
So before asking or trying to convince your mother to move, why don't you find other activities, get involved in school clubs, or other organizations, learn crafts. You are still young, and you must start growing into adulthood by being positive, firm in who you are, and what you want to do in life, most of all believe in yourself, and you will find that the possibilities are endless.
I truly wish you luck in all you do, and I hope that my answer helps you. Also Talk to your Mother, she truly is the best friend you will find. :)

Answer 3

It sounds like your "friends" are the "in crowd", well it seems to me that they are using you as a toy, or a target, seems like they are just stringing you along for fun, or whatever you want to call it, like one other answer said, a true friend would not forget to invite you to an event, be it a small group hanging out or a big blowout. What you need to do is drop them as friends, quit trying to be one of them, be yourself, and you will soon draw in people that would probably become genuine friends, that you can count on, just as they could count on you. The one adult thing you can do, is ignore the class categories, jocks, stoners, geeks, or whatever they are called in your area, treat all of them as a friend, because remember, you are no better, or worse, than any of them, they ALL have their own insecurities just as you do, so break tradition and go up to anyone of them, begin a conversation, be honest and truthful, but start the talking, and i think you just might be surprised at the different kinds of people, you may, with an honest heart and calm words, end up calling Friend. This is one of the final tests you must endure, to find out what type of an adult you will become, stay the course, don`t run away, face this head-on, i promise you, when you get through this, you Will, be a much better and stronger person because of it. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Be yourself; Love who you are. You don’t need to move States… can you maybe change schools if you want a change?

First… get a long with yourself. Life only gets harder and sometimes lonelier. If you can make it through these time that seem tough now, the rest of your life will be better for it.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

that is an theory which could help, somewhat.. may not be merely excellent to remember on this although, definitley get a 2d opinion. One possible way is to outright confront him, attempt to get him to go away. once you're afraid that you would lose the characteristics he controls, I doubt which could take position. He ought to easily administration those characteristics by using you, and may take up lower back into even as he leaves. also, I doubt that if/once you may confront him, no count number number what, he won't be able to damage you. in case you get damage, he may also get damage, some thing he probably would not choose. The extra ambitious you develop into in confronting him, the extra he ought to withdraw.. fairly although, seeing a psychologist is possibly going to assist more beneficial than asking human beings on the information superhighway.

Answer 6

Starting over isnt that great....trust me I moved to South Carolina from Illinois for my children. They wanted to start over. My son wanted to play Football for a larger school, my daughter wanted to play soccer in HS. The town we lived in was so small and they didnt offer soccer in school and the football team was so small that they had to forfeit games sometimes because they didnt have enough players..........Zac had gotten in trouble and made some teachers mad from time to time.......He had a rep as being a problum kid etc. They wanted to start over.

WE ARE SOOOOO HOMESICK RIGHT NOW>>>>>>We miss all our friends and town so bad.........South Carolina sux!!!! Theres fire ants everywhere, you cant go in grass anywhere!! They have even come in the house 2 times!! The people are pretty nice but there are some that are just plain weird and some that are dangerous................

What I am trying to say is we thought the grass would be greener on the other side......it would be so cool to start over .....a fresh start.........all we did was trade our probs in for new ones. Try to fix what you can there where your roots are..............you will find that you have friends you dont want to leave.......familiar places you want to be able to go to still................I cant anymore.....

Answer 7

Starting over isn't the answer. It's always an attractive option, though. Maybe you should work on dealing with your situation and the people around you. Accept yourself for who you are and don't worry about what others think. You'll be happier and more confident in the long run.

Answer 8

There is no starting over besides it is very expensive just to pick up and move....If your so called true freinds forget to invite you then you need to get some diffrent freinds...You just need to meet other people ..You are a cheerleader thats a plus but don't worry it will get better..But please find some other people to be your freinds because the others are jus plain sory

Answer 9

It's not your school, or where you live.
It's the way you look at your life that is the problem.
Everywhere you go, there you are.
Nothing will change, even if you do move because you are bringing your perceptions with you.
You have a "true friend" there are many people who do not have even one.
Be thankful for what you have, appreciate your friends.

Answer 10

Your life doesn't sound that bad. You're a cheerleader with a nice b/f. What's wrong with that? It sounds like you could use some counseling. You could be going through depression and need help dealing with your feelings. Good luck, I've been there too.