You have one year to live, tops you find out 5 days before your wedding Day, Do you tell your spouse?

Question

you get diagnosed with a terminal illness that is incureable, you find out five days before you get married, you have about a year to live and you already told them you cannot have children. Do you live your life like everyday is your last one, or do you spend the remainder of your life going to docter appointments.

Answer 1

Yes.
ALWAYS live AUTHENTICALLY no matter what!!

To me, what would be far worse (than telling my fiancée) would be living in fear and less than I am, and then find a cure, etc, realising that I had passed away long before I died.
To me -- That would be the greatest shame!

Besides, marriage is a garden for intimacy to grow, and a situation like this will be great fertilizer.
You will draw together through this.

I ALWAYS live each day like it's my best...and my last. So that everyone I know has always heard and remembered the best and most loving words I would ever have to say.

Live with no regrets. All the time. Regardless.
Live in love, Now.

There can't be any other way.

Answer 2

Never begin a marriage with a kept secret. It will ruin the trust between you and your spouse when the issues of illness finally do arise. If he can't accept what you are dealing with, marriage to him will not be good for either of you. Marriage is in sickness and in health, for better or for worse. Also, if your terminal illness
is not contagious, and the mate already understands that you cannot have children, then you should make every effort to enjoy the days left in pleasant and positive ways. However, that does not mean you should stop seeing all doctors, completely. Some illnesses have been wrongly diagnosed and people with 1 year to live have lived 20 years instead and proven the diagnosing doctor to be incorrect. No one really knows how long you will live, they can only give a rough estimate of time based on various tests. ALWAYS - get a second opinion, please.

Answer 3

I feel you have an obligation to tell the person you are going to marry of your situation before you marry. It will be a shock to them...just as it was to you. Be prepared for anything.

Also know that the doctors are not God and can not tell you for sure how long you have. It is estimates. Things can happen and clinical trials that are out there too.

I have a cousin that had a brain tumor. He was given 3 months to live. I got an email from him yesterday and he's celebrating 3 years and 6 months past what was supposed to be his "death date".

It's not been easy. He's done a couple of different clinical trials and has had ups and downs...but he's living life to the fullest and doing everything he's ever wanted to do.

The rest of your life does not have to be full of doctors appointments, but will require some. Good luck!

Answer 4

You tell no one. You cash out the accounts. You max out the credit cards (after applying for about 20 new ones). Tell no one, leave town, forget the wedding, forget the spouse (to be).

Live on a mountain. Talk to yourself. Notice how indifferent youve become to things. Get a cat or a dog if you want one. Drink coffee or whiskey whenever you want.

Make doctor appointments, but only keep them if you need morphine.

Listen. Listen carefully. Test out whether its really true that if you have no preferences, you have no suffering.

Answer 5

Yes you tell and then you LIVE life to fullest and hoep they don't decide to leave, if they do then go on and LIVE on your own terms.

AND

DOC don't "KNOW" how long you really have - fight, fight, fight the cancer.

You never know - they may find a cure 6 months from now, so you want to be here for that.

Of coarse, it comes down to quality of life; what do you want yours to be.

other issue since you are "just married" - living willl and medical power of attrn'y - what do you wnat at the end and who will speak for you if you cannot. you want to make SURE, EVERYONE knows your wishes and they are written down; you don't want to end up with your family in court over you like happened in FL.


Jewells
29 months and still here

Answer 6

yes you tell
and then you live like never before
i wouldn't get married but go and buy heaps of stuff like cars houses anything ya want all on loans
get everything ya can get ya hands on and spread it around ya family and friends
that way when ya dead you have at least given stuff that maybe they would not have got in the first place
you have to set it up so nothing can be traced past you
take the system for a ride!
the ultimate one finger salute.

Answer 7

Tell your fiance before the wedding. It is then up to that person to make the choice that is correct for him. If you have a terminal disease, the likelihood is that you will be at the doctor's office all the time (spoken as a cancer survivor).

Answer 8

I think you should live life to the fullest ALL the time....even if you didn't get the news you had one year to live..I also think it would be a good idea to tell your spouse because they has the right to know.
Good Luck!

Answer 9

Who can predict the future so accurately that someone could tell a person has a year to live..? It could more than a year, less than a year or maybe just one day, so start living now, appreciate every single moment you have.

Answer 10

Sorry to hear of the diagnosis....but do not give up hope or faith..
There is a possible cure...
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I believe it with all my heart he will cure you...Dont despair...
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