I made the first move on this guy does this make me a slute?

Question

I've only known him since June 2006, and I've always been sexually attractive to him.

Answer 1

I'm attracted to wine glasses but that doesn't make me a flute.

Answer 2

No more so than he would be a sl** if he made the first move on you.

That having been said, sex is something that creates a permanent change in one's relationship with someone. If you do it, then break up, you leave a bit of yourself behind with them, and they with you.

Before you marry, your parents are the most important people in your life. When you create a one-flesh relationship, all of that is supposed to change. The idea is to leave father and mother, and make a permanent commitment to the person, and only after that become one physically (and not only). Translation: you need to get married before you have sex.

Furthermore, since this is the case, does it make sense to even take steps in the direction of such a physical relationship if you are not both absolutely sure that is what you want? (i.e. if you aren't at least engaged to be married?)

So I would urge you to keep all your relationships platonic until you are in a position to marry the person.

May God bless you

Answer 3

One of the toughest things for a guy on a date is when to make the first move. Kudos to you for doing it for him. Now all you have to do is wonder how he views your budding relationship. If he's lazy, he'll continue to let you make the first move again. If he's interested in you the way you'd like him to be, he'll either make the first move or he'll talk frankly to you about how he enjoyed your forwardness.

Either way, you did the best thing by letting him know where he stands with you, which is left a mystery by most women until the proverbial ice is broken. Now, just wait to see how he reacts.

Answer 4

Woooo, pardon me for saying so but isn't that kind of naive. Get real this is 2006 not the witch burning days of Salem

Answer 5

No, you are not a slut. I prefer the woman starting the action because that way I know that she is ready. I tend to be reserved and quiet at times around women and love it when they give me permission to do things. My current girlfriend was a virgin and I waited until she was ready. This is the best way in my eyes.

Answer 6

no, it does not make you a slut

why be hung up on those old patriarchal chauvinistic stereotypes?
Because you have been programmed to!!!!
Get over that
you are not helping anyone, especially yourself and other women by buying into behavior that is soooo hand me down from you don't even know where............

Answer 7

I suppose it depends what the move was. If you just asked him out or told him you liked him, no, you're not a slutt. If the first move was having sex with him in a public restroom, then yeah, maybe you're a slutt. ( used 2 "t"'s to get past censors)

Answer 8

Everyone expects guys to make the first move....I commend you in being honest with your emotions...!!!... If more women were this open, I believe alot of male/female issues could be avoided...

Answer 9

no it doesn't ,because if you call your self that what if they guy made the first move what should he call himself? in life someone has to notice someone to get noticed so if you made a move good for you besides most shy guyz wouldn't even tell you if they like you.hope ma advice helps.

Answer 10

now if you always do this, than basically you are.lol But no not really sometimes you can't resist yourself but next time let him make the first move