How to get a 2 year old to listen/with out diciplining them?

Question

Time out dose not work.

He Dose not hear well like other. He a little off on hearing, But good at signing what he wants.
*Tryed the pop on the butt.
*Tryed the time out.
*tryed the Corner.
I would do the toy thing but he done care for toys.

Answer 1

With a child who has a hearing deficit you really should talk to speech therapist about discipline...

2 year olds are not normally able to pay attention to anything for more than a minute incuding you talking to them.

some tips I know of about disciplining two year olds.

be positive and encouraging about all the good and correct things they do... pay lots of attention to the positives....

when they are doing something you dont want them to do.. distract them with something more positive that interests them.. or even something related to what they are doing... You find them drawing on the walls.... Say something like... Oh you want to draw!..then get the wall cleaner out and get them to help you clean the wall .... and do so all very calm and matter of fact like... then once the wall is clean take them to a table, provide them with paints, pens, pencils and lots of paper to draw on...

remember a lot of things 2 yo's do is just them exploring the world aroun them and testing themselves out.

Answer 2

Last week, I had very bad strep, and lost my voice. Of course, this was the week when my kids were overtired and cranky - and there was a heat wave. Their behaviour was disgusting! I realised that I was spending more time separating their fights than anything else.... and that they were spending mroe time fighting than playing. Since my voice was more or less gone. I had to use another method: I placed each screaming, crying, kicking child in a "block" on the floor (the tiles) and waited until they were quiet - it took at least 15 minutes. When they had finally shut up, I knelt down, looked them in the eye and whispered to them that their behaviour was disgusting and that I was very dissappointed in them, and that unless they started to behave, they would both have to go to bed as they were behaving like they were very tired (I never give bed as a punishment - just as a consequence of behaving like they are tired). They actually calme down and behaved and we had the best day ever! Since then, I always remove them from the situation, wait until they are calm, then whisper my instructions.

SOmetimes you get so caught up with makeing it through the day, that you lose track of how many times you are discipling for the same thing. Even if time outs work, there is a limit to how many they can have a day. Sometimes it boils down to a struggle to keep them from needing to be punished. I think that this method worked well because I actually didnt punish them, and even the threat of going to bed was cloaked in a manner which was not threatening. I removed them from the area, which breaks the cycle, I whispered, which calms them and makes them listen, and coming down to their level makes them feel loved and cared for.

I know that this will work ony if used sparingly, but it is a good thing to keep up my sleeve! Good luck!

Answer 3

make sure you make eye contact, try distraction if it's not that big of a deal( they're not doing something dangerous or destructive) and try not to expect more of them than their capable of, sitting still for more than 1/2 hour or shopping all day, at that age they just can't also my 2 yo acts out most when he is frustrated, hungry, tired or can't communicate what he wants. If it's fit throwing just ignor it, don't give in, cause after the first time screaming gets a positive outcome, they'll keep doing it. At my house we just walk around him and go into another room. The tantrums stopped after only a couple .


Good luck and have a lot of patience!

Answer 4

Is that possible? I don't understand why ppl think that disciplining a child is a bad thing. It's not. They have to be taught that there are consequences to their actions. If a child grows up thinking there are no consequences that to me would be very scary. Part of being a good parent & loving your child is disciplining him or her. They have to be taught right from wrong & about consequences if the parents don't teach them then they will never know. That would have to make for a very unhappy adult life. Maybe you just haven't been consistent. If youre not consistent nothing will work. I do wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

You have to use discipline or they won't listen. There is no point in listening if there is no consequence for not listening.

Try taking priveleges away. Don't give the child snacks/sodas throughout the day. Limit sugar intake and that should start better behavior. Also have a routine. Wake up at a certain time, eat at a certain time, play at a certain time. If the child doesn't listen throughout the day, don't let him/her have that extra play time.

Answer 6

2 yr olds are difficult... Hence the term "Terrible Twos". And it depends on the message you're trying to convey. Try taking away their fave toy, or telling them that you're going to give that toy to a friend of his/hers and they (the friend) will get to keep it. I have to do that to my daughter about her pennies. I'll tell her if she doesn't pick them up I'll give them to her friend. Bribing isn't good in the long run, but might give you a chance to get the child to listen and do as they are told. Time out will only work if you have a "Naughty Chair" and make sure it is out of sight, and earshot of something interesting like the TV, or toys. I hope I helped even a little bit... Good luck.

Answer 7

Why not discipline them? Too many parents let their kids get away with everything now-a-day's because they're afraid of the repercussions of discipline their children.

I turned out just fine and I got popped on the rear just about every day, or whipped with a hickory I had to pick out.

Don't beat them, but there's a huge difference between discipline and beating.

Answer 8

Children who have hearing issues tend to get frustrated very easily. Even if he is proficient at signing, it can be frustrating for him to be able to express himself. Try a method called "redirecting". When you see him doing something you don't want him to be doing, try redirecting him into doing an appropriate activity. Say he's coloring on the walls... you walk over, tell him "The walls are not for coloring on, but I have some paper over here that you can color on when you help me clean up the wall." Sign it if he can understand it. Then, you physically help him to wash the wall, and move him to where you want him to color. This way, he not only learns about what not to do (color on the walls), but how to correct his mistake and be accountable for his actions (help clean it up), as well as what is appropriate (color at the table on paper). Two year olds are tough... they are learning about the world around them, trying to figure out how they fit in, and learning about boundaries and how far they can push you. The trick is to be fair but firm. They have to know what is ok and not ok. Your house rules have to be consistent, so your child knows what is expected of them. Be consistent with your rules and you both will be happier with the results.

Answer 9

The more quietly and calmly you talk, the more likely they are to get quiet and listen. (I.E. make sure you aren't yelling, screeching, etc... nobody listens to that.)

Do you want them to listen or do something you have asked them to do? The best way to get kids to do something is to give them a bit of choice in the matter, which makes them feel like part of the process and less likley to refuse or disobey. But, only give them 2 or 3 choices and only choices YOU can live with. The first few times, that goes something like this:

You: "Junior, do you want juice or milk?"
Kid: "I want soda."
You: "Sweetie, what were your choices?"
Kid: "Juice or Milk."
You: "Do you want juice or milk?"
Kid: "Juice." (OR "Milk." - either way is fine with you because you only offerred choices YOU could live with. Now you're both happy. He's drinking something you're okay with and he got to choose.)

Another great technique is to say, "As soon as you _____ (fill in whatever you want them to do like: brush your teeth, pick up your toys, sit down, etc...) feel free to _______ (Again, fill in the reward: come watch TV, sit with me, have some juice, whatever...). OR "As soon as you get your pajamas on, I'd be happy to read you a story." Then do NOT yell or scream or nag, just calmly repeat the phrase.

My kids are older now, but my hubby & I got some parenting tapes from Love & Logic Parenting when our oldest was 3. It changed our lives and we were so much less stressed than other parents our age. Pick and choose the techniques that fit your values and then just practice... Good luck!

(OH, here's the website: http://www.loveandlogic.com ) Our favorite tape was "Helicopters, Drill Instructors and Consultants"... it was hilarious to listen to, as well.

Answer 10

I have two suggestions.
First, using short sentences, be sure to tell them what it is you don't want them to do, and what a better option is. "We sit on the couch. Couches are not for jumping on." And if need be, physically, sit him on the couch.
Also, consistency is key. If you say you'll do something as a consequence, do it. My personal way to discipline is to cross my son's arms across his chest and count to 10. I look at him and say "We don't bite." for example and cross his arms across his chest and look directly at him while I count to 10. Each time he bites, I say "We don't bite." and do it again. He learned after 2 times biting equals arm crossing, and once he bit someone and realized it and crossed his own arms, counting to ten.
Consistency and clarity are my suggestions.