Do any of you guy's out their only have one child. And, your child keeps saying they want a brother or sister and it been hard for you to get pregnant or pregnant and misscarryed. I lost 2 children do to misscarryies. and my son is 5 and he wants a sibling so bad. Any advice for me to give my child. It upsets me deeply when he askes me.
2006-07-08 18:06:13 · 11 answers · asked by sweat mamma bear 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my son is not telling us he wants a brother or sister. My husband and I are trying to get pregnant we agree that we don't want my son to be the only child. we want him to have a sibling.
2006-07-08 18:21:01 · update #1
Tell him that you understand how he feel but he has to be paitent and if you do not plan to have another on tell him that he is soooo special that God decided it was better for him to be an only child so he could give wonderful kids like him to other mommy and daddys....I have 3 of my own and just lost one and had to explain that one....It was hard as hell to do but kids seem to believe most of what we tell them so if you have to stretch the truth a bit to keep from hurting him or you then go for it and good luck I feel for you!
2006-07-08 18:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by Skywolf's Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is more upsetting to you than it is to him. I was an only child and I wanted a sibling in order to have a playmate. When I was in 4th grade we moved near my cousins and that need for someone to play with was met.
My wife and I have 3 children very close in age as do several friends of ours. The difference between them and me at such a young age is they have built in friends. Until kids get into school and develop a social circle, their playmates are in the house. A brother or sister never has to go home or anywhere for that matter without you.
If he has cousins or family close by let him visit more often. Also, if it is possible, try a pet. A long term pet, like a puppy or a kitten. This will help.
Remember he's only 5. Not only can he not have everything he wants, but he will have to share Mommy with a new baby. I never had to do that, but I observed what it was like with my children. It can be an adjustment.
On a seperate note, our best friends suffered two miscarraiges and switched OB/GYN's. There was an imbalance that was causing the miscarriages. The new doctor put her on medication to correct it and they've had 3 since then without any problems.
2006-07-09 01:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by bigtony615 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him know that you would like a sibling for him as well but sometimes things just don't work out that way. Try not to let it upset you too much. It is worrying you more than it upsets him I am sure. Keep in mind that kids are never happy. I have 3 sisters but always thought I wanted a brother. Later on I realized people always want what they don't have. I have a son and my daughter says she wants a younger sister now, and we can't have any more kids. So you never win with kids. Hope things work out for you and enjoy your son!
2006-07-09 01:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by deejo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have options.. 1) keep TTC and hope that you get pregnant and carry to term 2 ) think about adoption 3) tell him that it will happen when God ( or whoever ) thinks it is time. We are in a similar situation. My son is 3 and a half and we want to TTC for # 2 soon as we arent sure how long it will take to get pregnant ( although last time is was a one shot deal )... and my son is asking about a sibling.
Hopefully it happens for you...
2006-07-09 01:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by CAGIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child doesn't need a sibling. Your five year old should not be making ANY decisions about reproduction. Tell him when he's a grownup and married he can have babies.
I have one. We're done. She doesn't get a vote.
Besides, what he wants is a best friend. Try joining a church group with parents and kids.
2006-07-09 01:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by oarrca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just smiles soft ... as ,y heart goes out to you .. knowing that you are trying for that second child .. and that it seems so elusive with having to deal with the miscarriages ...
the best you can hope for is ... to share the ideal with your son .. that ... right now .. he is the one you have your heart focused on .. and that you all have more than enough love for another child if you are lucky enough to have one come your way ... until that time .. lets share in the moments that are .. you and him for the time ..
and make extra playdates with kids that HAVE younger siblings .. perferably ones that are distructive .. nods ... they often help to change an only childs mind quite quickly .. on having to share with a kids that breaks everything .. :0
2006-07-09 01:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by wyldeblyss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to have another child?
Kids want many things we can not give them, but if this is something you also want and can't have I recommend you look into adoption. There are many kids out here wanting to be accepted. Who knows it may be a blessing. You may want to check with companies that do International adoption I have heard the process is a bit faster.
2006-07-09 01:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly,TX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only have one child too...A son that is 4 years old...He has said to me a few times that he wants a brother or sister but i don't know for sure if i want anymore kids.
In my opinion one is enough....I will not have another child just so my son will have someone to play with..That is not a good enough reason.
All you can do is have another baby or not.....It is up to you....
2006-07-09 08:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only 1 child here but divorce may keep it this way. have more kids you will enjoy them!
2006-07-09 09:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by wreckerlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adoption works. or tell him that you can't and raise him as an only child.
2006-07-09 01:14:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋