My girlfriend and I get along just fine. We have for about a month and a half now going on two. I am the gentleman and let her speak her mind and then I give my opinion where it's wanted. She says I don't talk enough. I have always been content listening to people rather than talking. Although I am not a freakin mute. Anyways, my question is, would dating a silent kind of guy like me bug you?
2006-07-08 17:40:27 · 25 answers · asked by Cameron 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow. I didn't think I would get so many answers so fast. Thanks people. And to the first GUY that answered...it would bug me too.
2006-07-08 18:06:44 · update #1
depends on why you're silent. if you are naturally shy and a natural listener, then your girl should know that, and not be annoyed. if you're silent because you don't know what to say, start with simple questions--"how was your day", "tell me a story and I'll tell you one". she just wants to know that you think of her not only as your chick but also your friend. "Pillow talk" is important for relationships at any stage. Try telling her about your day no matter how boring it may have been to you. Relationships are about sharing and she wants to be included in your life, thats obvious. Makes sure she feels that by telling her whats on your mind, even if you think it isn't worth saying.
Silence is golden, thats what they say at least. But silence is also lonely. Talk to her, and listen too. Don't let one outweigh the other too much if you can help it.
2006-07-08 17:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is comfortable with silence, some need noise to feel comfy. Maybe it is her case or she may feel uneasy because she doubts, I mean she questions herself about the reasons why you do not speak more, she may think it is because you have no interest in speaking to her, i.e. being with her at all. She may need to be reassured that you are so well beside her that you communicate in other ways, by touching her or sharing what you like etc.
Personally, it does not bug me to have some silent moments although I must admit that I also need to communicate verbally and if the guy never talks it might be difficult to get to know him. If that is the case than you are not working for yourself. On my personal page, I have posted a quote that goes like this:
"What you believe in your heart is your own truth. Let your truth be known for the benefit of all."
Hope it helps
2006-07-08 18:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating a silent guy i dont' think would bug me at all because there are not enough men out there that let the women even speak there minds... just tell your girlfriend that you like listning to her and that you are a silent guy who cares about what she has to say!!!
Se onr sverdar sija hvass! - May your swords stay sharp!
2006-07-08 17:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! I like to do most of the talking in my relationships, but I would definitely want any bf of mine to check me, and let me know when I start to get boring. I like to bounce things off my friends&family all of the time to get their opinions about life, etc., because I value their thoughts. Sometimes I wonder though, if the other person gets tired of listening, but if you're just not a real talker, it can be hard to tell. Just be sure to let her know if she's boring you or not, because believe me, you're not doing her any favors letting her go on if she is. She's really lucky to have a nice guy like you!
2006-07-08 17:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. its so annoying when you date a guy that you always talk to and say things to and they just listen say uh huh or no.(being sarcastic). but seriously though its annoying. yes your a sweet guy and you might think your doing your part by just listening but thats not all a girl wants. we want someone that opens up to us. its nothing more important to us than to feel important that you can tell us your problems and concerns. if you want to keep this relationship working it takes two. 50/50 of the work. i mean put your self in her shoes how would you feel if you told someone alot of things about you and they dont tell you none. just open up to her itll make your relationship better.
2006-07-08 17:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mariah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because I enjoy witty conversation--and conversation involves both speaking and listening--yes, I would be bothered by someone who doesn't talk much. Some women enjoy talking about themselves so much that they would love a quiet guy like you.
2006-07-08 17:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would. Girls like to talk about their feelings and they would love to hear it back from their boyfriends. It is nice to know you can have a boyfriend and a friend in the same person
2006-07-08 17:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by delfin716 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...I like actually having a conversation with someone...which requires someone talking back or finding something to talk about...so I guess yes it would bother me.
2006-07-08 17:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I like my own space I talk only when I have something to say. I do not like chit-chat it is a wast of time.
2006-07-08 17:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by usserydog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but i'm kinda quiet too, so i'd rather date someone who talks a little more, just not too much.
2006-07-08 17:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by asueb77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋