I am a pretty cool and good looking person.....how come I only find men that treat me like *hit!!!????

Answer 1

There's a certain type of very insecure man who gets his kicks from treating goodlooking women badly. They treat all women badly, but there's an extra thrill if the woman is goodlooking (almost as if their revenge against women is sweeter because you are goodlooking).
Usually they are the ones who approach you out of the blue when you've given them zero eye contact to start with, and strike up conversation. As they have nothing to lose, they have nothing to give. Their conversation will usually have some little dig in it, which you, as the woman, will try to overcome by 'convincing' or ignore, because you want them to see you as a 'nice' person. Absolute crap. The minute they start, just turn your head and walk away. In fact, pretending not to hear them in the first place and turning away immediately will put an end to their weirdness right there and then (but don't be surprised if you get some lame and possibly aggressive comment from them - which, of course, you ignore).
People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. This means, at the first sign of disrespect, you deal with it. You have to confront it calmly and make it plain that you won't be treated like that at all, ever. The twerps who get their kicks out of dissing women will disappear very quickly from your life, and the immature ones, who copy this kind of behaviour because they think it's 'cool' will straighten up and start to be a lot more decent.
Think of yourself highly. This doesn't mean thinking that you are superior or being arrogant. It means that you think you have value as a person and require others to treat you well in order for you to pursue a relationship with them. Ultimately, although looks and being pretty cool are a draw, it is your inner self which defines your relationships with men. This is true for all women, regardless of looks or 'coolness'.
Take time to know them. Date them over a certain period of time without getting 'involved' with them. Sex releases oxytocin for women, which causes emotional bonding making it harder to make emotionally detached judgements about the man (it doesn't stop it altogether, though). Assess the man you are dating. Look at how he treats his friends, his family, his exs, people in general, and, of course, you. The minute you get a whiff of rubbish from the guy, tell him that you won't put up with it and back it up with action i.e. if he tries it again to 'test' you, you walk. Good luck - there are plenty of really good, decent men out there.

Answer 2

Hey, I'm told I'm a really attractive guy, and I am one of the sweetest nicest romantic sweethearts out there, yet still single. I want a girl to let me know she is interested in me, and if I were to do something wrong, let me know in plain terms that is not acceptable, and that your not joking. Not only the places you look, but how do they treat you at first? How are these guys acting? If it is at a bar, they will never change. And everyone says at church. That is a place to worship, not hook up. Sometimes it can work, though, just like the gocery store can too. Last of all: I always ask myself if I would or could marry this girl before I even go for the second date? Why drag out something that is not there? Is temporary fun more than longer hurt? Hope it helps, and you can ask for clarification if you would like on any of this.

Answer 3

Unfortunately the most aggressive men out there are ones that don't know how to treat a lady well, and the nice guys are looking for a girl to be more aggressive towards them. Find a cute guy that's checking you out but seems afraid to approach, and you'll likely find what you are looking for.

Answer 4

IT i know what you are talking about but that's why we have gut instincts to get out. i have been married three times yes i was just like you every guy i had ut of certain things while the getting is good .i have been married three times and dated several i was also treated like **** though i bent over backwards for these feller. my first husband beat on me rapped me stab me shot at me yet i felt i deserved it, it had to be my fault was with him till death he was 23 when he died and left me with a seven year old and feeling very worthless. 4 and half years down the road being used and abused married again only to go through the same ****. after i left this one feeling more insecure about my self and my judgment on men i swore to stay as far from them as i could get. when did this and concetrated on me and doing things to lift my confidents . i actually landed the right man. we had some hard times but we are still together.take your time vif you date let iot be just that if someone makes you uncomfortabvle or treats you lie **** get rid of them quick because they do not change. you will find mr right when you last exspect it good luck

Answer 5

There are good men out there, You just have to take your time and feel them out dont rush into anything. I had the same problem men that were assholes and treated me like **** but I finally found Mr. right. He just waltz into my life and picked up my heart and put it back together. I was at the point of totally giving up I didn't feel like there was any good guys out there. But I was wrong and I've never been happier...Sometimes you have to look back and think about what kind of guys you attract and are attracted to and go for the sweet good ones. Thats the ones who love you and will bend over backwards for your love. The problem with us finding Mr. wrong is we look for the bad asses instead of the sweet romantic ones. I had many good ones try to be with me but I passed them up for the bad asses. And I found out the hard way they are a waste of time. Dont give up you'll find him he's out there.

Answer 6

I was like you.. and used to get upset every bloke i seemed to meet treated me like c**p..i think men are stupid..sometimes they can't see a good thing when its staring them in the face..they get scared easily. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places and trying too hard..you'll never find a nice man in a club..all they are interested in is getting drunk..try taking it easy..stop looking and take that time to get to know yourself a little better and you will see that you are worth much more than any of these wasters! Its their loss..and they'll regret it when they are balding old farts living in a 1 bed dingy old flat eating meals for one with their cat!

Answer 7

You got the bad boy syndrome.... Look for a nerd and have some fun for a little while. I actually dated this really tall skinny nerdy (but cute) guy and he treated me so great, and he bought me dinners and we went dancing... I had a really good time with him. I did dump him in the end, but it taught me how to find those other men who are in between bad boys and nerds... those are the cream of the crop.

Answer 8

I have the same problem. It is hard to find a good guy but you will.. Just be who you are. If they treat you bad in the first month or so of dating them get rid of them. No man is worth all the pain.

Answer 9

I can if you give me a chance! juz kidding! well its simple, its just hanging around the right person. I dont think you wanna be courted by strangers in the wind, whom u dont know. I think what you should do is be open minded and be more smart when it comes to love. Coz you cant always trust someone or give your love to just because of first impressions. Lastly, my advice..Its better to be friends first, until you know you can trust that person and eventiually give your most precious love to him ok!! Oh.dont take it seriously this is just an advice from the many more advices. It is you who will make your own decision.Choose well! think twice or thrice girl!!

Answer 10

Ever heard the saying "Lookin for love in all the wrong places" . Or maybe this will help.... If you keep going down the same road, your gonna end up in the same place.... A woman deserves to be treated with respect.... as long as she acts as if she should be respected.