What can I do to build up me self esteem?

Question

My self esteem is low. and it sucks.

Answer 1

think of everyone else and the fact that they are worse.

Answer 2

The first step is to like yourself. If there's something you dont like about yourself, then change it. Self esteem is simply being pleased with who you are. If YOU like YOU, then you'll be self assured, pleased, and happy. And others will like you as well.

Answer 3

Set some new realistic goals for yourself,surround yourself with more positive people/friends,STOP thinking negative thoughts and get closer to JESUS OUR SAVIOR.

Answer 4

1. stop all self criticism! as often as possible give your self a positive, friendly, encouraging, loving, healthy pep talk and try to notice how and when you 'dis' your self and just stop it! or tell your self something positive to discount your inner critic that habitually puts you down.
2 try to identify who in your past (parent, relative, etc.) treated you badly and said ugly things to you like your own inner critic tells you now. then when the inner criticism starts you can just laugh at whoever it was that used to say/do those critical things to you because now you are in charge of your inner self talk and don't have to repeat or give attention to what those critics from the past said and did to you.
3. do mirror work! look at your self in the mirror and say or feel as many nice, friendly, appreciative things as you can think of and for as long as you can stand it. look deeply and lovingly into your own eyes, at you body, hair, features WITHOUT CRITICISM!!! this will be very hard at first and most folks whimp out and quit to the perfect joy of their inner critic who just loves it when they give up and return to the critic's comfort zone of (your) self contempt! stay with this mirror work until you can do it as long as you wish and the positive things you say and give your self become BELIEVEABLE to you. people LIED to you when they said unfriendly, unloving things to and about you in the past so, when doing mirror work, you are simply telling your self the truth about your goodness and you will gradually begin to believe this new 'truth' as it replaces the old LIES others dumped on you from the past when you were little and vulnerable.
4. start a journal in which you recount all that you do in a day and write good, loving, friendly things about your actions and heap praise on your self for doing whatever was courageous and honorable, etc. write to and about your self often in wonderful, friendly terms recounting all that's good and noble about you which will deal a death blow to the inner critic's need to keep you as beaten down as those who beat you down to begin with - most likely one or both of you parents!
5. when you make mistakes (and you will), be calm and forgiving with you self and try to avoid the habitual tendency to mentally beat your self up (as you were taught to do in early childhood) over mistakes . you can admit to a mistake without KILLING your self over it. try to see an error as a chance to learn, improve and grow so it won't happen again (although it often does!).

there are so many self improvement techniques out there and i'm sure you can find lots of this stuff in libraries, bookstores and online by looking into self esteem, self respect, self love, self improvement, etc. and when you get going, it will be a dramatic improvement over your present 'low' state of mind/feelings which will impact everyone you know or come in contact with - EXCEPT - EXCEPT - those in your family and/or near you who 'dised' you in the past and are hoping that you will go on being the beaten down little person they need to DIS whenever possible. when you get some spine and learn to love your self, they will just HATE IT and try to push you back down into your old 'less-than' position but with a little effort and maybe some supportive high self esteem friends, you will withstand their sinnister manipulations to bring you back down so they will feel strong and secure around you. it really helps to have a support group of some kind when you first go in search of better self worth because your nearest 'friends' and family may over-react and fight to keep you down and manageable.
you are worth it so take a leap into self love......
good luck,
jim

Answer 5

don't give a shiznit about what people say

Answer 6

Never look back, and be yourself.