How would u react if the guy you've been dating exclusivley for several months professes his love for you ( he was pretty toasted for the over 21ers) and says his ex's name??
2006-07-08 16:55:44 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-07-08 16:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he called you by his X's name doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or that he's still thinking about her. Our memories are stored in our mind according to their association with similar things. Often, when I'm trying to recall another persons name, 2 or 3 names of people will come into my mind. The people whose names come up all have some similar association. By paying attention to this it seems that my memories are not only filed because of an association but that they are cross filed by other associations as well.
Normally, when 2 or 3 names come into my mind at the same time I will just pick the correct one and say that. But, some times
for whatever reason, the wrong name will come up.
I wouldn't use this criteria to judge whether your B/F loves you or not. Is he considerate of you? Does he sometimes put your desires above his own? Does he act as if he cares about you even if he's tired? There are a number of things a person can use to tell if someone really loves you. If he meets all the other criteria, I wouldn't worry about an occasional slip of the tongue.
2006-07-08 17:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done that before, not intentionally and didn't mean anything buy it. It does not mean that he's seeing her or thinks about her. It may mean that you did or said something that subconsciously reminded him of her. However, I would be concerned if he called her name during sex (then you have a problem). For the most part you shouldn't worry about it.
There's an old wives tale that states that if you say a persons name for no apparent reason then that person must be talking about you.
2006-07-08 19:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh. That is terrible. I guess you have to take into consideration that he was drunk - but still. One of my own insecurities with my bf is that he hasn't completely forgotton about his ex, so if that happened to me - I'd probaby have a break down! :) What I'm saying, is that it depends on what the rest of your relationship is like. If he's never given you reason to think that he's still into his ex before, then he was likely just being an idiodic waste case and you should forget about it. However, if his ex has come up as an issue before in your relationship, you should definitely be concerned and address it with him.
2006-07-08 16:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever u do don't dump him. Just ask y he has done that. He's probably still thinkin of his ex. But don't b thinkin that he cheated on u wit her. Cuz I'm sure that didn't happen. Really I wouldn't think it's a big deal. Just ask him some questions about it and get over wit it. But if it's some bad answers then u probably should go for dumpin him.
2006-07-08 17:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by phillyborn1@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well If I was you I would be a little ticked off but since he was toasted, give the guy a break as long as he hasn't done this before.
2006-07-08 16:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that he dont Love you if he calls you by ex's name.Ex is past and you are present . Its probably we are used to some names and this seems to be the case with ur BF.Sometimes i call my daughter by my sister's name and yesterday i kept saying my brother's name while talking about my brother in law until my wife corrected me.So sometimes this happens , not a big deal.Dont excuse ur BF for this.If u wish u can chat with me on this issue............. Enjoy life ........... Bye...............lol
2006-07-08 17:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by chdman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's been calling you his ex's name for several months.... I would say it's not out of the realm of possibility that he may still be seeing the ex. Think about it.. Or of course he could just be a dumbarse....
2006-07-08 16:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok its one thing to do it if you guys have been going out for about anywhere from 1-6 mths. but after that there's no excuses. obviously he still thinks about her or he's been keeping in touch. and it can be possible that he might of said it to see how you would react to it. just call him someone else's name too and show him how it feels. when he gets mad explain to him that it doesnt feel to good huh, and hopefully hell get the idea if he doesnt n remains to do it, he still talks to her.
2006-07-08 17:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by Mariah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably harmless. Especially since you haven't been dating long. Actually I did it once, but made a last minute recover that actually worked. "Hey Angie.... (pause) .... said that I have one of her CDs. I think she's crazy though This probably isn't the best time to talk about this.... I'll just drop it." =P
It wasn't that I was thinking about my ex... It's just that I wasn't thinking at all.
2006-07-08 17:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by linetap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i first got together w/my current boyfriend i had just got divoced a year before i called my current by my ex's name a few times for the first month we were together. i didnt mean it, he was just doing somehting that reminded me of my ex. i apologized and we moved on and now im used to his name but sometimes i slip up and almost call him by my ex. thank god my current loves me anyway!
2006-07-08 17:00:37 · answer #11 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋