If a person is in pain and they dont want your help but you love them and there very close what happens?

Answer 1

ask them okay so you dont want my help but I feel the need to do somethin.... please be a good friend to me by telling me what I can do for you.... then do it...

If they insist they dont want your help... then do nothing...

Answer 2

The only way is to try and help in indirect ways. You need to think hard to find out how you could help them without taking this into their face. I am sure you can find small subtle ways in which you could help without that person ever noticing. But they will realize this when they get over the situation or problem.

The most important thing is for you not to look for recognition. If you are a true friend to this person, you will not be needing thank-yous and appreciation right now. These will be there even if you don't see them.

Answer 3

I see this all to often. In your particular situation, I'm sure that you are hurting and for that, I am truly sorry. It's never easy. I have been an E.M.T. for 14 years, and all to often we get called out to help people that don't want our help; by people who care about them. From a legal standpoint, there is nothing you can do about it until that person passes out, or worse, dies. As long as there is no D.N.R, or "living will", you can help them once they go unconscious under the guidelines of the law. I do not feel sorry for these folks, instead, I feel empathy. Many people have a terminal illness, and are aware that, no matter what you do for them their days are numbered. Love them for who they are, remember the good times, and just be there for them. They understand what you are going through; have them help you cope.

Answer 4

Well ,if it's mental pain, then you can try to plan small activities that make them think about something else. Physical pain, that's a whole other ball field. However, even people with physical pain do like to get out & do things. But small things- Lunch at a new place, etc... Just be their friend.

Answer 5

IF you really loved them you would contact their doctor and tell the doctor this person is in some kind of pain and you don't know what to do to help

Answer 6

Sadly there isn't too much that you can do. However, you might want to suggest that they get professional help or some other sort of help. A lot of times all we can do when people we love are hurting is simply just be there for them....

Answer 7

You stand by and let them know that you are there for them and offer up your help when you
can. This is hard to stand by and watch and this
person not let you in to help but in the end when this person sees that you are still standing there waiting to help they will love you for this.

Answer 8

Make the decision that whether or not this person is willing to accept your help now, you will be there for this person if they want your help in the future. And be there no matter what happens.

Answer 9

Sometimes just standing by their side and let them know that you care...is all it takes, you don't need to give EVERYONE advice. Or to bother them so. Sometimes some people do better without help...some just don't want to feel like a burden. I would just stand by their side and wait for them to come to you. It will happen.

Answer 10

It depends on how close you are to them. Sometimes it's enough just to let them know how much you care and remind them that you are there for them when and if they need you.
Don't keep harrassing them to talk about it - you may push them further away

Answer 11

sometimes the best thing you can do is sit and wait until they are ready to talk. then you need to be there to just listen. sometimes being the person at the bottom of the foot step is the best position you can be at . just be ready to catch them when they fall.