I am getting pulled into the middle of it and i have told them to leave me out. It is starting to get a little stressfull. How do i tell them to leave me out of it and get it though thier heads in a nice way.
2006-07-08 16:48:47 · 7 answers · asked by dayna_85_05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thay both live with me and when one goes to bed the other one starts i don't want to be mean and walk away but when i tell them i don't want in the middle one of them get mad.The bad part is thay are sisters.
2006-07-08 17:02:58 · update #1
Everytime they start talking about anything that has to do with the family, cut them off nicely and tell them you don't want to talk about it. And don't let yourself get in the middle. Because it always comes back and bites you in the ***..
2006-07-08 16:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is always a tough one. What does your husband say about it? When all else fails, be pleasant but firm and say that you are going to remain neutral in this situation. You love them all too much to get tangled up in the middle of the situation.
Or move to Hawaii for a while....
2006-07-08 23:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by Miracle Max 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband may have to get involved. Have you talked to him about how you feel?
If you can, tell them while they are all together that they need to grow up and sove things between themselves. Your husband should back you up and tell them to leave you out of their nasty bickering.
If they are deent people they will apologize to you - If they are horrible, they will probably turn on you next -
sorry
2006-07-08 23:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by BigBadBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell each family member that is involved in the conflict that you care about them equally and do not wish to be involved in a situation that could compromise your relationship with them. Let them each know that because of this, you would rather stay out of the conflict completely and that they should please respect your feelings
2006-07-08 23:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by jeanhack42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell them in a firm voice "uhm don't put me in the middle of this cause i'm not trying to be put on anybody 's side so solve this little problem yourself "and walk away
2006-07-08 23:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by mocha-fava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you are sorry that things are so bad but you don't want to get involved. Make yourself scarce until it gets sorted out.
2006-07-08 23:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell them anymore, you just remove yourself. When they call don't answer, when they come over....remain firm "I am not a part of this, and I refuse to let you draw me into your drama!"
2006-07-08 23:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋