how can i get my 6 year old to to crying?

Question

when she dont get her way she will cry and cry intil she gets her way,i dont give in all the time and i dont want to be mean all the time..... can you please help me

Answer 1

~~don't back down, it's the worst thing you can do... be consistant, let her cry, and tell her if she is going to cry to go do it in her room and when she is done crying and wants to discuss things like a "big girl" that she can come out.... when she comes out to discuss it, you still need to hold firm and hold to your answer... the discussion can be on why you answered her the way you did, but the answer still holds... if she goes back to crying have her return to her room.... if you stay consistant with this, she will eventually get tired of being sent to her room. it will be hard on you to hear her cry, and she may even scream louder being separated from you but you need to be consistant.... and let her cry it out. don't go to her when she is crying it out in her room she will see it as a sign of weekness and an open opportunity to continue thinking she will eventually wear you down. let her come to you when she is done crying. hold tight, sometimes "tough love" is the answer~~

Answer 2

What I do with my six year old (boy) I let him cry and if it goes on too long I just pick him up and put him in his bed. I tell that I said no and when he is calm and ready to talk about it he comes out. I just explain to him when it is about food that healthy choices are better. when it is about toys or something I tell him about how some places in the world they don't have any toys and he is lucky becuase he already has a lot. I also have a reward system for him - his jobs daily are to 1) make his bed (best that he can) get dressed-feed the cat- brush his teeth and pick up his toys-anything else he helps me with he gets a set amount (he will help me dust the house he gets 25cents if he picks up someone else in the houses mess he get 10 cents so then we go every month and cash his change and he get a little toy from Target or somewhere sometimes he needs a dollar extra (cause he don't really understand taxes) but then he earned his toy sometimes he will save his dollars so he can get a bigger toy next time. That way he is earning his own rewards anyway that seemed to stop the "fake tears"
Good Luck

Answer 3

You really answered your own question. you said she cries and cries UNTIL she gets her way. you need to talk to her sometime when she is being very good.Explain to her how it makes you feel whenshe cries. tell her that she is a big girl,and you are so happy when she acts nicely. Tell her that some times you will give her what she wants,but there will be times when you won't be able to give her what she wants. Tell her that from now on, you will NEVER, EVER give her something if she cries for it. Crying is for when you are hurt or sad. My children learned at a very young age that the quickest way NOT to get something was to whine or nag or cry for it. It was helpful for me and our children to tell them ahead of time. For example, when you are still at home you might say,"Mommy has $5 extra dollars this week. If you are helpful today and act nicely,you may choose something to buy when we go to the tore." Or you might say, "Today we are going to the store to buy food and a birthday present for your cousin. Mommy doesn't have extra $ for a treat for you today, but I need you to help me choose just the right gift. Then remind her again before you go into the store. Praise her highly when she acts nicely. If she makes a scene after this, I'd tell her."Sorry, but now you won't be able to get a treat next time we go out ,either". You can do this. Just be strong and consistent,because if you don't stop this unacceptable behavior now, you'll be in big trouble when she is 16. good luck.

Answer 4

I had 4 children. I got help from several books and my experience taught me that kids will control the situaltion and everyone around them if they can. They are master manipulators, because they are smart and they are human like the rest of us. We have to teach them that they are not the boss at this age because they are not old enought to be making good and responsible decisions for themselves - they will end up hurt or dead! To do this they cannot recieve mixed messages- sometimes us giving in and some times saying no to their incessant crying- which is manipulation unless they are physically hury or have been abused . I wish I had done a better job of it. But I am glad to say that I did not put up with whining, and made them speak in a big girl voice when they simply wanted some more icecream or whatever. I did not have a man to help me , being a single parent with four little ones. Recently I saw a 3 year old cry when her brother took his toy away from her. Her wonderful loving daddy instead of telling the boy to share, told her to stop that crying. When she didn't he spanked her ( not real hard) and said stop that , we're not gonna have that crying! . She stopped immediately. She knew she was really whinning to get the toy back or feeling sorry for herself because she wanted his toy. But her daddy was telling her she cant have everything she wants. She could have broken his toy and he didnt have to share it. She has her own toy s and plenty of them! I was amazed. I was surprised. But it worked. Listen to Dr. James Dobson's Focus on the Family Radio show. It helped me tremendously. Call 1-800-afamily. Free help on any suject! Jesus loves you!

Answer 5

Sorry but there is nothing mean about being a parent. You wouldn't want her to do that in school or in life. You have to set strict boundaries. If she does that do not give here what she wants until she can be calm and polite. She is old enough to understand what that means. She is not a baby anymore. You must work at this, this isn't going to change overnight. You have to be persistant you are the parent and you just have to show her that there is no comprimise.

Answer 6

My, children learn how to manipulate at a young age. . .

She knows that this wears on your nerves, and that it makes you feel bad. What you need to do is explain to her that when you say "no", the discussion is over, and if she continues with things, she must go to her room. Then when she begins to fight and cry, send her off to her room.

Don't feel bad about not giving in to her. When she grows up, she will appreciate the boundaries you had set for her when she was young. Too many parents don't want to be "the bad guy" and give into their children. That is why we have so many disrespectful children and teens today. . .

Answer 7

Give her a hug and hold her until she stops crying. Explain to her gently that that is not the right way to get what she wants. Figure out a way between the two of you on how she can earn what she wants, she is old enough to do that.

Answer 8

It's not being mean. It's called being a parent. A child's crying can be annoying but if you just keep letting her cry she may come to the conclusion that she isn't going to get her way.

Answer 9

Giving in just once gives them an edge over you. They know that you will cave in eventually. You need to be strong. Tell her that if she continues to cry that she will be punished...like taking away TV, toys, etc. Babying a child too much will turn out bad because as adults they won't learn how to do things for themselves.

Answer 10

the number one rule for Parenting is to follow thru you have to be persistent and not give in ... Have you tried time out ?? I found sending my children to there room did not work though because there were too many fun things in there .. So we have a small 1/2 bath in the downstairs of our house and that where they had there time out ... you give them one min for each year old they are if after that time she still has not stoped crying then you add more time ... But whatever you decided you CANNOT give in !!!