Ladies - there are a million "non-hot" guys out there that embody exactly what you are looking for in a man. They will treat you like gold. They will work hard at the relationship There's only one problem: guys are told that if they aren't Brad Pitt (or some equivilent), you won't even look twice at them. This causes a lot of guys to give up.
What can these guys do to make you look past their external imperfections and see the real great guy inside? Don't say sense of humor. We all know that's crap. There are a lot of funny lonely guys out there. There's something missing to this equation.
Tell us the secret.
2006-07-08 16:45:05 · 16 answers · asked by contrafilms 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did I say this was about me? Why does everyone ASSUME this? Read the question. I'm asking this for all the guys out there who are losing hope. I'm not.
2006-07-08 16:53:53 · update #1
If there are truly guys out there hot or not that will treat a woman like gold, then they need to make themselves seen. If we don't see or hear him, then he does not exist.
2006-07-08 16:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
This is what I tell my single friend, Tim. Stop chasing after girls, and get your mind stuck on finding a woman. Girls--who can range from teens on up--still think that they need to "hold out" for the "perfect guy," when, in fact, he doesn't exist.
A great sense of humor really is key, but since you don't want to hear that, then here's two more to chomp on--confidence and originality. You don't have to walk into a room like you own the place (even if you do), but if you know you have something to offer, then walk taller and smile. Some smart cookie will catch on. If not, those women weren't worth your time anyway!
As for originality, negative attention is not better than no attention, so aim or being rememberable, without being trite, corny, or even borderline rude. Pick-up lines? No. Cute jokes? Sure. Anyway, start with that smile. Even if you have to think of a joke in your head (e.g. What did Obewan [I don't know how to spell it!] say to Luke during lunch? "Use the forks, Luke!").
Don't give up. Sure, there are a lot of funny lonely guys out there, but some of them are also considered Brad Pitt. Confidence and originality...and smile!
By the way, everyone assumed this is about you because you didn't specify otherwise. We aren't mind-readers!
2006-07-08 23:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong about the sense of humor thing, Because that is exactly what attracts me to a guy also a little confidence and a romantic nature goes along way too.
I know it's hard to believe but it is true, There is no point in going out with a brad pitt look alike if he hasn't got what it takes to keep my mind interested.
2006-07-08 23:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those things that gets easier as you get older. I was never into "superhot" guys. I was a dancer and model, and I thought that most super-cute guys were only into themselves, and that turned out to be pretty much true. I have noticed, though, that age is kind of a great equalizer. Cute guys get less cute, and everyone ends up looking closer to the same.
I have always like funny guys, smart guys, and nice guys. Girls of substance will too, and the rest can go to hell, they're not worth you trippin.
2006-07-08 23:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by kimba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You can't fight biology. Women are naturally attracted to men who are gorgeous - and vice-versa. Oddly enough, this changes in converse (is that the right word?) proportion as people age. Older women are more attracted to men who embody the traits you describe, while older men, including those nice, considerate, non-hot ones, are still attracted to women who are - yep - gorgeous. And most gorgeous women are young women, another truth that people seem to try to deny. There is no secret; these are the facts of life. I hope this helps.
2006-07-08 23:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ana Thema 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't go for hot guys cuz there the once that break ur hart guys
they dont have to be brad pitt but how they are if there nice or easy going thats what makes them cute whats what i think
2006-07-08 23:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personally i do look for inner side of men. Ive been with my husband for 10 yrs. now and its because of what he is on the inside. i used to be that girl who only looked for outside appearances until i got treated like crap and found out the hard way. don't give up there are alot of girls who look at the inner beauty, just have to look a little harder. have they tried going to church and looking for someone? they will find someone one day but the most important thing is to be happy with yourself first, because if you are not happy with yourself you cant be happy with someone else. you know you are a good person have more confidence in yourself and you will find happiness. good luck to all the men looking for the right girl
2006-07-08 23:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beauty is in the eye of the beholder. society only looks at the outward appearance also. i dont agree with that at all. looks helps but its whats on the inside that counts. i truly believe that. i dont know the secret, however women ultamatly look for stability, good values, ect. in a man. i do anyways. someone they can share everything with. meeting someone that compliments you- shes out there. maybe, you are going for the wrong woman.
2006-07-08 23:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by sweetthang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really simple really. well first let me tell you a little story. I've had my eyes on this one guy that practically no one wants to date in my whole school . I'm waiting for him to ask me out but i think hes afraid to. I'm not looking for someone who has drop down gorgeous looks. I'm looking for a good personality which includes humor, honesty, trust, nice, sometimes picks on me now and then, kids around with me, and is responsible. i try to pick people who i think are not necessarily beautiful on the outside but beautiful on the inside because in the end its the inside that counts. i hope this answer helps. really all I'm looking for in a guy is someone who can be themselves around me.
2006-07-08 23:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by esile619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but if you treat a woman like she doesn't matter that much, you'd probably get her attention more. I know it sounds crazy, but I have found it to be true.
If you're an average joe, what type of women are you trying to get? Average? above average? If you expect a woman to lower her standards for you, maybe you should lower yours as well.
2006-07-08 23:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by mistressmalice23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be truthfully allot of girls are shallow and they do look on the outside i don't think their is any secret i think if you be yourself and someone will come along and the one who does will deserve you for all the other women their just missing out. Its like we need to fit in socially (lame i know) and we need to have that piece of arm candy to go with it but what we don't realize is that if you love someone you will fit in no matter what. And i hate to admit but package does matter (see shallow) if their is no spark in the bedroom it wont last i mean it will drag out because of feelings and what not but it will end. and for all the good girls out their when good man comes along we are so blind and damaged that we don't see em (baggage) and they slip away because we don't realize it i just hope that God will send me someone to love me and i will do the same for you good luck
2006-07-09 00:00:48 · answer #11 · answered by kathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋