How can I get money at my wedding?

Question

I ask because we have everything we need (household wise) dont want to end up with a bunch of crappy blenders or things i dont want. We're saving for a house.

such some rude answers for a simple question.

Answer 1

I know exactly what you mean, these rude ignorant people just have nothing better to do. I'd go with the money tree or money box at the reception and the money dance. Or politely put on the invitation that you're not registered anywhere. Good luck on your new home and marriage!

Answer 2

Tell your maid of honor to pass the information on. Do not write that in your invitation. That is beyond tacky. If someone asks you what you want them to get you, technically you shouldn't even answer them with "Oh, we want money" because that is very rude. Unless you are getting married for money, then I guess go for it. You could register somewhere that has a very open return policy, and return gifts for cash. But your guest are not required to bring a gift in the first place. Instead of a traditonal registry, you could start a honeymoon registry, or a new home registry, or something like that. A lot of banks will allow you to set something like that up. Pretty much people just give you money to go towards your large purchases. I've seen a few websites dedicated specifically to these type of things. The dollar dance is also another way to get money. But it takes up a lot of time, and some of your guests may find it rude. I was just at a wedding about a month ago that did a dollar dance, and many of the guest were saying how tacky it was, and were ready to leave because it was taking so long. Think of the dollar dance this way... you ask people to come to your bridal shower and give you a gift, then you ask them to come and bring a gift to your wedding, be that cash or a actaul item, and then you ask them to give you money so they can dance with you. To me it seems a bit greedy.

Answer 3

Just ask for money, but don't put that in the invitation, it's not proper etiquette, and it's tacky. You have to have family and friends spread the word, but beware, you're still going to get gifts, so you might as well register somewhere so you at least get what you want. I just got married 2 weeks ago and we spread the word that we wanted money, but we also registerd at Bed Bath & Beyond for those that really don't want to give money. We had our family and friends spread the word and if anyone seemed like they really didn't want to give money then they were told where we were registered. We had a guest list of 110, and we got a lot of money and just a few gifts, it worked out perfect. But, if you don't register anywhere, you're going to get gifts that you don't want and can't be returned. It will work, I promise. We got way more money than I ever thought and it really came in handy.
There is also the dollar dance at the reception. I believe someone mentioned that all ready. We did not do that, but a friend did and they got a wad of cash for it. I think that is a little tacky, though.

Answer 4

i wouldn't flat out ask for money. i am sure you will get some money for your wedding from some people. if you get things you do not want just take them back after the wedding and get the money for it. i understand totally where you are coming from. i was kind of in your same position. my fiance then and i had all we needed between two households. we did register at some places and thought we could just get new and get rid of the old. i understand that won't work for you. like i said, just take the gifts back after the wedding. and i would also suggest not registering anywhere. and if people ask, just say we are saving for a house, money would be very helpful. well, good luck on your big day. have fun and enjoy. it only comes once in a lifetime. oh yeah, we ended up with three mixers and five toaster ovens. lol. we just took all but one of each back and got the money for it.

Answer 5

I'm sorry, that money dance thing is silly. $75 is nothing to go towards a house! A trend for many weddings recently has been to register for household goods for the shower and then money is given at the wedding. Its not tacky. Disregard the comments saying you are marrying for money and that nonsense... it is a very common request to want money at your wedding. I think most people would rather give money because you dont have to worry if people are going to like it or not... gifts are supposed to convey a sense of "knowing" the person. If it isnt tacky to register for gifts i.e. telling people what to get you, how is it tacky to say you'd prefer money instead?

Answer 6

Before the wedding be sure to understand that a wedding is celebrating your love together and inviting you family and friends to share in the celebration. IF they bring anything that is an extra( the gravy) of the day! Save up for your own house by beginning a budget before the wedding and stick to it. There was a good budget expert. with an easy budget to follow .on Oprah one day, try it. You will be happier that you two saved the money for your home instead of making your guests feel uncomfortable!

Answer 7

Are you familiar with the dollar dance? All the weddings I've been to in the last few years included one. The guys line up to pay to dance with the bride and the maid of honor collects the money--usually in a cute satin bag or something--and the girls line up to dance with the groom, etc., for about a minute each. There is no set cost. People pay anywhere from a dollar up to even twenty or more.

Answer 8

You can just hope that people give money as gifts, but you should never expect any gifts from your guests. The point of a wedding is to make that commitment with someone you love, not to get gifts. More then half the guests at my wedding didnt even give a gift. We could have used money too. I think anyone could, but we weren't expecting it. Some people dont like to give money either so if you get things you dont need bare with it.

Answer 9

You can have a dollar dance. Where everyone pays a dollar to dance with you. Also you could have a money tree. Get one of those metal card holders that looks like a tree and have whoever that is setting up the reception put a dollar on it, everyone will catch on. Or you could simply ask for no presents on the invitation.

Answer 10

I think your best bet is to pass the word around to close friends and family that you would appreciate money instead of gifts. That way when people ask those close around you, they can spread the word. I personally am not a fan of money dances, but if you want to do one, then that would be a good way to get a small amount too!