There's this guy that I like, and would like to date. I told him so but since he just got out of a bad relationship(about 3 weeks back)he said he's not ready to get into another one right now n needs some space and time. I said ok..i'd wait. After that I have been just a friend to him and been really nice and understanding with him. Today, I showed him some pics of my friends and he looked interested in 2 of them. I asked him if he would like me to find out if they are single (dont know why I said that).. he suddenly got really excited and said yes! and asked me to get their phone numbers too. Now I feel really bad. he says he's not ready to get into anything now and then he gets all excited and eager with these girls. The least he can do for me is say no to me and then ask me for my friends' details... right? Also, over the past few days, I've noticed he looks at me 4 longer time and his voice is sometimes softer when he talks to me. What's happening?? Please help.PS: I'm 25 n he's 30
2006-07-08 16:06:21 · 18 answers · asked by Orchid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-07-08 16:07:44 · update #1
He may be realing what he wants in life. My wife and I are best friends. Take it slow...that's the best way for the long term.
2006-07-08 16:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by bill6866 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 42. Whew! he's not ready for a real relationship yet. what I mean by real is someone he can or will live the rest of his life with. I know a girl who's a friend who did that once and cried all day. When I asked her what was wrong she told me the truth. She wanted to be with the guy but had turned him on to one of her friends. My advise to her was this. Next time when you are interested in someone don't hand them over to a friend. This will only disappoint your feelings for him. And if you can recognize that he jumps to your friends like that when you told him you were interested then that shouold be enough to tell you that he isn't your type. You'll only get hurt in the long run. Try to get over it and move on. It's your best bet. He'll see the mistakes he made later. By then you'l probably be happy and in love with a better person. I hopes this helps.
2006-07-08 16:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look I'm only 18 and have no dating experience, but I do have guy friends who I had to help them go through this before.if you want to know something, the best way is to ask. You can say something like this is the last time I am going to ask you and after this time I will never bring it up again, would you consider going out with me. And all you have to do is say it like you would asking a normal question. Also if he is 30 maybe he should know how to deal with something like this. Anyway give it a try and see what happens. Good luck I m rooting for you!!
2006-07-08 16:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you showing him pics of your friends? Sit, down, take a deep breath and listen. He does not like you. He will only use you to get to your friends. If you want to, give him the numbers and let him go. If you do not he will only hurt you. He was trying to be nice with the original answer, but now he is obviously "feeling better" and chose a friend over you.
The sooner your cut yourself loose from him, the closer you get to the guy who was really meant for you.
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2006-07-08 16:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by BigDaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a 17year old dude . now i know u r think , ' what the hell does a 17 year old know?' well i know all alot actually. im not going to tell you what to do but only suggest. this guy sees u to much as a friend now. even if you try to flirt with him, the only thing u r going to get back is probably more flirt. there is 2 things to do. 1). striaght up and tell him how much you really love/like him or 2). get really romantic with him and give him certain 'hints'. No.2) will work for sure.
2006-07-08 16:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him telling you that he needs time and space really means that he's just not that into you and he's waiting for someone else. The softer voice thing could be guilt on his part for being honestly interested in your friends over you, or you could just be hearing what you want to hear. Either way, onwards and upwards. Find someone who is into YOU and don't mention your friends unless he asks! lol.
2006-07-08 16:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by AmazonGoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because he isn't looking for anything serious. There's a good possibility he may actually like you in a longer term sense, but again he doesn't want long term. I've had this happen before, and timing sucks sometimes...
Man, this is two questions, I want 4 points... I'm 28.
2006-07-08 16:24:01 · answer #7 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age 29. Sounds like he wants you overall. But wants to experience a 4 way with you and your friends first.
2006-07-08 16:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl, but I can tell you something... if he looks at you longer and his voice softens when he talks to you... he's getting more interested.
He might want info on the other girls to compare, or to ask about you. Take it slow and good luck! (42)
2006-07-08 16:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by curiouschick18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably will talk to your friends on the phone about your personality and he does like you im 20
2006-07-08 16:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋