my parents wont let me go out w/ my friends unless they're able 2 go. how do i convince them 2 let me go alone

Question

they say that they used to trust me but they're afraid i'll give out my phone number or something. i've done that before. so yeahh. i dont know what to do. im supposed to be having fun w/ my friends cuz its summer, but i dont know how to do it when im "under supervision" all the time. please help. i

im fourteen. they're afraid that i'll do something to disappoint them.

Answer 1

Looks like you did this to yourself. Good job to your mom and dad. They sound like very smart people.

Answer 2

Hi sorry that your summer is not what its suppose to. I am not sure how old you are, but that is prob. one consideration that your parents are going by. Also how good you are at listening to your parents and not make smart comments about there rules. I will tell you this when I was young I listened to my parents, but it always went one ear and out the other. So I would sneak out with my friends on the weekend and later take the punishment later Lol. Now for being a boy its not so bad, but when it comes to girls its another story. Girlfriends that I knew when they got in trouble they got in trouble and were not able to got out for a week. All parents that have daughters are really protective on them. What I think you need to do is earn your trust with your parents show them that you are responsible they may not listen to you, but you have to be persistent. Ask what you can do to acknowledged that your a young responsible adult. Your summer might be shot, but if you work hard next summer will be a whole better experience I guarantee it. I should know its all on how your act and kissing assist. lol so good luck not unless you tie your parents up will you ever go out lol.

Answer 3

Watch a certain show they aired on Dr. Phil about this situation. I know it sounds funny but I think it's a great idea. I suggest you look for it and watch it with your parents. My friends sis recorded the show and watched it with her parents. They came up with deal and ideas and what both sides would benefit from it. It was about a 13 year old girls mother that became paranoid when she lost her daughter when she was younger. Than the neighborhood they were living in, there was a registered petafile which made the situation worse for her to go out with friends. But now she goes fine now and her mom is in programs also enjoying herself. Or you can do what I did to convince my parents. Since I had nothing to hide. I'll have my friends parents talk to mine and I'll give my mom all my friends numbers and their parents numbers and I'll tell her where I'm going, how she can reach me if she gets worried, and when and how I'm getting back home. It worked out for me between the age of 11 and 15. After proving them and never messing up as I turned 16 they basically let me do what I want. but I suggest you stop passing out your number. Plus you must be hiding something and let me tell you. All parents sense that. Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

You didn't mention how old you are and that's a big part of their decision making. You can convince your parents you are responsible enough to go out with your friends by being responsible about other things. You could arrange to have discussion time with your parents and show them your maturity by compromising on significant issues. You can let them see you really want to re-earn their trust and ask them how to do it.

And lighten up. Be thankful that you have parents who insist on behavior that protects you and who give you freedom to do things as you show you can handle it appropriately.

Be honest with yourself and with them. And if they say no, don't badger them or have a tantrum. Ask how you can adjust your behavior in order to get a yes answer next time and remember that you are precious beyond all things to them and they aren't going to let you go if they think you might get hurt or worse.

You're a lucky girl.

Answer 5

IF you have given you parents reason to not trust you, forget it. Really. You have to win your parents trust back and that takes TIME. And lots of it. You are still a kid, and yes I can call you that cause you ARE. Like it or not. Your parents are doing their job. They're keeping you safe and out of trouble. See if you can invite your friends over for a sleep over or something. You won't convince them to let you go anywhere with your friends untill they trust you. Believe me, I understand, I was a kid too.

Answer 6

HOW OLD ARE YOU??? If you are under 12 then it's understandable but embarrassing so the only smart thing you can do is, try to gain their trust back. And that is entirely up to U
GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

You have smart parents that care about you. It's up to you to earn their trust again by doing what is expected of you. Show you can be responsible and I'm sure they will give you more freedom.

Answer 8

Invite your friends for dinner to yours house so your parents can get to know them , and make sure they behave in front of them if not then you got 2 extra people bumming out your summer again

Answer 9

1st off you don't say how old you are. I'm assuming your are a pre-teen. Parents have the right to put their foot down on you if you've been non trustworthy, broken curfews, have lied etc. You must need supervision or your parents wouldn't be providing it for you :)

Answer 10

My parents did the same thing until I proved to them that I responsible enough to go out alone.

Answer 11

Think yourself lucky, I'm 24 and I've still got my mother phoning me to make sure I'm okay!

Parents worry, it's what they do (I should know I am one). You have to gain back their trust which won't be easy. Hopefully you've learned from your mistakes and your parents will see that.