Let say the one you love isn't rich and the one your family wants for you is. Which will you prefer? I'm only asking since I'm on this kind of situation, and it really sucks... It's like I have no freedom at all whether what to choose... If you'll ask for my age... it's 21....
2006-07-08 14:21:50 · 34 answers · asked by ChocoCrumble 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Anyways, there's no another guy -_-" ...
2006-07-08 14:37:11 · update #1
The one you love!
2006-07-08 14:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough spot. But I guess you are also lucky because you have two guys that want to spend the rest of their lives with you. Someday, you need to finish chewing through your umbilical cord and make your own decisions. Unless you are planning on living at home forever, then I'd go with the man you love. Now if you are going to live at home, then go with the rich guy, cause he'll be able to build you a house so large that your whole family can move in. In matters of love, don't think but rather go with your heart. Just remember that you'll never have enough money no matter how rich the guy is. But love, well love, it can't be bought.
2006-07-08 14:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. Wait to you find a guy that everyone loves. And figure out if you only love the guy your family doesn't like because..well, they don't like him. Do a little soul searching. If you make to quick a decision, you could ruin a part of your life or spend years in a loveless relationship and you certainly don't want to be unhappy all your years because you can't live accustomed to how you've been living. Money is a big issue for married couples, especially when you don't have it.
2006-07-08 14:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by Gia S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one that you love of course, you can not marry a person you don't love, how would you live with YOURSELF knowing that you made the wrong decision and now your life is screwed. How about creating a family? I think not. You don't want to bring kids into a lie. And as your family is conserned, they are not the ones who are going to marry this person, YOU ARE, so they should have no say in this matter. Do what is best for you and your future, not what is more convenient for others.
2006-07-08 14:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I chose the man that my family didn't like. Mostly my mother. Even though we're going through some rocky times, I never regretted because he was and still is the love of my life. We have a beautiful daughter and the years we had together I will always treasure.Your parents want you to have better. Just remember you're still young and if this is someone to be with, it's all or nothing. You have to stick it out through all the poor times, especially if you're used to a different lifestyle. Just be sure that is the decision you want to make now, in your life
2006-07-08 14:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by size499 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even ask this question? If your feelings for each of them are so weak that you feel like you could choose between them, then neither one is right for you. If you feel like you could actually leave this guy you "love" because he isn't rich and your family doesn't like him, then you don't really love him, plain and simple. How will you know when you're really in love? You'll stop asking yourself these kind of questions.
2006-07-08 21:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by smurfette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy you love...but only if you see that he's working on his future with you too. He may not be rich but a hardworker will definitely get somewhere eventually...if he's a bum...that's still ok if you are willing to work to feed him....although I won't totally agree with it. As for the guy you don't love...well what is there to think about? If there is nothing there...at all ...then why do you even have to think about it? Tell your family if they love him so much to go and marry him...but you won't be something they can sell off like that! Crazy family!
2006-07-08 14:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether you are getting married to him right away.
I don't think that's likely, so go ahead and date him. You can only learn, even if it's a mistake. You are 21 so you have the right to choose. As long you don't get into too much trouble, you really should go for him. Your family will have to come around. You are an adult so act like one, and be the one to decide. :) Best of Luck. It seems you need it.
2006-07-08 14:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Niether. Wait for the person that you have complete chemistry with. That includes everyone that's important to you. There's probably some good reason that your family doesn't like the one guy that you can't see because you are blinded by the "love fog" as I like to call it. Just remember, when you're 85 years old and wrinkled up and have no teeth, it's much better to be married to someone who was your best friend all along instead of hoping the "dreamy" person you got the hots for turns into your best friend along the way.
2006-07-08 14:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by BigFud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are more rich to be in love hun. If your family cared for you how they should they would respect and cherish your decision to be with love above all else and being happy. Ultimately this is a person that you will be living with and loving back. One you hope to spend the rest of your days with. Money may help but it does not buy love no matter how much you have. Tell your family to love the person you love because you love him and be happy for you.
2006-07-08 15:41:26 · answer #10 · answered by pryde_kennels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The obvious answer is the one you love. If you chose otherwise, you're a divorce waiting to happen. You do not "grow" to love a person, and unless you can live in a loveless marriage for the sake of not offending your family (who, can not live your life OR make you happy in "that" way, I might add), then you need to really consider your motives for marriage in the first place.
2006-07-08 16:03:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋