Teen 19--don't work on prob did not grad but excpects it ALL!!
2006-07-08 14:18:42 · 25 answers · asked by oceanwaves 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have the same exact thing going on in my home! Don't listen to the "it is all you fault" folks....we have been in therapy for 5 years and after my step-sons 5th arrest, suspended liscense, 3rd car accident, dropping out of school, knocking up a 14 year old!, dropping out of school, etc..our therapist looked my husband and I in the eye and told us that this is as good as it get with him. Sometimes good parents have not-so-good kids. We have 3 other children and ALL are the complete polar opposite of their sibling. Hey, I can feel your pain and if you ever need to talk or just need somebody who will listen you can email me ANYTIME at chef_n_jo@yahoo.com. Please, support is the best thing for YOU right now!
2006-07-08 14:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by MaHaa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know I just have to say that it makes me laugh to hear you all talk this way. We are certainly turning into our parents aren't we? I hear my mom and her new husband dealing with their 22 year old daughter living with them and they say the same things.
It is important to remember that we were them when we were that age. They are not so much disrespectful or stupid - they truly don't have any clue. School does not teach children to understand what it means to live in the real world. They truly believe that it is your job to give them what they want and need. They are learning to be adults - they have no frame of reference.
Isn't there a way for us to laugh and lovingly teach them what they need to know? I am almost 40 but my kids are small (3 & 5) and I am going to homeschool them. I am hoping that they will come out with a better understanding of the world this way, by living in it and not being sheltered in school. I mean that kind of environment just doesn't exist anywhere else - where people watch what you wear and know who you date and that you once threw up in class, had acne, were fat or whatever.
Let's guide our kids toward jobs that give them further education (like kelly services will help you with basic office and computer skills, etc.) Or give them a deadline and rules to live by. My sister got to be 18 and just didn't like the rules in the house and she moved out - did all her stupid early 20 stuff well away from my mother's watchful eye, which was the best thing for both of them.
Remember what it was like to be 20. Remember what your friends went through, etc. Now is when you need your patience and trust in yourself, that you raised your kid right and that they will do the right thing. They are done school - you have done your job. Now it is there turn - have faith!
Peace!
2006-07-08 22:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is anyone with a teenager that likes them. Meaning they go from innocent babies and that takes 12 years. then they turn into teens and there monsters. They drive, drink, somke an in my situation she dont want nomore 11 pm curfue. she hates restrictions and school. Now your stress levels go crazy. then just when you get your blood pressure under control they turn into adults and life gets a little better but you still have to get your blood pressure checked. they move out call you about there troubles its one thing after another. I have three children and between all of them i dont know if im coming or going. I hope that answers your question and makes you feel better. oh by the way what is going on with your teen let me know. tina
2006-07-08 21:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by TINA M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've read all the awful racist questions and the stupid ones but yours is the saddest and most disturbing.
Don't like their kids? Liking has nothing to do with being a parent so get it out of your vocabulary.
Maybe it's time for a little break for both of you. You sound stressed. Do you have a parent helpline in your city? Check it out. Get counselling.
I have a girl fifteen, she cracks me up with the way her brain works and then the rest of the time I am bouncing off the walls with frustration and anger. Teens are just plain fascinating.
2006-07-08 21:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by grapeshenry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have moments when I do not like them but I always LOVE them.
Oh, my heart trembles for you, you sound like me last month!
Boys, 12, 14 and 16 almost 17.
Not enough details but do not give in! You are the parent!
Please more details, maybe somebody can help!
2006-07-08 21:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by LN has3 zjc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll get alot of Yes answers on this one!! Teenage years are really difficult. They're kids, but they're not. They're dependent, but they aren't. They're young, but want to be older. They show maturity in some things, but in most....not! It's awful and you aren't alone! Just set boundaries, do your best to stick to them, and try to not go for the jugular! They need the boundaries as long as they're home and yes, it's a fight, put your boxing gloves on and get ready! lol
2006-07-08 21:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never stops either.. mine are 25 and 21 and more disrespectful now than at 18 or 19... and still think I owe them the world....
2006-07-08 21:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by vanitysusa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason I'm not having kids, cute babies turn into unruly teenagers! lol Hope for your sake your teen grows out of this stage.
2006-07-08 21:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by CZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate my kids they're little monsters. They always run around the house yelling and they throw things around and they're so messy! I don't care if they are 3 years old, I will not tolerate this anymore!
2006-07-08 21:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by w00terz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a condition of them doing something positive: taking GED classes and/or volunteering, getting a job, as a condition of still living with you.
2006-07-08 21:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mira Bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋