I've been seeing a guy from work since April. We started off as friends then ended up as friends w/benefits and neither of us liked that so we decided to work on the relationship. So far it's like we're just friends. We don't talk everyday after work like I have in past relationships, we hang out a couple times a week if that and it just doesn't feel like a relationship. On top of that he's really critical of the things I do or say and sometimes he really makes me feel like crap but I can't find a way to tell him this since we NEVER talk. My friends have told me to get rid of him and everytime I try I end up backing out. Normally I'm not like this and I'd say "see ya" to any guy who treated me like this, I don't know why I can't here. So I've decided to ask for the advice of others. . .thanks!
2006-07-08 13:42:18 · 17 answers · asked by punky8011 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After reading some of the answers I realized that I forgot to mention that when we agreed to work on the relationship we also agreed to not have sex anymore. I really don't mind being friends with him at all but he's a crappy boyfriend and I'm having a hard time telling him that. . .ugh
2006-07-08 13:55:15 · update #1
Its hard to go from friends with benefits to bf /gf the appeal of getting to know each other has already been done..As for his behavior hun drop him since you and he agreed not to have sex he is loosing interest sex was your only connection to him and without it the two of you's have nothing, I'm not quite sure why you have lost your self with this guy but I have been there and it isnt wise let him know everything is on your mind whether he wants to losten or not..But seriously you need to tell him that the relationship aspect of things isnt going to work and you think its best if you end things now before hard feelings happen between the two of you..Next time hun remember sex does cause complications and if you develope feelings for the "friend" it makes things harder to end..I have been there and it is no fun when someone ends up with feelings for the other, But tell him goodbye and open those eyes Mr. Right is probably waiting right beside you and you havent even noticed him...Good Luck
2006-07-08 14:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by shell b 3 · 20⤊ 7⤋
I am going through that type of relationship right now not really much of a title kinda sorta exclusive go out every now and then always has something negative to say like whats wrong with your shirt or what happened to your hair the only reason still around because the absolute bonified sh*t in the bed, cant leave it alone!
2006-07-08 13:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Andy29Pandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is dead. There is no relationship here. I think you know it or you would not be so concern. Always remember a good relationship makes each partner happy not depressed and always wondering what is going on. And I think he is feeling the same concerns your are. You need to end the relationship and explain to him what you just told us. ( That it doesn't feel like a relationship)
2006-07-08 13:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why you are not suppose to get involved with someone that you work with. Because when things go sour. You will still have to see that person on a daily basis. But if he is being a douchbag. Just kick his *** to the curb. I guess you will eventually get over seeing his *** every day at work.
2006-07-08 13:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by The_Answer_Man™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play the relationship forward. Where do you see it in one year? Five? People don't drastically change. The critical thing would be a deal breaker for me. It leads to low self-esteem and depression. Do yourself a favor and find a happy, positive guy.
2006-07-08 13:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by mwardmward 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is based on sex and nothing else. You never took the time to become emotionally intimate. You are not friends and this is going no where.
Kick him to the curb (kick him hard) Don't wait for him to do it.
2006-07-08 13:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by Meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this guy does'nt want to take the relationship to the next level...if your looking for more than a friend w/benefits, then kick him to the curb! Good luck..
2006-07-08 13:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by tim b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would listen to your friends.
Get some confidence, and learn to respect yourself enough to know when you should leave.
You already know the problem, now execute the solution.
He'll only hurt you in the end, apparently he's doing it all along the way.
You are worthy! Move on and up.
That's the best I can do.
2006-07-08 13:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by val schmal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, there was never a real boyfriend/girlfriend relationship going on. You don'y need to be treated like that. Especially, when there are more men out there.
2006-07-08 13:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by dream109893 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you sould kick him to the curb if he all he dose is make you feel like crap when you talk to him sometimes.I would send him alittle note that says we need to talk.about our friendship I like you and all but if youre going to contenue to treat me like crap every time we talk then, i dont want to be ur friend anymore C-ya latter.
2006-07-08 13:51:27 · answer #10 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get the words out of you mouth, send him a "Dear John" email or "Dear John" letter or a card, but he's needs to go.
2006-07-08 13:48:44 · answer #11 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋