how do you discipline a 19month old toddler?

Question

he is into everything including the fridge, table and chairs and even every cuboard. We are at our wits end i have tried smacking him giving him time out in his room he just dosn't seem to undertstand the word no. I cry every time cause i just don't know what to do PLEASE HELP ME???????

Answer 1

dont even try to discipline him/her.
let her grow this way....uninhibited.
he/she should not harm himself.....its ur duty.
cheers

Answer 2

LOCKS , LOCKS , LOCKS and take things like his favorite toy for a day , but place it where he can see it , when he ask Remind him why he can not have it ... He understands no , he seen you break down ! Don't do that in front of him , he felt he has control at that time .When he does listen , give him a very big hug , say things like I am so proud of my big boy , look at you cleaning up your toys , give him things to do , he likes the fridge , ok , say that is food we need to make a special treat , want to help ? Then let him have cookie dough , if he eats some ok ! Yea , join in . If he continue after you've done your best lock ups , Watch Nanny on TV , she repeatably puts the child in the time out chair every time he gets up ! NO means NO . You must get him to respect No from you or things will get worse , he may run and you say no , but run faster into danger ( Street , parking lot , or get hurt in the house ) . My daughter had a couple of Hard children , I took them for 3 days , and they love coming here now , but at first it was HELLo Grandma Nanny here ! Smacking the hand is the last thing , they say never hit a child , but the butt or hand will have an impact .Not bruising hard spanking , but sit in the chair , don't try me , I'm the mother your the child !

Answer 3

Put locks on everything you don't want him into first off, and completely rearrange the house if you have to, so that things you don't want him to get into are inaccessible. Time outs are hard at this age, but a NO and a smack or flip on the hand that hurts enough for him to understand can work. But you have to be consistent, and catch him as much as you can which can be hard if he is as energetic as he sounds!

Also designate an area where he can get into things as much as he wants. Then when you say "Your room (or wherever) is your place for playing, not the fridge/cupboards!" you are giving him an alternative, which maybe he won't prefer, but at least there is one. Good luck! Hang in there! He will understand the basics if you are clear.

Answer 4

There's a great book called, "Happiest Toddler on the Block". The author is a pediatrician and he gives some good advice on how to deal with this type of behavior.

Toddlers like to explore...this is how the learn about the world. You have to be consistent in your discipline. Don't let him get away with it one day and then yell at him the next (I'm not saying that you are doing that, just had to bring it up). A firm "NO!" and then DISTRACTION worked for my toddler. I also suggest that you should one cabinet in the kitchen that he can play in. Fill it with Tupperware and other non-fragile items.

Best of luck! BTW, you're not a dumb-ass like someone else said. The world is not "child-proofed" and you shouldn't have to do it to your home! How will your child learn if you don't allow mishaps?

Answer 5

The behavior you describe is entirely typical for his age. Put childproof latches on the places you want to keep him out of and let him explore the rest. At this age, he has no impulse control and he really doesn't understand no. Try just redirecting him to appropriate activities, and try not to lose your cool. After you feed him lunch, read him a book and put him down for a nap. Then you go rest. A 20 minute power nap can do wonders when dealing with an active toddler.

Answer 6

At 19 months I wouldn't recommend spanking yet, but a slap on the hands anytime he got into something he wasn't supposed to would really help. Just grab his wrist and slap his hand and say "no" and he'll learn not to get into things anymore. Time outs are a joke because those have to be taught to the child. You have to teach them to sit before the discipline can start working. Don't waste your time with time outs, spanking (or in this case slapping the hands) works every time.

Answer 7

he is trying to discover the world and you want to discipline him at 19 months? C'mon...let us be serious... Be a loving mother and just let him be . It is way too early trying to make him do what pleases you rather than let him do what pleases him...Help him grow by showing how things work....play with him joyfully...there will be a time in which you would give an arm and a leg to have him come back to you as he is now..so enjoy your son as the best thing that happened in your life....of course it takes some sacrifice....but you are a mother MOTHER is wonderful.

Answer 8

You don't discipline so much at this age as you have to play with them constantly ...and if they do something wrong you say NO and remove them from the situation. A 19 month old can not be left unsupervised for a minute.

Answer 9

hi my daughter just turned 20 monthes.
tell him no-no and shake your finger 2 times. he will catch on.
go 2 walmart and buy a fridge lock. just got one $1.86. he will be confused and mad but he'll forget about it. it's not fun anymore. it took 3 days.
time out chair. his room isolates him. ours is in the livingroom. now she goes to it when she is naughty.
don't cry bay, it will be ok. if you have to smack it just needs to shock them. real quick. tap of the hand or the butt.
let him go in the cupbords. put your pots&pans,tupperware and canned goods down there. breakables up top. he will be stacking and matching before u no it. or buy the locks from walmart, i saw them when i was there.
you have to let him no who has the upper-hand.
remember you are raising an adult. just breathe........
hope this helps!

Answer 10

my nephew is like that, hes 1 1/2 and my sister really hates to spank him and she puts him in time out for 2 minutes. put him in a chair in the middle of the floor where he cant play with anything. and when he trys getting down put him right back up there dont give in. then he will learn that if he gets into things he gets time out.

Answer 11

you and put locks on them.That he cant open. with my middle son. I put lock on the fridge like look like a belt. he could not figure out to unlock. sit him on the couch with the TV off. if you keeps getting up. you just have to keep sitting him there still he knows he is not aloud to get up. he does understand no . he just doesn't want to listen. you cant give in because the know how to push your buttons even at a young age.