What do you wish you had done differently with planning and/or at your wedding (I am starting the process)?

Answer 1

I wish I would have had a professional photographer.

Answer 2

I probably would have done a smaller, destination wedding. Like Hawaii or something, then everyone would've just had a big 'ol vacation too!

No matter what you do, just make sure you enjoy your day though. Enjoy the process of planning your wedding, don't get so wrapped up in all the little details that you lose sight of why you're doing all this in the first place. Remember your wedding is just 1 day, but your marriage will hopefully last your lifetime. Best of wishes to you!

Answer 3

I have four sisters so my dad was always worried about how he was going to pay for five elaborate weddings + college tuition etc. We were all given a choice we could have the wedding we wanted "the wedding every little girl dreams of" with in reason, or my dad would give us 25K rather than host an elaborate wedding that he probably could not accomplish for that amount or under. My oldest sister married first, she chose the money and they used it to get completely out of credit card debt, which made the beggining of ther marriage much less complicated. I was the secoond to marry, i also chose the money, then we eloped taking 20 friends with us. we were married in New orleans and jsut partied with friends, it was inexpensive and we used the money from my family as a down payment on a house (the best way I have ever spent money), my baby sister married next, she chose the money , my second to oldest married and chose the money. My second to youngest sister just could not give up the dream wedding she had envisioned for so long. It was a beautiful wedding, the food was delicious, she had a great band to dance to and also 6 piece orchestra, for early music, the most beautifull cake i have ever seen. everything was perfect, it was the prettiest and most fun wedding i have ever attentded, it was a cinderral storybook wedding, with doves flying, everything right down to the horse drawn carriage.

She is still married four years later but they are discussing divorce, they always have money problems depsite his law degree and her teaching position. They fight over paying off is incredible student loans, she wants a baby but he says they cannot afford one. They still rent b/c they cannpt save enough to put down on a house. She tells me everyday how much she regret not taking the money and using it towards something long lasting. It was a beautiful wedding, but as the bride she was so nervous & excited, she never ate the wonderful food, cannot even remember what was served, she has trouble recalling any of the good moments of the wedding, she only remembers the things tha went wrong.

A wedding can be very expensive and it is very short in duration, if you have the opportunity to use the money on something else I would do that and have a simple ceremony.

The only thing I would do different is I would have a destination wedding on a beach somewhere, still would not be elaborate, and i woulld not spend myself into debt, would invite immediate family & very close friends only

Congratulations & good luck

Answer 4

This is going to be a stressful time in your relationship. I am in the middle of planning my wedding right now. All I can say is try to enjoy the whole process and don't get too caught up in the details. It is supposed to be a fun things but at times it won't seem like it. Try your best to relax and not worry about too much!!!
The first and most stressful thing is finding a venue and a caterer, once you do that everything else should be pretty easy
I hope everything turns out beautiful!!

Answer 5

I don't think I would have done a thing differently. What really worked out well for me is that I expressed at the beginning what all my wishes and desires were. If someone else (my mother, his mother, him, whoever.... ) had an idea that they just really felt they had to have, and it differed from mine, I just let it go and let them have their way if it was really important to them. My mantra was this, "All that really matters is that at the end of the day, we'll be married. That's what I'm trying to do here, get married. It's much more important than staging a wedding." Pretty much everyone got their way on what really mattered to them. My husband and I never had one disagreement on any of it, and we refused to get involved when our parents disagreed. We stepped back and smiled and chanted our mantra. Eventually, they realized our position. We have been married 21 years. Our wedding is a beautiful memory, even if every single thing about it isn't exactly what I would have started out wanting.

Answer 6

Our wedding was simply lovely - everything went smoothly and everyone had a wonderful time. 3 things I would highly suggest to you: 1) Make sure you have high quality food. Splurge on the food. If your guests are eating a great meal - they will be happy all night long and will remember your wedding for years to come. We went all out on the hors d'eourves and entrees - and people kept coming up to us saying what a classy and beautiful wedding it was. 2) Get lots of pictures taken - we did that, but honestly, we could've done even more. Grab your friends and have them take portraits with you, it's really something to remember. 3) Be sure and hire a videographer - I didn't originally want one but my hubby did and ours was simply amazing - he stayed out of the way but got the entire ceremony on film, as well as the reception and it's just beautiful to watch. It was so cool seeing everybody there, enjoying themselves...and it's so much better then a still photograph.

Answer 7

I wish that I hadn't listened to everyone else's input. My husband and I were doing fine with the planning when everyone else around us started butting in and complaining. We made a few changes that I wished we hadn't to the menu and music. Also, I wish I would have worn a red gown, instead of white. White is not my best color, but damn I look good in red. I suggest that you pay for and plan your own wedding, just the two of you. I had a good time planning my wedding with my husband, it was when our mother's got involved that it became stressful. Good luck.

Answer 8

make your wedding your own affair, don't listen to everyones good advice and go with it just because you feel you have to. Be aware that alot of people will tell you what you should or shouldnt do, who you should invite or shouldnt etc. They will say how they do not like the colours, flowers etc. Try keeping the colour theme a secret till the wedding day, it will give everyone something to look forward to.
Know what you want, and dont let anyone stray you away from that. Remember it is your's and your partners day.

Answer 9

I wished I would have been less nervous on the big day and enjoyed it more, because it's goes by sooo quick. I was nervous about the walk down the aisle and just having all of the attention on me, not about getting married. Try to enjoy every minute of the planning, too, it does go by fast. And it's a once in a lifetime experience, hopefully.

Answer 10

I wish I would have taken the time to enjoy all of it. I was so caught up in all the planning, that I never really sat back and enjoyed the engagement time or the wedding it self. Good luck!!!!

Answer 11

I wish for it to be a small celebration but a big one in the same time, since i am commiting my life to another person besides myself. I would invite all my closest friends and family and it would be in a beautiful location that everyone could enjoy. I would want to look beautiful and have a beautiful gown but most important of all i would want to be having a beautiful time and enjoy every minute of it. I would want a nice wedding cake and reception afterwards. Then i would want to have a white limo take me and my new spouse to are hotel where we would relax and devote all are love and time to one another and then we would have are honeymoon in a place we both agree upon. But most of all i would want to have a happy marriage.