I must admit, although I have always had confidence, lately I have been lacking confidence in my appearance and attractiveness. I met a guy however and we've become really good friends, we hung out every day at school and even though we got teased about being a couple we didn't care, we just ignored it said it wasn't true. After a while, I felt bad because I developed a crush on him, and I thought just maybe he may like me. Unfortunatley, I cannot tell. We talk, and on the topic of dating he has said to my friends that he doesn't have anyone specific in mind when thinking of who he'll first ask on a date when he's older(I was with him, and I felt bad when he said it)and he has said other things under the topic "when I have a girlfriend" and it doesn't sound like it'll be me, yet through everything that i've read elsewhere, he's given me the signs of major flirting, always talking to me and the possibility of liking me...sorry to ask really, but any thoughts?
2006-07-08 13:07:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the nice responses guys, I appreciate this advice!
I have to add though, that many of his friends tell me they think he likes me, he gets somewhat angry when I hang out with other guys, and tells me that he is going to move to Europe someday with his other good friend, and he wants me to come too. I honestly didn't and wasn't ever truly convinced that he liked me, but I still want to be his friend, although I feel very attatched and somewhat hurt when he talks about dating "a girl" someday...does this make sense?I just want to know, should I end the friendship soon if I start getting hurt a lot?
2006-07-08 14:39:46 · update #1
I've been through a similar situation and if there is one piece of advice that will save the friendship. Never expect anything, don't get your hopes up. Simply bring up the topic in casual conversation. I'm sure hes a great guy and really fun to be with, this doesn't necessarily make him the right person for you. If he doesn't have feelings for you, don't worry, theres plenty of guys out there.
2006-07-08 13:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by dream109893 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to hear it, but if you really like him and he's got you that confused, you probably just need to talk to him. Be honest; tell him how you're feeling, and that you're having a hard time reading him. It's so much easier than trying to decode everything he says, and then - even if you don't hear what you're hoping for - at least you'll know.
2006-07-08 20:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just be a nice guy and his being kind to you helps you feel better about yourself, it doesn't mean he's interested in you. The only way to know for sure if he likes you is to ask him. I know you are afraid of the answer, but isn't it better to know then to always wonder. As far as your self-esteem, maybe you shoudl consider therapy.
2006-07-08 20:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think this is so sweet and interesting because i can relate to this i have been through this for the past year and a few months and i was feeling the same way you are feeling rite now and to tell you the truth it really was love but it just took me some time
2006-07-08 20:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by sweetness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that I can recommend is just come out and ask him. Just say...ya know we've been friends for awhile and was wondering would you be interested in goin out or something.
2006-07-08 20:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you...
2006-07-08 20:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by anglewicz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he did not like you then he would not flirt with you
2006-07-08 20:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋